10 ways to become solution focused with Neuro linguistic programming | NLP is Fun

It is possible to live at cause using Neuro linguistic programming.

As NLP'ers we speak a lot about feeling Powerful, being powerful and living at Cause to create the life that we deserve.
We speak of living at Cause and not effect.

Living at cause = feeling and being in control of your life, "I cause this to happen" I am in charge of my life, I have the capability to choose, make a difference etc.

Living at Effect = feeling Powerless, "This happens to me" People are in control of me and my circumstances.

When being in control even if dark skies seemingly loom ahead because you are "at Cause" you are looking for the light. this becomes a filter, in your thinking and expectations and naturally in your behavior and unconscious choices.

Nadia Harper Neuro linguistic programming Trainer and Coach.

How would your life change if you unconsciously filter a commitment to seeking the light? 

Here are 10 ways to become solution focused with Neuro linguistic programming.

1. Keep your radar tuned in to discovering the light because it has to be there somewhere.

2. Speak your own power into being "I can, I will, I am" capable.

3. See yourself as worthwhile, able, capable build up to powerful.

4. Become solution oriented, only focus on the solution and it will become a filter in all your do and how you think and also resolve.

5. Let go of the problem, disengage your kinesthetic responses and learn the structure of how the problem was created.

6. See the construct as pliable either way. Towards a solution or against a solution.

7. Decide the direction you will focus on and assert your power only to back up your commitment to resolution.

8. Do not allow anything to dissuade you from reaching your outcome.

9. Create mental drills that support your outcome.

10. Feel the shift ahead of time and act as if this is true.

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Happy Thanks Giving Thanks | NLP is Fun

Happy Thanks giving. I am grateful for so much. Today as Everyday all day. 
I am giving Thanks for my beautiful family and great friends. 

Students and Clients alike who are like family always.
I am grateful to have been blessed to do what i love and to have impacted the lives of many people for the better.

I am grateful always as a student and advocate of a. better life and improvement for myself and all. I am thankful for this.

I am grateful that to be kind and loving is a choice always no matter what.

I aspire to always choose it.

I am grateful, for all I have overcome and mastered in my own life and have been able to share my philosophies of mind mastery with so many other people.

I am grateful for how Hypnosis and Neuro Linguistic programming have changed my life in profound and exciting ways and continue to be my love and my staple for over 25 years now.

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I am humbled and grateful for my understanding of consciousness and my qualified mastery of energy technologies. 

I am grateful for my 30-year journey as a Healer and Shaman for being a practitioner of Massage therapies, Hypnotherapy, Healing touch, Reiki, Crystal Therapies, Crystal Jeweler blessing and making, healing and Holistic Healing to name but a few.

I am grateful for having an open heart.

I am grateful to have taught so many to open their heart and how this transformed their whole experience. Relationships, circumstances.

I am grateful for all the resources available to me with my beautiful mind and heart connected and being brave enough to trust my Intuition for good of all.

I am grateful I learned how to love myself, I am thankful for internal peace and oneness with amazing Nature.

I am grateful for my connection and understanding of Almighty God, The Field, The Universe, The Unconscious Mind, the great I Am, and All that it ..

I am Thankful. I am grateful for so much more
How about you, what are you Thankful for I bet you have so many things too.

And last and definitely not ever least. I am Thankful to you Thank you for being a part of my NLP is Fun blogging journey.

From my heart to yours.

Happy Thanks giving Thanks 

Nadia x

NLP Modeling Exercise | NLP is Fun

Here is a fun way to use NLP to become better at building a skill. In Neuro linguistic programming we call this "Modeling" because we are learning from a role model.

Have a go at making NLP easy and fun, and you can do this is by keeping it simple in the following way.
Credit for this NLP Modeling exercise goes to Richard Bandler co Creator of Neuro lingistic programming 'NLP" .

One of my favourite  things to do is to cook Jamaican food and I modeled my Auntie who used to cook delicious Jamaican food for us that felt great in our hearts and Tummies.
Here is a dish that I cooked recently, and I have become so good at cooking Jamaican food that I also am called to cook many times for my friends and family.

Although I have no plans to own a restaurant, I have successfully catered many private events. Part of the reason is I actually love cooking the food of my heritage.

It is a wonderful anchor that reminds me of great days long gone. As I cook I get to recreate memories for my friends and family and the joy they experience delights me.

Are you ready to become a Modeler ?

Step 1:
Decide what the skill is that you would like to learn or decide on a person you admire and would love to behave like.
Find all media to review and make yourself comfortable and relaxed while reviewing all, and remember the more relaxed you are the more your unconscious mind will easily adopt the behavior.
Notice all Visuals - Auditary - Kinesthetic - Olfactory - Gustatory components. 
Observe - Relax - Familiarize the What

Step 2:
When you feel as if you are fully present in the components of this persons actions.
Close your eyes and relax Visualize them doing it with all amplified sensory awareness of their behavior and what they do and how they do it.
Notice all Visuals - Auditary - Kinesthetic - Olfactory - Gustatory components.
Relax - Visualize - Amplify - Notice the How

Step 3:
After you feel as if you have "Got it" then "step in to them and Act as if" you can see through their eyes fully associated to all of their mastery
Step into - Act as if - Experience
Notice all Visuals - Auditary - Kinesthetic - Olfactory - Gustatory components.
Explore in 3D repeat several times noting your discoveries as a strategy for yourself.
Step in to - Explore - Notice

Step 4:
Run again from your own associated position and repeat several times until you can do it without trying too hard.
Notice all Visuals - Auditary - Kinesthetic - Olfactory - Gustatory components.
Repeat - Improve - Adjust

Step 5:
Step out of your persons body completely and retain the applied process integrated into your own natural processes
Notice all Visuals - Auditary - Kinesthetic - Olfactory - Gustatory components.
and re-run this over and over again, improving every single time.
Notice all Visuals - Auditary - Kinesthetic - Olfactory - Gustatory components.
Adopt - Adapt - Run - Improve

Step 7:
Repeat the whole exercise over again and do daily for a month
Notice all Visuals - Auditary - Kinesthetic - Olfactory - Gustatory components.
Perfect - Repeat - 30 days

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NLP Future Pace| NLP is Fun

When we have achieved a desired change using a Neuro linguistic programming Pattern we then want to make sure the desired result is set in our unconscious and conscious congruent processes.

We can find out if we are integrating these new NLP Patterns by Future pacing an Imagined unpleasant scenario to find out how well we respond using the new patterns.

This is so simple and here is how:

Imagine a less than resourceful Trigger, that in the past you would have had a negative response to.
Fully Associate to this experience without getting lost in it, just pop in using Visual Auditary Kinesthetic Olfactory Gustatory responses.

Were you satisfied with the way you responded ?

If you were satisfied, test a few more situations that would have caused you grief in the past and find out if you have new responses that you like now there too.

If you have the same responses as before doing the NLP Pattern, then go back to the NLP pattern (you were working on) until you experience a positive and resourceful shift.

When you feel you have shifted into the desired state using the Neuro linguistic programming pattern then future pace again.

Now experience any scenerio's you wanted to double check your progress on and notice you are able to have a completely different response than before.

The new response is resourceful and maintains your desired result and is integrated unconsciously into your selections.

Have you had success with NLP Future pacing before, if so leave your comments as to your discoveries using this technique.

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There is no such thing as Failure only Feedback | NLP is Fun

In Neuro Linguistic Programming we have established a few Presuppositions which we call the NLP Presuppositions, and many of them I have written about already.

Today I will discuss another one which is:
"There is No Failure only Feedback"

When things do not go as we planned them, it can seem normal to feel disappointment, Anger sadness or even Frustration after all we all have our own emotions.
We may have put so much effort towards the outcome that we even feel like giving up or that we have done a bad job and shouldn't even try again.

I call this a downward spiral and I have experienced it myself, it is quite normal.

To feel a wide range of emotions is normal and let's you know that you are alive so to feel your emotions is fine. What I have also found is that to feel your emotions for an extended amount of time causes other problems.

That is why I call it a downward spiral as it begins to go downward very quickly sucking in other bits with it and before you know it you could be telling yourself a very sad story about your current situation.

That is just not practical or efficient for anybody. so after you have suffered a loss, instead of going Full on Downward spiral take all experience as feedback.

If you got the result you want great, things are on track if you did not get your outcome, modify your approach until you achieve your Target.

Consider your result practical feedback or Feed forward and you get to choose how you will respond to it.

If you consider it 

a practice run, then the next time you go for it you already have some experience. Experience is like a layering effect. The more you do it, the better you can become at it.
Remember Test Operate Test Operate = The Tote Model  

If you want to know my thoughts about failure click here to read Failure is Final 

Neuro linguistic programming is about improving your subjective reality which will improve your overall experience.

The best way to improve your experience is to practice using Neuro linguistic patterns that allow choice to become a normal part of your reality, and then choose a behavior that supports your outcome.

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NLP | It is all about the Patterns | NLP is fun

Neuro Linguistic Programming is all about the patterns.
The pattern of behavior that we can call a strategy.

Each Pattern serves an unconscious purpose.
Some patterns work well to get what you want
Some patterns work well to stop you from getting what you want
Some Patterns work well to improve your life
Some patterns work well to destroy your life

It is easier to notice other peoples behavior 
We normally are aware of what others do right or wrong.
Frequently we choice to focus on what they do right or wrong depending on our own Metaprogrammes which are filters we use based on our own expectations.
Our own internal codes of consciousness, if you like.

Make a decision to explore your own patterns of behavior 
We can begin to notice our own patterns.

The things that:
Work for us
Trigger us
and cause our internal Maps and consciousness to change.

It is easier to notice patterns without getting caught up in the reasons for them
Neuro linguistic programming is about how we code our experience, and this causes our consciousness to evolve.
One way or another.

In order to effect positive change drop all judgement, focus on the desired state instead

Also some people believe
They are at Effect, in fact  Powerful NLP'ers believe they are "at effect".

Cause and Effect:
You have the power to change anything no matter what happens.

When you are Living in Effect -- Life happens to you, and you say you have little control of your circumstances.

When you live "at Cause", you believe you are the driver and capable of transforming any of your circumstances.

You can decide right now, not to allow your circumstances to Hypnotize you into living "at effect".

Real eyes .....
I did not say it would be easy because it is not easy until it is.

Make it Easy now 
Did you know, when you say "This is easy", you unconscious mind learns to respond as if it is easy.
Magic doors suddenly appear out of thin air and open for you.

Interesting isn't it.
You and when I say you, I mean your mind, is capable of so much more than any of us know.

Begin to notice yourself changing your Internal coding by using your senses
Visual
Auditory
Kinesthetic
Olfactory / Gustatory to focus on things that excite and delight you.

You can change your own internal coding too 
You can do it right now or just as soon as you like.
You are in charge, of your internal representations.

Having Fun with NLP Training | NLP is Fun

When I first created NLP is Fun my Intention was to share the idea that Neuro Linguistic programming can be helpful to anybody.

We are given such an extensive variety of choice with these amazing techniques. Initially when people have completed NLP Training they may feel overwhelmed or not know consciously where to begin and also some people are trying their hardest to learn NLP via Books and Video.

While these are a great start, having information shared with an Expert who has been studying, Training and Coaching with NLP for years is going to help you to experience NLP in a way that will put it all together for you.
When you have a more associated framework with NLP you can begin to apply it in your own life first. If you do it like that you will get stacks more information out of each exercise.
So many times people may consciously be aware of things and yet, not use them in their own life.

If you want to Learn NLP then begin to use NLP and make it entertaining, Fun and interesting .. that is where you will get the most out of it.
My whole premise is let's get a little crazy and let our hair down to have a whole new experience. how about you expect the unexpected in your own life.

Can life be fun and yet you learn lots of new helpful info quickly ?
In my book this is the best way to pack our unconscious minds full of Infinite Possibilities.
How else will we ever truly get it
Changes require changes ...

Within this little  NLP Blog there are more than 200  Empowering articles to help you along. Do the exercises provided and change your Neurology.
You can do it for sure.

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Speak soon,

Nadia.

NLP Glossary | NLP is Fun

I invite you to read the NLP Glossary of common terms on NLP is Fun in Las Vegas. Here you can find answers for maybe something you have heard somebody using before but maybe you were not sure what it meant. You can click though here .

Some of you already know this and perhaps some have not seen it yet. Either way Bookmark it if you like.

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Here are 100 Reasons to Learn NLP and there are many more than that but hey, this is a start.

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Our next class is in October 2015 and is Experienced and Installed with Fun and interested ways to learn Neuro linguistic programming in a way that attendees find both conscious and unconscious many say this is extremely satisfying to demystify NLP making it  fun and easy to learn.

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Focus on Possibility | NLP is Fun

How many times have you believed that something is Impossible
Too Big to happen for you
It is Impossible ... You say to yourself
How come then It is Possible for somebody else ?
We all create and design our lives in the same way.

Everything we achieve is first created with:
An Idea.
A Thought
A sequence of thoughts
A Plan
A commitment to the plan
Action
Resilience
Persistence
Belief in the outcome
Belief in your capability
Belief in whether or not you deserve to have it
And ongoing calibration and progress.

Or No Action at all and a series of arguments in support of all the limitations between you and your Goal.

Build up your own Possibility Channels, so that Possible becomes your natural and unconscious way of
Thinking
Expecting
Behaving
Believing
Feeling

Everything is possible, even for you when you change your thinking and keep going with it.

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Doubt the Doubt | NLP is Fun

One of the worst things you can ever do it to put your energy into Doubting Yourself. In fact:
Doubt is the beginning stage of all Fear.

Just a Little uncertainty begins the process of Doubt.

Do you have doubt that you will succeed ?
Do you expect everything you are working on to collapse instead of Thrive ?
Do you listen to people who say it cannot be done ?

If this is true for you and you want to breakthrough it then make sure your own internal hard wiring. Shift your attention from Doubt to certainty.
What can you be certain about ?

If you have doubt then you know, for certain that you can Doubt, and you may be really good at it.
So Doubt the Doubt and be certain you will succeed.

Program your mind with your own reality and load up on Positive life affirming suggestions that feel amazing and begin to see yourself as capable to succeed.

You must feel capable and be able to engage all sensory experience before you will unconsciously congruently begin the process.

Remember to say the following:
I can
I will
I am
Program your unconscious mind for success and you will begin to notice new results in every area of your life.

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Reality is Subjective | NLP is Fun

You can program your mind for what you want, Think about Reality as being all in your mind.
When you think about this, anything will be possible if it is True.
And ..
You won't know if it is true or not, unless you experiment with it for yourself....

Some people have far to many reasons not to believe in what they want. They spend a great deal of time:
Feeling unhappy
Thinking about their problems
Protecting their Limitations
Arguing in defense of their self imposed Limitations
Then they get overwhelmed and their thinking patterns become a jumbled mess.

Reality is subjective to each persons experience. Even if lots of people participate in the same Event, each person will perceive it differently.
Having a Reality that works for you then is the ultimate goal.
A reality check is a reality that works in your favor then, isn't it ?

Otherwise, your mind will be dragging you around instead of leading yourself to absolute success in any endeavor
Having a Powerful mind is thinking, feeling and behaving on purpose.
Changing your mind may not happen overnight but in lots of cases life changing Mind Mastery happens super fast especially when using NLP.
The more each person immerses themselves in NLP and practice frequently the more intensely the change will be experienced.
Plus they will be spending less time feeling bad, and that in itself is amazing.

Thinking about what you want is more important than worrying about what you don't have.
And ..
The more you think about what you want,
1. The more real it feels.
2. The more likely you are to believe it is possible
3. The more familiar it will become to you
4. The more suggestions your unconscious mind will present to achieve it
5. The more you will be in alignment with your wants
6. The More committed you will be to your goals
7. The More Actions you will take to achieve your result
8. The faster you will achieve your outcomes
9. The sooner you will notice you are living your dreams
10. The more effectively and productive you will be in your life

Seems like a Great way to get more of what you want and experience pleasure at the same time.

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Next Level Motivation | NLP is Fun

Isn't it time to do something different, doing what you have always done is never going to get you all that your heart longs for.

A great way to connect to your Goals is to create a Book of Motivating Thoughts with Pictures that engage your senses.

Helping you to imagine the experience. and Flip through it frequently. Here is a Picture of one I created a Few Years ago.

I have written several more since then, It is amazing to read them and find out what I have already accomplished or what has unconsciously become second nature now.

Write down your Affirmations and Goals then Bring then to Life  using NLP, Create a Book of Motivating thoughts.  

This week at NLP is Fun in Las Vegas we discussed Creating Motivation Strategies with NLP at our Workshop. Using Motivation strategies is about pairing associations to things that already naturally motivate you.

The results are magnificent and long lasting. 

Here is a recording on Killing it 2015 which is our Hashtag this year #Killingit2015 Next level Motivation is all about taking the Bull By the Horns.
This cannot be done until you just decide.
Now Is the time for you to achieve your Goal.
I wander what you have decided to do differently to guarantee your own success.

Sometimes it is as simple as getting clear with your Goals having Well Formed Outcomes will help.

How serious are you about Learning NLP and becoming excellent at using it each and every day, what are you doing regularly to improve ?

Use the Hashtag #Killingit2015 and Tweet how you are going above and beyond in your own life !

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How to Release Stress | NLP is Fun

Did you know Stress can creep up and take over you.
In order to be proactive and not reactive to stress you must have a plan in position to release all stress on a regular basis.
Here is an easy way to solve this.

Release Stress Mind Map | NLP is Fun

Make some notes, or if you prefer just bookmark this page, This is going to be easy and fun.
The Daily objective is to always feel better, as long as you remember this you are moving in the right direction. so just decide to spend at least some time doing this each day.

Smile as frequently as you can remember, the more you smile the better you will feel and people will enjoy it and let you know.

Focus more on what you love and less on what annoys you or you do not like.
Spend a few minutes paying attention to releasing stress and anxiety.
Breathe in love and release all fear/Anxiety/Stress/Worry/Doubt and other emotions that feel bad do this in rounds of 3 at least super slowly (nobody will know you are doing it).

Visualize pushing out and rejecting bad or nasty thoughts the further from you the better you feel, can you notice this.
Say This All is well frequently.
Just Decide to Stop Feeling bad and feeding the feel bad Bonfire.
Expect the Best always train your mind to improve at doing this by actively doing positive self talk Self hypnosis, and listening to positive dialogue.

Negative Thinking creates "Secret Stress" that Piles up quickly:
Negative Thoughts Infect your thinking and can create a Mind virus that spreads all the way through your life.
Regularly clear your mind and reset by thinking about your best bits and those you love until you feel better.
Relaxing music that feels wonderful.
Soak in a Bath, Jacuzzi or the Pool

Cut out:
Negative TV
Arguing with people who love to be right for attention and little else
Music that has secret directives that you chant over and over again
Adverts that make you eat bad things, Drink too much take drugs or behave irresponsibly and against your core values.
Programs that involve fighting and negative behavior that is infused with glamour and envious associations
Car Crash TV of any kind
Bad news TV Channels

Beware of the affects of participating in the following:
Xenophobia, Racism, negative thought trains against other individuals and Groups
Video Games that reward you for killing people and make it really life like
And anything else that affects your state for the worst every time you do it.
Limit your contact with it and when you are ready work towards removing it all together.

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Milton Model Language | Maybe | NLP is Fun

The following NLP Language pattern can be used when being artfully Vague and inspiring a person to find and agree with solutions inside of them.

Maybe you already know that NLP is great for Negotiation of any kind. and this pattern is perfect for implying possibility.

Maybe, you will think differently about a Limiting belief you had

Maybe you haven't _____________ Yet and that doesn't mean you won't later !
Maybe you haven't thought of all the ways in which _______________ is Possible now!
Maybe you have experienced ____________ for yourself and you love it too
Maybe you wont take as long as you thought when you ________________
Maybe ______________________ will be so much easier then you know
Maybe when ____________ it will inspire you to ________________ which you had been avoiding before now
Maybe using this pattern in your problems will cause you to _______________ so much more quickly
Maybe he __________________ and maybe he didn't perhaps we will never truly know for sure
Maybe she will realize it is possible and _________________ before the end of the day

Maybe you will discover more ways to use this Covert language pattern
Maybe the situation will work out to your advantage
Maybe everything is working out for your best anyway
Maybe Hypnotic language comes naturally to you
Maybe thinking in terms of possibility is easier than you thought
Maybe you can chunk it down to get more detail
Maybe you can chunk it up to gain a larger perspective
Maybe learning Hypnosis is natural to you
Maybe you are better at Neuro linguistic programming than you thought you could be

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Virginia Satir Demonstrating Flexibility | NLP is Fun

Original NLP Patterns Contributor Virginia Satir of course was a Master of Change work. The way in which she was able to Relate and Communicate with people to achieve her outcome using Verbal and Non Verbal Communication was intoxicating to experience.

Virginia was beyond flexible, always looking for options and choices to dislodge the problem by re-framing the hidden possibilities and options.

She helped us to understand In fact, that the power to Change has everything to do with being willing to be flexible doesn't it.

Have you ever met a person who was unwilling to change and demanded that "things" stay the same or "go back to normal" ?
In fact they would somehow wrestle you to the ground in order to maintain the present state no matter how problematic.

In the following 2 Video's Virginia Satir demonstrates Several Examples of Flexibility.

What I also love about this Video is how she is willing to take many different  positions in response to one particular problem.

When people have a problem, they often perceive there are limited choice available. Perhaps presented as "this or that" and perhaps another option which they have ruled out as they feel as if "it is out of the question".

In this video the gentleman she is helping gets the chance to Phrase his "Problem" and explain it a little bit more every single time and for that he gets a Unique response to each of his statements.

Virginia uses Rapport in a way which demonstrates the value she holds for the Participant.

• She consistently Paces his experience and gains agreement from him then will Lead him. 
• She is an incredibly magnetic Influencer her certainty and determination is Palpable.
• She remains energetic, enthusiastic, Focused and resourceful in her communication.
• Virginia was an advocate for Self acceptance and self worth
• She knew her own worth and was certain of it 
• She valued other people always demonstrating to them their worth.

Virginia's use of Body language and Non verbals is purposeful and extremely Powerful.
 Please enjoy watching these awesome video's.

An available Transcript of these video's is available courtesy of Steve Andreas here 
There is so much we can say about these Video's from Real People Press and the whole lecture of which she was a Keynote speaker is available for purchase here

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Conversational Postulate | Milton Model | NLP is Fun

A Conversational Postulate is a Language pattern that comes from the NLP Milton Model, and is used in Conversational Hypnosis as well as Ericksonian Hypnosis.

It is designed to help a Person to take action now while asking in an indirect way.
A question is Posed or Postulated (seemingly as a suggestion) That gets a Knee jerk order response.

Don't Worry this is going to be even easier than you Thought,  Remember learning NLP is Fun. 

In conversational Hypnosis:
Instead of saying quite clearly
Will you please go and fetch me the pickles

When using a Conversational Postulate You might instead say
Can you pass me the pickles ...

(You could say Yes or no but there is probably a great chance that you actually pick it up and hand it to me).
Let's do some more so you will get the hang of it.

Here are some you might find used in every day language:
Can you pass me that water ?
Will you get me one too ?
Are you going to swing by the house then,  if you do can you get my jacket from over there when you go ?
Do you have the time ?
Can you get the Door ?
Will you get that ?
Is there enough for me?

All of these questions could be answered Yes or No and even so they have provoked a response and the person who posed the questions is expecting the action to be taken.

In Hypnosis:
Will you relax now and quietly consider this is an easy exercise
Perhaps you are going to think of other ways in which you can use this pattern then
Will you sit in this chair and begin to relax now
Can you notice how your breath is slowing down
Can you allow your mind to wander as you begin to let go of your stress
Can you indicate from your unconscious mind perhaps with a signal, perhaps moving your finger ever so slightly, One way or another to signal you agree.
Are you noticing how easy it is once you let go of time consuming  and unhappy thoughts 
Will you go into a trance by going into an altered state of consciousness

In Hypnosis in order to find the answer there is a greater likelihood of the person doing an internal check and experiencing the suggestion.

If the person is nicely relaxed they will enjoy and experience your suggestion and maybe say yes in their mind too.
Certainly they will agree with your suggestion.

Also Persuasive in Business environments:
Want to pick out the one you prefer while I have some left?
I can bring your order to the conference to make your pick up easy, will two boxes do it?
That is a Powerful pitch, It would be amazing to have you host our meeting, can I count on you this Tuesday?
Want to pick up the one we spoke about and let me know how you get on with it?
Would you like me to change your order to one that makes perfect financial sense to you?
Are you still going to get the one you fell in love with earlier?

In Business settings it is still quite like Hypnosis although it is more frequently called Persuasion.
The structure is Rapport based and linked to an association that creates a Kinesthetic response.

Your Turn to practice and use them:
Do you understand how to use them and if so do you think you will be using them now ?
Are you finding yourself studying more now the pattern is simple?

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The Top 10 Skills of Excellent Communicators | NLP is Fun

Excellent communication skills are essential in today's society, in fact the better you are at Communication the better your quality of life will be.
NLP is the most exceptional tool for advanced communication. Every thing about Neuro linguistic programming is designed to improve the way in which we communicate with ourselves and each other.

When Richard Bandler and John Grinder Modeled the best communicators at the beginning stages of designing NLP they found the following qualities in each of them.

See No Evil |Hear No Evil |Speak no Evil .. unless of course, it is part of your Communication Strategy and is the best way to build Rapport with whomever you are speaking with. Speaking their language always and in all ways.

1, One must be absolutely clear with the outcome and stay focused on it, improving along the way as sensory acuity dictates.

2, The person with the most incredible flexibility wins and can stay in the game the longest, adapting as necessary.

3. The advanced communicator is well managed and is in control of their responses and reactions, knowing how to reset their emotions to neutral states quickly even if caught off guard.

4. They understand the essential importance of Rapport.

5. They control the frame, they design the states in other people to move in the direction of the desired outcome.

6. They stay focused and are disciplined in their processes, even if it does not seem so.

7. They view a Challenge as something exciting and strive to enjoy all challenges.

8. They have a flexible and positive attitude.

9. They live by the presupposition, the meaning of my communication is the response I am getting.

10. They are persistent and always have an association to the outcome no matter what it looks like, they are absolutely certain they will achieve their Goal.

How many of these skills do you currently posses and what are you doing to improve them ?

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Healing Hypnotic Meditation | NLP is Fun

Since it is Throwback Thursday I thought it would be fabulous to share this oldie and Goodie Healing Hypnotic Meditation from Pink Elephant TV.
The sound quality is a little lacking and yet still these powerful words and the energy ring through for all to enjoy.
I used to share much of this stuff on my other blog Pink Elephant tv  that also has close to 200 Fun and Informative posts available.

Check it out and experience a few moments of  soulful relaxation.

It is great to revisit this work I did in 2010, I have published a ton of content over these years which must be close to 1,000 Articles of Blogs, Training Material, Emails, You tube videos, Audio Recordings,Teleseminars, Workshops, Speeches, Book Contributions and more all together.

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There is Personal power in Releasing Judgement | NLP is Fun

There is Personal power in releasing Judgement | NLP is Fun
Do you think it is possible to release Judgement?
If you were able to notice that being judgmental of other people makes you feel bad, you may decide to work on experiencing less and less judgement.

Also all Judgement creates a habit of Self Criticism, which also feels really bad.
Judgement comes from Fear, doesn't it.

It is a way of communicating without really saying what you mean ... because you are afraid.
You are more afraid of saying what you want to say and how they will respond.
Than actually asking for what you want.

You are prejudging that they (whomever) will give you the fuzzy end of the lollipop. 

Is this a powerful position do you believe?
Did you know that One of the NLP Presuppositions is that ALL behavior stems from A Positive Intention?

When we prejudge, we do ourselves a disservice, don't we.
Lots of times what we think is not true anyway it could be a Distortion of our own making.

Our minds should be treated with great care we don't have to believe all our minds say, unless you have programmed your mind to serve you for the better, that is.

Did you know you can also help others whom are also Judgmental using NLP with elegant language patterns.

Boom. Let's Go !
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NLP Meta Model Distortion | NLP is Fun

NLP | Neuro linguistic programming has a series of Language Patterns called The Meta Model which is extremely specific. It Challenges the Speaker to begin to clarify what they mean whenever they express themselves ambiguously.

There are Three ways in which The Meta Model is sorted into categories  each categories have specific Language Patterns to determine exactly how the speaker is creating their "Model of The Word" which is an NLP term for way in which they structure their Experience/reality .
Today I am speaking about the Meta Model Distortion which involves 5 ways in which people can distort their information.

Nominalization: 
"People are suffering because of the economy" 
"This Strategy is Rubbish and doesn't work" 
"You should have some consideration for me"
Verb turned into a Noun or an Event 
(Ask yourself this question) Can the Economy fit into a wheel barrow ?
(Ask yourself This Question) Can that Strategy fit into a wheel barrow?
(Ask yourself This Question) Can Consideration fit into a wheel barrow?

No, because (The Economizing) is an on going process that often changes every day, it is not a thing. 
No, because ( Strategizing) is an on going process that can change every day, it is not a thing. 
No, because (Considering) is an on going process that  can change every day, it is not a thing.
Add "ing" to the process and keep the conversation going until the person takes ownership of the specifics.

Challenging your Nominalization makes a persons choice of words less Challenging .. 
You learn who the subject is and turn the Noun back into a Verb. This clears up any confusion about who is doing what. and it is no longer confusing.

Cause / Effect 
"If you hadn't scared me, I wouldn't have shouted at you"
"He started it and I finished it"
Doing ________________ Caused _________________
How did an independent act cause you to respond in the way you did, these instances are unrelated. A Person chooses how to respond depending on their Internal Map.

Mind Reading
"She won't leave him, she luuuuurves him" 
"He is going to be drunk when he gets home"
Assuming without confirmation from the source
Did she/He tell you that?, How do you know that?

Complex Equivalence
"Chocolate gives you spots"
"Cloudy Sky Means Rain" 
"Cold Ice Cream Means I am going to have Brain Freeze"
__________always Means ________________

Lost Performative
"That's  a silly thing to say"
Ambiguous Value Judgement, See More here  

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