Tuesday, November 20, 2012

About Persistence

"By the Time you achieve success in your endeavor you will already know the value of persistence" - Nadia Harper.

One of my absolute favourite sayings is "persistence over resistance" I first heard that from Oprah whom I greatly admire many years ago. I have learned so much from her and for the last 20 years or so she has been one of my Act as if  mentors.

Another "Act as if" Mentor is Nelson Mandela who set the Bar high for those who walk a long road of persistence.
Can you imagine what it took to stay in jail for his cause 27 long years. A positive Leader who went on to gain the Nobel Peace prize because he ended apartheid and became the first Black South African President who inspired and continues to inspire our own great Leaders all over the world.
President Nelson Mandela continued to have great hope and not fall for all the temptations of giving up his cause to be released from jail.

He has a Clear Vision, Strong Belief and Undeniable Values. One of his quotes is:
 " With freedom comes responsibilities, and I dare not linger, for my long walk has not ended".

This is much different than Trying.
This is Persisting against all odds.

When you are working on executing a Goal part of the planning process of your strategy should be knowing how to hang on in there when things aren't going according to plan.

You can us the T.O.T.E Model as an outline for any of your strategies to success.
Test - Find out the Trigger
Operate - Apply the Intervention
Test - Loop to see if it gives desired result - Keep going until you get it
Exit - When A OK finish and exit

Resistance takes a toll on anyone and is inevitable at some level. Having the energy and mental stamina to hold on and become creative with solutions is  a mandatory part of most any successful process.

The largest part of this is mental mastery knowing how to keep yourself together, How to keep your mind sharp and your Physiology strong and working in your favour.

The Value of persistence speaks volumes about your character, persistence is a discipline that will change your life. It ups your self belief and increases your own self worth.

You can count on your own persistence when you are able to get your mind around it and made up your mind about achieving your desired end result.
Persistence is not for the faint of heart.

What will you persist at today, instead of throwing in the towel when you meet with resistance.

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Friday, November 16, 2012

NLP - Overlapping Rep Systems | NLP is Fun

NLP practitioners are great Storytellers, we engage people via stories that help others change their own internal experience.
Frequently through people imagining themselves in better situations which begins the process of change.

This is Important for everyone who has a desire to succeed.

The Representative systems give us exceptional juice to access Gestalts, bundles of sensory information which make quick work out of having a person connect to an experience and change how they are processing it to create the feeling they are feeling.

Not only That, it gives a sense of experience like it is really happening as you amplify the Representation systems..

From time to time people may tell us "I cannot make pictures", hear sounds, smell etc... has that ever happened to you ?

Or maybe you have been working on a pattern and felt unable to access intensity in a rep system you are less familiar with.

You can train your mind as you practice and familiarize yourself with all rep systems because this is exceptionally useful. We all know Mental drills intensify experience and our mind becomes used to the unconscious programming we loop over and over again.

I will show you how to Overlap your rep systems which is really easy and you will notice, improves with practice.

Let's Do it !
If you are working with another person who seems to be struggling with accessing a rep system:
In this Example the person is strong visually and we are introducing Auditory rep systems into their experience.

You will use your own appropriate rep systems when you do this pattern for yourself.
If you want to learn more about NLP you may want to see this actions speak louder than words.

#1 Gain congruent agreement
Ask them to make sure you have got it right, "so you are saying you are having a hard time with __________________"
a) And you would love to
b) And you feel excited about this prospect
c) And you are congruent in this
d) And you know exactly why this will be useful and important to you
e) And you are ready to now

#2 Begin with favorite Rep system Intensify then Introduce another.
a) (Visual): Great and I bet you can see yourself enjoying this entire process as if you were watching a vivid sunset on a sandy beach with palm trees swaying to and fro, the waves roll in and out as you take the whole scene into your mind.
b) Are you seeing that now
c) (Auditory): Good , and even though it is a peaceful day their is a rustling in the trees as they dance and sway in time to the natural noises of the seaside ..
d) Can you hear that now

# 3 Begin to fuse it by overlapping the intensified experience.
a) Just listen to the rippling of the waves as they tease the toes of the mothers and children paddling before dusk just look at the children, happily giggling and squealing in delight
b) Notice how the colors of the sunset are slowly changing, orange, yellow, crimson, purple and what shapes can you see in the clouds
c ) If you close your eyes I bet you can still see and hear everything including what you hadn't noticed before.
d) How about that, lots to see and hear isn't there

#4 Future Pace and Test 

Remember you can always change habits and patterns that make you unhappy.

Being trained in Neuro linguistic programming affords you a massive tool set to play with.What do you want to do next with your NLP Training You could always do one of these or all of them actually.

How serious are you about Learning NLP and becoming excellent at using it each and every day, what are you doing regularly to improve ?

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Monday, November 12, 2012

How to turn a Mistake into a learning experience with NLP | NLP is Fun

Making a mistake is part of being human, And sometimes we may make the same mistake over and over again. The worst part is sometimes we get so frustrated about our behavior that we tend to beat ourselves up about it on the inside.

Which isn't really very kind and has the opposite effect of being productive. sometimes it will even deter us from even trying new things because we keep making the same mistake over and over again. and then playing it in our mind movie over and over again.

Don't get stuck in a rut focusing on the wrong thing, for example focusing on failure is not helping anything. It continues to disconnect us from the process of changing.

Blaming other people for our own feelings as well as worrying about what other people think about our mistakes is a massive drain of energy and can really pull you out of focus with your original intention.

Make sure you are OK and learn how to be kind to yourself. When we hold higher significance to how bad the problem is we can remain stuck and lose focus of the solution.

Self acceptance and Self love are such important parts of moving on. Quite often once we adopt an attitude of "I accept that I have done this and I don't want to do this anymore" we are forming a new relationship to the problem and have already began the process of moving away from the behavior.
There is a lesson in all of our behavior and it is quite possible we haven't learned our lesson yet.

Even if you continue to make the same mistakes it will feel different while doing it, and reduce the intensity of this behavior until it changes completely.

Mistakes really are just positive learning experiences when you think of it. Everything about this next exercise helps you to unconsciously re frame your behavior and intention.

I am certain you will enjoy this, I used it earlier today and worked through a bothersome experienced which now makes perfect sense to me This pattern is very quick to do and very simple.
I recommend you get a pen and a few sheets of paper or your Diary, Today you are going to be your own coach.

Give it a go, towards the end of it, you will begin to understand in a new way of experiencing, this will be different to how you were experiencing before. Now you can do more of this and less of that ..

The Pattern:

# 1 Identify the Compulsive behavior / Habit
a) Specify what it is
b) Look for a Partner
i.e this causes that - Like I only smoke when I drink or I Always spend too much money when I am with Tracy

# 2 Identify the limiting belief you have that supports this pattern
a) Identify the Belief, or beliefs (my be multiple supporting this behavior)
b) Find out if you are focused on the Habit instead of content (which holds the info in this case) sometimes missing the forest for trees.
c) Find out if a higher Value / Belief / Need override this pattern

#3 Have you ever experienced anything similar
a) make a list of other places this pattern shows up in your life - you may be surprised to notice it as a constant theme in a certain area.
This will also match the supporting limiting beliefs in #2

#4 Compare it to a worst case scenario
a) What could be the absolute pits compared to what you are doing now, how much worse could it be.
b) Find some gratitude in that experience

#5 What are the positive By products of this experience
a) step back and gain a big picture of any positive benefits from this experience
b) Go deeper and look for more gratitude

#6  Understand the Positive Intentions in this Experience Fully
a) Understand exactly what these positive learning's are
b) Is there a way to understand other peoples intentions in this experience positively now
c) List what other peoples positive intentions were in your new understanding

#7 Find some positive meaning to the whole thing
a) Positive meaning #1
b) Has your experience changed on a certain level
c) How has your life improved because of meaning #1, 2, 3 or however many positive meanings you found
d) Are you finding your mind has changed in another level too
e) Can this discoveries show up in other areas of your life to change those positively too

#8 Time to Re - Edit using your brand new positive insights
a) Run through the mistake using your new positive editing tools
b) Notice how you feel now

#9 Future Pace and Edit as necessary
Do you know thoughts are a little bit like pebbles in that we have so many of them some bigger and some smaller,who can keep count. 
Would you say most of your thoughts are helping you or hindering you ?

Remember when people stop making pain a priority, your mind wanders toward pleasure at every opportunity.

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Saturday, November 10, 2012

Listen .. just say no to People Projects | NLP is Fun

Wow, the weekend is finally here and end to what has been a busy week of catching up. Last week I was down for a whole week without being able to use my voice. Fortunately I was still able to Coach via Email  and write all the articles that were due.

It Is interesting that when you are unable to speak to people you learn how to choose words very carefully.
It was especially interesting because at our Last NLP Is Fun Practice group we ended our exercise in a discussion of how important it is to listen and not always offer advice even when you have the perfect words to say.

In many ways I think we will do better to take that advice to our own heart, instead of being so preoccupied with "Saving" others or taking on another "People Project" that leaves us drained of our own energetic resources and doesn't help a person to find their own answers within.

This weekend I plan to luxuriate in myself .. a visit to the depths of me if you like using The Self love Process of course.
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Thursday, November 8, 2012

NLP - Reading in to it | NLP is Fun

Many times people ask me what NLP Books should they read and I think different people are best suited to different Books.
I guess what I really mean is, it depends on a persons reading patterns at the time this will help me decide what  book I will recommend.
Often if I am coaching or Tutoring a person I will include steps to increase reading stamina over time.

Even If you are just starting out with NLP and want a book that you can glance through Daily I have already mentioned Entrancing Tales by The English sisters in another post.
Because the more you dip into it the better you feel, also it makes a great book to throw in a bag to take to work as a pick me up no matter what your level in NLP.

As you have perhaps encountered many people find it a challenge to sit through a dense book overloaded with facts but very little glue to captivate an audience.
And we all know a change of mind is usually a change of heart too, so feeling great is the perfect kick starter to a new way of doing things.

I list Books I like to do with NLP, in the NLP is Fun Bookshop so people can also decide which book to read next and add to their collection.
Because I think it is quite important to build an NLP Library, certainly with all of the classics which in time a person will enjoy as they understand more about NLP.

When I first started studying NLP I wanted everything I could get my hands on about NLP,nowadays I have most all of the NLP Books I like But I recently added 3 Amazing NLP Books which I must review for you soon and in detail.

1. Doug O'Brien - Sleight of Mouth
2. Joseph Riggio - The state of Perfection
3. Peter Parkes - NLP for Project Managers

Needless to say I am almost Trembling in anticipation to share because I am thrilled with all three.

I am an Avid reader and have collected about 700 Books so far. Most of these Books are about NLP/ Hypnosis/Business/Influence/Persuasion/Healing/Change/Energy/Prosperity/Sales/Behavior/Neuroscience etc.

My intention is to create a proper library in my home where the room is based around the Books and not the other way around ... where the Books are overflowing and taking up all the room in my office.
Here is another Book that I was sent recently which I really like.
It is written by Tom Oberbichler who is an NLP Trainer, NLP Coach and also a Writing coach, and it is called Feel Wonderful Now.
Seriously, what more can you ask for, who doesn't want to be wonderful ?
Do you like the Pivot Grammar Tom uses on his logo ?

Tom, who is from Vienna and he is a perfect example of what he writes about, which is, exactly how to get the most out of your life and enjoy an emotionally healthy experience no matter what.
It is a great book filled with simple everyday NLP techniques to experience and begin to feel great instantly.
Kind of like this NLP blog really :)

I love reading tips from people who have "cracked it" for themselves and are "walking the walk and talking the talk" Tom is about as authentic as they come and I really like that. 
It is an appealing characteristic in my book. Now him and his longtime life partner Chris Pape are really interested in helping you get a peace of mind for yourself, and keeping NLP accessible to all who want a positive change.

You can connect with Tom on his Amazon page where you can order a copy of his book on Kindle while is is on sale here is what he says:

Quoted Text from Tom's Bio
"Joy and happiness are two wonders that keep increasing all the time, the more we share them! So I am delighted to share my experiences, skills and abilities with my books, trances, workshops, and coaching with more and more people.
I love people and the world we all are a part of.
I know that true and sustainable success can only be achieved in interacting and cooperating with other people".

I wish Tom & Chris every success with the Book and for those of you abroad his book is in German and his Kindle version is in English.

Give it a try, while it is on sale, you will thank me later.
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