About Persistence

"By the Time you achieve success in your endeavor you will already know the value of persistence" - Nadia Harper.

One of my absolute favourite sayings is "persistence over resistance" I first heard that from Oprah whom I greatly admire many years ago. I have learned so much from her and for the last 20 years or so she has been one of my Act as if  mentors.

Another "Act as if" Mentor is Nelson Mandela who set the Bar high for those who walk a long road of persistence.
Can you imagine what it took to stay in jail for his cause 27 long years. A positive Leader who went on to gain the Nobel Peace prize because he ended apartheid and became the first Black South African President who inspired and continues to inspire our own great Leaders all over the world.
President Nelson Mandela continued to have great hope and not fall for all the temptations of giving up his cause to be released from jail.

He has a Clear Vision, Strong Belief and Undeniable Values. One of his quotes is:
 " With freedom comes responsibilities, and I dare not linger, for my long walk has not ended".

This is much different than Trying.
This is Persisting against all odds.

When you are working on executing a Goal part of the planning process of your strategy should be knowing how to hang on in there when things aren't going according to plan.

You can us the T.O.T.E Model as an outline for any of your strategies to success.
Test - Find out the Trigger
Operate - Apply the Intervention
Test - Loop to see if it gives desired result - Keep going until you get it
Exit - When A OK finish and exit

Resistance takes a toll on anyone and is inevitable at some level. Having the energy and mental stamina to hold on and become creative with solutions is  a mandatory part of most any successful process.

The largest part of this is mental mastery knowing how to keep yourself together, How to keep your mind sharp and your Physiology strong and working in your favour.

The Value of persistence speaks volumes about your character, persistence is a discipline that will change your life. It ups your self belief and increases your own self worth.

You can count on your own persistence when you are able to get your mind around it and made up your mind about achieving your desired end result.
Persistence is not for the faint of heart.

What will you persist at today, instead of throwing in the towel when you meet with resistance.

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How to turn a Mistake into a learning experience with NLP | NLP is Fun

Making a mistake is part of being human, And sometimes we may make the same mistake over and over again. The worst part is sometimes we get so frustrated about our behavior that we tend to beat ourselves up about it on the inside.

Which isn't really very kind and has the opposite effect of being productive. sometimes it will even deter us from even trying new things because we keep making the same mistake over and over again. and then playing it in our mind movie over and over again.

Don't get stuck in a rut focusing on the wrong thing, for example focusing on failure is not helping anything. It continues to disconnect us from the process of changing.

Blaming other people for our own feelings as well as worrying about what other people think about our mistakes is a massive drain of energy and can really pull you out of focus with your original intention.

Make sure you are OK and learn how to be kind to yourself. When we hold higher significance to how bad the problem is we can remain stuck and lose focus of the solution.

Self acceptance and Self love are such important parts of moving on. Quite often once we adopt an attitude of "I accept that I have done this and I don't want to do this anymore" we are forming a new relationship to the problem and have already began the process of moving away from the behavior.
There is a lesson in all of our behavior and it is quite possible we haven't learned our lesson yet.

Even if you continue to make the same mistakes it will feel different while doing it, and reduce the intensity of this behavior until it changes completely.

Mistakes really are just positive learning experiences when you think of it. Everything about this next exercise helps you to unconsciously re frame your behavior and intention.

I am certain you will enjoy this, I used it earlier today and worked through a bothersome experienced which now makes perfect sense to me This pattern is very quick to do and very simple.
I recommend you get a pen and a few sheets of paper or your Diary, Today you are going to be your own coach.

Give it a go, towards the end of it, you will begin to understand in a new way of experiencing, this will be different to how you were experiencing before. Now you can do more of this and less of that ..

The Pattern:

# 1 Identify the Compulsive behavior / Habit
a) Specify what it is
b) Look for a Partner
i.e this causes that - Like I only smoke when I drink or I Always spend too much money when I am with Tracy

# 2 Identify the limiting belief you have that supports this pattern
a) Identify the Belief, or beliefs (my be multiple supporting this behavior)
b) Find out if you are focused on the Habit instead of content (which holds the info in this case) sometimes missing the forest for trees.
c) Find out if a higher Value / Belief / Need override this pattern

#3 Have you ever experienced anything similar
a) make a list of other places this pattern shows up in your life - you may be surprised to notice it as a constant theme in a certain area.
This will also match the supporting limiting beliefs in #2

#4 Compare it to a worst case scenario
a) What could be the absolute pits compared to what you are doing now, how much worse could it be.
b) Find some gratitude in that experience

#5 What are the positive By products of this experience
a) step back and gain a big picture of any positive benefits from this experience
b) Go deeper and look for more gratitude

#6  Understand the Positive Intentions in this Experience Fully
a) Understand exactly what these positive learning's are
b) Is there a way to understand other peoples intentions in this experience positively now
c) List what other peoples positive intentions were in your new understanding

#7 Find some positive meaning to the whole thing
a) Positive meaning #1
b) Has your experience changed on a certain level
c) How has your life improved because of meaning #1, 2, 3 or however many positive meanings you found
d) Are you finding your mind has changed in another level too
e) Can this discoveries show up in other areas of your life to change those positively too

#8 Time to Re - Edit using your brand new positive insights
a) Run through the mistake using your new positive editing tools
b) Notice how you feel now

#9 Future Pace and Edit as necessary
Do you know thoughts are a little bit like pebbles in that we have so many of them some bigger and some smaller,who can keep count. 
Would you say most of your thoughts are helping you or hindering you ?

Remember when people stop making pain a priority, your mind wanders toward pleasure at every opportunity.

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