Thursday, April 28, 2016

What would you do if you were not afraid | NLP is Fun

What would you do if you were not afraid ?
That is the question of all questions isn't it.
You may have heard this before many, many times and so much so that you have not yet talked the time to think about it.
It is a great question though, isn't it because .. what would you do if you were not afraid ?

And when are you likely to change this. In this Video I ask some pretty thought provoking questions. Check it out.

Next question:
Do you really want it ?
Don't you think it would be fun trying to achieve it ?

Imagine something great for yourself instead.
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Tuesday, April 26, 2016

You can do it | NLP is Fun

To live an extraordinary life one must have an incredible relationship with your internal representations.
What you Say, What you think, the pictures you play and What you believe inside your head all make a massive difference to your success.

NLP is all about engaging with yourself differently for the sole purpose of reprogramming your Unconscious mind which is in charge of how effectively you naturally do things.
To be effective in using NLP patterns is Magic dust because you can shift your Neurology in a Jiffy.
Here is a simple formula:
Feel Great results in more Motivation and Enthusiasm powerful results through a Filter of "Can do" and Possibility.

Feeling Bad results in a downward spiral and low motivation, Filtering is "Cannot and don't know".
You can tell how people feel by the way they speak and hold themselves.
It feels bad to be around people who constantly feel bad and it feels great to be around people who constantly feel great.
Of course if you  feel bad most of the time you may also become irritated with people who choose to feel great no matter what.
So if you want to feel better then make it a priority and just decide to put good stuff in your mind always. The more you take care of your great mind, the more your great mind will know how to take care of you.

Imagine something great for yourself instead.
The Self love Process online course Here

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Saturday, April 23, 2016

Who is to Blame | NLP is Fun

I was reminded by an Info graphic on Face book about putting your power into the hands of other people.
Specifically about being afraid of what other people think about you.
The presupposition being an idea that Other peoples opinion of you is more important than what you think about you.
We have in many ways been taught that as an unconscious lesson.
It is however a powerless position, because you are then seemingly at the mercy of people and their good or bad Judgment about you.

What if they don't like you
What if they don't like what you do
What if they don't like what you say
Does that mean you are not good enough ?
In NLP we would say good enough compared to whom ( this can be a great clue to what the underlying fear is)
Surely this is exhausting !

I had a lot to say about this because I used to care so much about what people thought about me.
It was an endless parade of trying to fit into the parameters of what they (People) deemed acceptable for me.
But the trouble is the Goal post kept moving.
As I managed to squeeze into one of their boxes they would set up another, I couldn't keep up!

Photo Credit: We are all Random here via Face Book
This is why I designed The Self love Process.
This external and Inner critic that finds something wrong in all you do can also become an anticipation.You may have been doing this your whole life and so much so that you believe somebody is to blame for this.

Instead of focusing on Blame, Focus on feeling better. Filtering differently is essential to renew your personal power.

You can re-frame this and just stop doing what makes you unhappy in other words just value yourself.
Truthfully, I had to just learn how to breathe and focus on what would I like, and how do I feel about myself.

Take the spotlight off them and bring it back to the fact that you deserve to express yourself however you like.

This truly is a Self esteem issue. As you build up your own Self worth your perceptions will change about "Trying to fit in" and "Make yourself small" for others.

I gave it a great deal of thought since 4 years later it popped up again on my time line review asking me if I would like to share it again or ignore it.
It was a great way for me to think about how I personally had evolved since first posting it.
Not only this,it is just a few Days since Prince died at just 57 years old.
I loved Prince to me he was an original who believed in himself in the most extraordinary way.
He committed to his process and to living the life he preferred.
He wasn't afraid to completely switch it up at any time and he was extremely graceful while doing so.

I have seen him live three times and his death impacted me in a way that I wanted to share with others here is what I said.
" I saw Prince 3 times and every single time he was literally amazing. 
The second time I saw him I got the chance to go on a very small stage with him as he serenaded us with Guitar and song.
Of all the musicians I have seen Live, I think he was probably the most talented. 
He did his own thing and whatever he did, he was a perfectionist, he certainly was a real artist.
May you rest peacefully in Blessed Love" heart emoticone thing is for sure You Really Lived, You served a great purpose and used your life well "smile emoticon
So beautifully the time line graphic coincided with what I had taken from my experiences of Prince and how he lived.

I realized it boils quite simply down to this:
Do you allow other people to decide your life for you or do you live your life on your own terms.
Even if people have no respect for you, undervalue you or are unkind to you. Do you allow them to become more important than you especially when they are Bullying you into submission and are still not and never could ever be satisfied.

Do you remember this Blog written on NLP is Fun in 2011

I have heard and experienced so many accounts of people who have been relentlessly emotionally abused through criticism by others who do their best to control how you are living so that they can feel better about you.

It can be Family, Friends, Partners, Children, Spouses, Church / book club members you name it. A person who is Bullying you doesn't care about you understand that part first.

In 2010 I made this Video in response to the "It gets better" campaign against bullying people who are different and you can watch it here .

So let us get down to it:
Ask yourself "How can you even think of wanting to confirm to their ideas of what you should be".
Would that be living your life as if you are really Living ? or do you listen to your heart and make your way back to you and what you know is right for you.
Do you dare to live as if you really mean it shining your own light or live in fear of  them rejecting you.

Who you think you are is what matters and daring to be your best self and go for it.
Do you have something really great to share with the world ?
Does what other people think about you stops you ?
Let us consider another angle: here is a reminder of what The Self love Process wants you to focus on.

Remember there are simply five main things you can do to get back on track:

1.Love yourself on the Inside = Connect to your higher best self in self confidence
2.Accept yourself fully = No matter who does not accept you
3.Stand with yourself = In belief and Personal Power
4.Be Kind to yourself = Always say good things to and about yourself
5.Take loving Actions = Make the best choices bearing these things in mind

Most importantly if you forgive them and yourself you will feel miles better. Holding them into the energy of their rotten behavior keeps this association going. Remember Perception is projection.

Imagine something great for yourself instead.
The Self love Process online course Here

Btw if you enjoyed reading our NLP Blog then why not look through  some of our other informative posts on NLP is Fun.
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