NLP Future Pace| NLP is Fun

When we have achieved a desired change using a Neuro linguistic programming Pattern we then want to make sure the desired result is set in our unconscious and conscious congruent processes.

We can find out if we are integrating these new NLP Patterns by Future pacing an Imagined unpleasant scenario to find out how well we respond using the new patterns.

This is so simple and here is how:

Imagine a less than resourceful Trigger, that in the past you would have had a negative response to.
Fully Associate to this experience without getting lost in it, just pop in using Visual Auditary Kinesthetic Olfactory Gustatory responses.

Were you satisfied with the way you responded ?

If you were satisfied, test a few more situations that would have caused you grief in the past and find out if you have new responses that you like now there too.

If you have the same responses as before doing the NLP Pattern, then go back to the NLP pattern (you were working on) until you experience a positive and resourceful shift.

When you feel you have shifted into the desired state using the Neuro linguistic programming pattern then future pace again.

Now experience any scenerio's you wanted to double check your progress on and notice you are able to have a completely different response than before.

The new response is resourceful and maintains your desired result and is integrated unconsciously into your selections.

Have you had success with NLP Future pacing before, if so leave your comments as to your discoveries using this technique.

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Tote Model of Strategies | NLP is Fun

When providing NLP Coaching and certainly in NLP Training  we are determined to create a check point to know if a strategy of any kind is working at it's highest functioning.

For this reason, every single time we do any pattern we will use the Tote Model of strategies.

The Tote Model is not exclusive to  Neuro linguistic programming as it was created by George Miller, Eugene Galanter and Karl Pibram for developing feedback loops to developed processes that were complete for operating and monitoring human systems for problem solving.


T.O.T.E stands for Test, Operate, Test, Exit.

1) Test where the system is currently
2) Operate a solution for Improvement and higher functioning.
3) Test how well the operation worked to overall functioning of the System.
A) If it provided the Desired Outcome Exit
B) If further resources are needed continue to Operate until an Exit point has been determined by the feedback loop.

4) Exit only when satisfied with the stability of achieving desired result.

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More about your Unconscious Mind | NLP is Fun

Neuro linguistic Programming is about making sure you have more options and choices available to you at any given time.
One of the most important presuppositions then is to understand our objective is to program the Unconscious mind to be even more effective for our desired outcome.

I have written about how to "Program your unconscious mind" here  in this post I will give a few tips about what your unconscious mind is busy doing.
If your Conscious mind is a wallet, your unconscious mind is your Luggage.

The unconscious mind has stored All experience. Including experience that has been experienced "Out of consciousness"
The Unconscious mind works well to help you, and is using previously programmed information. your most frequent filtering and beliefs.
in order to change a belief it must be reprogrammed in your unconscious mind.

As you may know all transformation is created by adjusting how you do your unconscious process and the goal is to overload the critical faculty and impress you unconscious mind with the new behavior.
Using NLP and Hypnosis for this is fast and thorough.

Of course bear in mind the Unconscious mind already is working and here is what the Unconscious mind is charge of:
Your Body Functioning, it is preserving your whole body functioning entirely. All of your Neurological process is unconscious.
You can also direct these processes by programming your unconscious mind to improve the way it is functioning.
An example of which is to relax and tell your breathing to slow down. Did you know that many mentalist's slow their heart rate down so that it practically stops but beats just enough to keep them alive.
And all Pain may be controlled by programming your unconscious mind.
Watch this Derren Brown clip from "Something Wicked This way comes"  

The Unconscious mind is in charge of your real Values carrying out, preserving and enforcing your Values, this is why some times a goal has not yet been achieved as there is an internal Values conflict. All new behavior must support your whole ecology and pass through your unconscious filters.

Your Emotional responses, your Brain chemistry how you are reacting according to your most used emotional responses another way of saying this is your moods.
Your Memories, Storing, repressing to protect you and representing memories in case you would like to deal with them.
Your real Preferences which means your real unconscious desires and not the ones you really don't like, (but want people to think you do like) and your filtered  perceptions.
Your Habitual behavior Patterns that you have done so much become second nature.
Your Beliefs that serve a higher purpose to your overall functioning.

Neuro linguistic programming is about improving your subjective reality which will improve your overall experience.

The best way to improve your experience is to practice using Neuro linguistic patterns that allow choice to become a normal part of your reality, and then choose a behavior that supports your outcome.

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How to develop Faith | NLP is Fun

I have written before about the NLP "Act as if"  Pattern here which is very helpful in rehearsing the idea of F.a.i.t.h :
Feel
As
If
You
Already
Have it.
This Info graphic is adapted from the "Self Confidence formula" described in the book Think and Grow Rich By Napoleon Hill.

Since I have been an NLP Mastermind Facilitator now for close to 4 years now.
Napoleon Hill speaks about the way to gain Faith through Auto suggestion which we call Self Hypnosis.
He speaks about suggestion and Mind power in programming the mind for success in order to get what you want.

In anyway of affirmation. The point is being relentless in persuading yourself it will happen.

To have confidence in oneself and ones contributions is essential. To believe that what you want and cannot see yet will materialize outside of your mind too.
In the Self love process I refer to it as "Standing with your self" If you have asked for it or put a project forward, then build up belief to impress on the unconscious mind that you are serious about it.

In other words have Faith, it will work out exactly how you want it to be.
Do you remember NLP Well formed outcomes you can read about it here  and if you want a relaxing strategy to get clearer using self hypnosis then set some time aside for 10 steps to congruent Goal achieving.

The clearer you get with your intentions, the more the unconscious mind will know exactly what you mean. And the more associated you will become to your outcomes.

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What would you do if you were not afraid | NLP is Fun

What would you do if you were not afraid ?
That is the question of all questions isn't it.
You may have heard this before many, many times and so much so that you have not yet talked the time to think about it.
It is a great question though, isn't it because .. what would you do if you were not afraid ?

And when are you likely to change this. In this Video I ask some pretty thought provoking questions. Check it out.

Next question:
Do you really want it ?
Don't you think it would be fun trying to achieve it ?

Imagine something great for yourself instead.
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Who is to Blame | NLP is Fun

I was reminded by an Info graphic on Face book about putting your power into the hands of other people.
Specifically about being afraid of what other people think about you.
The presupposition being an idea that Other peoples opinion of you is more important than what you think about you.
We have in many ways been taught that as an unconscious lesson.
It is however a powerless position, because you are then seemingly at the mercy of people and their good or bad Judgment about you.

What if they don't like you
What if they don't like what you do
What if they don't like what you say
Does that mean you are not good enough ?
In NLP we would say good enough compared to whom ( this can be a great clue to what the underlying fear is)
Surely this is exhausting !

I had a lot to say about this because I used to care so much about what people thought about me.
It was an endless parade of trying to fit into the parameters of what they (People) deemed acceptable for me.
But the trouble is the Goal post kept moving.
As I managed to squeeze into one of their boxes they would set up another, I couldn't keep up!

Photo Credit: We are all Random here via Face Book

This is why I designed The Self love Process.
This external and Inner critic that finds something wrong in all you do can also become an anticipation.You may have been doing this your whole life and so much so that you believe somebody is to blame for this.

Instead of focusing on Blame, Focus on feeling better. Filtering differently is essential to renew your personal power.

You can re-frame this and just stop doing what makes you unhappy in other words just value yourself.
Truthfully, I had to just learn how to breathe and focus on what would I like, and how do I feel about myself.

Take the spotlight off them and bring it back to the fact that you deserve to express yourself however you like.

This truly is a Self esteem issue. As you build up your own Self worth your perceptions will change about "Trying to fit in" and "Make yourself small" for others.

I gave it a great deal of thought since 4 years later it popped up again on my time line review asking me if I would like to share it again or ignore it.
It was a great way for me to think about how I personally had evolved since first posting it.
Not only this,it is just a few Days since Prince died at just 57 years old.
I loved Prince to me he was an original who believed in himself in the most extraordinary way.
He committed to his process and to living the life he preferred.
He wasn't afraid to completely switch it up at any time and he was extremely graceful while doing so.

I have seen him live three times and his death impacted me in a way that I wanted to share with others here is what I said.

" I saw Prince 3 times and every single time he was literally amazing. 
The second time I saw him I got the chance to go on a very small stage with him as he serenaded us with Guitar and song.
Of all the musicians I have seen Live, I think he was probably the most talented. 
He did his own thing and whatever he did, he was a perfectionist, he certainly was a real artist.
May you rest peacefully in Blessed Love" heart emoticone thing is for sure You Really Lived, You served a great purpose and used your life well "smile emoticon

So beautifully the time line graphic coincided with what I had taken from my experiences of Prince and how he lived.

I realized it boils quite simply down to this:
Do you allow other people to decide your life for you or do you live your life on your own terms.
Even if people have no respect for you, undervalue you or are unkind to you. Do you allow them to become more important than you especially when they are Bullying you into submission and are still not and never could ever be satisfied.

Do you remember this Blog written on NLP is Fun in 2011

I have heard and experienced so many accounts of people who have been relentlessly emotionally abused through criticism by others who do their best to control how you are living so that they can feel better about you.

It can be Family, Friends, Partners, Children, Spouses, Church / book club members you name it. A person who is Bullying you doesn't care about you understand that part first.

In 2010 I made this Video in response to the "It gets better" campaign against bullying people who are different and you can watch it here .

So let us get down to it:
Ask yourself "How can you even think of wanting to confirm to their ideas of what you should be".
Would that be living your life as if you are really Living ? or do you listen to your heart and make your way back to you and what you know is right for you.
Do you dare to live as if you really mean it shining your own light or live in fear of  them rejecting you.

Who you think you are is what matters and daring to be your best self and go for it.
Do you have something really great to share with the world ?
Does what other people think about you stops you ?
Let us consider another angle: here is a reminder of what The Self love Process wants you to focus on.

Remember there are simply five main things you can do to get back on track:

1.Love yourself on the Inside = Connect to your higher best self in self confidence
2.Accept yourself fully = No matter who does not accept you
3.Stand with yourself = In belief and Personal Power
4.Be Kind to yourself = Always say good things to and about yourself
5.Take loving Actions = Make the best choices bearing these things in mind

Most importantly if you forgive them and yourself you will feel miles better. Holding them into the energy of their rotten behavior keeps this association going. Remember Perception is projection.

Imagine something great for yourself instead.
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Love yourself first | NLP is Fun

In order to love another person, you must first learn to love yourself, well.

The art of loving yourself is a challenge in itself.
Although it can be done by first applying conscious effort into changing your internal representations around your own personal Value.

After all, You can not consistently give anything that you do not have or have not experienced fully, can you ?

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Merry Christmas | NLP is Fun

Merry Christmas and Thank you to you all who read my Little NLP Blog and enjoy all of the articles.
I always love to hear from you.

I wish you peace love and Joy on this special day that seemingly comes around all too soon.
Until our next encounter.

I wish you all the magic dust and Sparkle your heart Desires and in case you need a reminder.
Peace on Earth and Good will to all Mankind.

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You can do it for sure.

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Nadia.

There is Personal power in Releasing Judgement | NLP is Fun

There is Personal power in releasing Judgement | NLP is Fun
Do you think it is possible to release Judgement?
If you were able to notice that being judgmental of other people makes you feel bad, you may decide to work on experiencing less and less judgement.

Also all Judgement creates a habit of Self Criticism, which also feels really bad.
Judgement comes from Fear, doesn't it.

It is a way of communicating without really saying what you mean ... because you are afraid.
You are more afraid of saying what you want to say and how they will respond.
Than actually asking for what you want.

You are prejudging that they (whomever) will give you the fuzzy end of the lollipop. 

Is this a powerful position do you believe?
Did you know that One of the NLP Presuppositions is that ALL behavior stems from A Positive Intention?

When we prejudge, we do ourselves a disservice, don't we.
Lots of times what we think is not true anyway it could be a Distortion of our own making.

Our minds should be treated with great care we don't have to believe all our minds say, unless you have programmed your mind to serve you for the better, that is.

Did you know you can also help others whom are also Judgmental using NLP with elegant language patterns.

Boom. Let's Go !
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The Self Love Process by Nadia Harper | NLP is Fun

The Self Love Process is something I designed a couple of years ago.
In response to how does one actually go through the motions of loving themselves.

What specifically would they need to do.

I found that for the most part people wanted to receive more love in their lives and gravitated to external affirmation from others in the hope of experiencing a sense of love, wholeness and well being.
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The problem with this is that they frequently were looking for attention, Approval and signs of being appreciated from other people.
A need that seemed to be insatiable, not so different from an addiction.
Many of these people also had their own experience of love which meant that frequently there was a massive mismatch in the area of expectation, when they found another person who offered them love.

When I started using this in my own life, it changed my expectation in a huge way. I have taught The self love process extensively at this point, and everyone who uses it has been able to improve the way they feel about themselves, their value and their experience.

When you feel as if you are enough, everything changes.
Your relationships to others become different
How you communicate becomes different
You feel secure and comfortable in your own skin.

The thought of not being enough or fitting within other people's ideas of what you should be can no longer exist when practicing the Self love process.

You must realize this is certainly a process, the more you do this the better you feel, the more you turn your attention to all that is great about you.

Your feedback is welcome, in the meantime, please share The self love process with anyone you wish.
The  next Self Love Process Workshop

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Love is All we Need | Changing Neurology | NLP is Fun

How to Reach Peak states and Change your Neurology with NLP

NLP Has the Power to change your Emotions (State as we call it in Neuro Linguistic programming) so Efficiently. 

Emotions Much of the Time are conditioned responses anyway and are truly responses to subjective perceptions of our Experience.

How about you, have you ever stopped to think about how much time you spend feeling Bad ? 

Or are you already spending most of your time benefiting from the Power of NLP. 

Richard Bandler Co Creator of NLP says you can learn how to feel good for absolutely no reason at all. 

Years ago I really got this and started studying exactly how Moods affect our Behavior, Motivation, Action and Results.

I found something super significant, in so many different people. 

It was all about Love. The Effects of Love are the most Powerful and underrated Power up juice ever. 

For instance, Did you know:
Your Heart and Mind work as one interchangeable unit ?

and have you noticed that sometimes you might completely swear off doing a thing and as soon as somebody says the right thing, it initiates the right feeling and you can change your mind.

You suddenly feel completely different about it.

Have you heard the expression "There is a thin line between love and hate"?.

Have you ever had an argument with a family member and been furious or deeply hurt, perhaps even convinced that you will never be vulnerable again with them. And then all these feelings magically dissolve and your moods change once you get an apology or a hug.

So much so that you may even feel guilty, for being cross in the first place.

Your heart can also change your body chemistry, your moods and even your well being.

The next time you feel, sad disappointed or Mad. Just think for a moment about your heart and how wonderful it is.

Then take a moment to remember a time when you felt extremely loved or the King of them all "In - Love" at the peak of a loving relationship. You will very soon notice your feelings change and begin to flow in a direction.

Remember, since it is all in your mind anyway, you can spin feelings as much as you like.

Love is the most powerful of all emotions it can make you feel super strong or even crumple up in a heap in the corner somewhere.

Of course if you have Self love and you are familiar with living a Lifestyle using "The Self love Process" you won't want to stay in a heap on the floor. You will want to live a life full of rich peak experiences.

Find out how to get the Self love Process Coaching here 

Let us see what else we can do to change our emotions by focusing on Love, truly we can access our mind through our heart and we can access our heart through our mind. Just think about it.

The next step is begin to add some juice to those feeling moving in a certain Direction we have spoken before about  taking 15 minute Happiness Breaks to get a great mood going.

Looking forward is a great way to remember to plan things that work out well for you and create good moods more often.

I hope you have a great deal of fun playing with this and then you create a great Resource Anchor when you need it the most.

Looking at the sad bits in the past can often mean a person will miss out on their present.

If you can't think of your last lovey dovey feeling to open your heart and mind then use this exercise which is really useful to recreate a piece of your own history.

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Do the exercises provided and change your Neurology.
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