Sunday, November 29, 2009

Influences to our Language and Behavior - NLP Communication | NLP is Fun

When we think and speak something we are experiencing our own "Point of View" or "Map of the World" if you like, "our own idea of Reality".

We can often get an understanding of how people experience the world by the way they re-present this information in their Language (the words they choose to communicate).

Q: How is this possible, How can we tell so much from a person with an offhand comment or statement.

A: People translate their interpretation of an experience through their preference and most related sense of communication and add their own ideas of Beliefs Values and experiences to the mix.

People often communicate in ways that they believe are absolutes such as:
"Everyone knows we have always done it this way" .. see the Meta Model

These are Translations of the Speakers experience and not Everyone's way of understanding these experiences.
In other words this is their own "Map of the world"

These are examples of Generalizations that can be Extreme at times depending on our own Values, such as:
"You said you would always be available"
In many cases the people using these statements have been influenced in their own experience to believe these statements to be unquestionable.

And People can possibly get upset when Challenged about their beliefs.

Beliefs can become entangled with a persons Identity at times especially when many in their peer group share their same beliefs and reinforce them regularly.

This can happens in:
  • Families
  • Organizations
  • Religions
  • Peer groups
  • Fraternities
  • Cultural environments
To Challenge a persons Beliefs can leave them in a state of confusion, they may then consider everything they know to be true is untrue and feel uncertain about their life.

This can often lead to arguments and anger if a person is determined to protect their Values and Beliefs, they may not be "open" to new ideas which feel uncomfortable and unfamiliar.

* When Beliefs and Values are challenged, there is an ecological way of doing this in Neuro linguistic programming which we will discuss at a later date.

Our Communication is influenced By other factors too such as:
Our Family, Religious, Cultural, Socially appropriate Beliefs

In NLP a person will usually refer to 3 or more of these Senses in a particular order more often, even if using all 5 Submodalities VAK = Visual /Auditory / Kinesthetic are used most often even though Gustatory and Olfactory can be immense influential drivers.
  • Auditary (Hearing and Speaking)
  • Visual (Seeing)
  • Kinesthetic (Feeling and Feelings)
  • Olfactory (Smelling experiences)
  • Gustatory (Tasting experiences)
When we verbalize these representations we call them predicates.

We explain what our interpretation of these events mean to us.

And how we use our Submodality choices and convert them into the way we that we store this information.

How we then recall this information, digging into our unconscious mind, what it reminds us of and what else it connects to within us in our realm of experiences and processing.

Conclusions getting ready to communicate to the world after processing, now using our submodalities, Values, Beliefs, Deletions, Distortions to piece together "the story"

Explaining through our verbal and non Verbal communication our Take on the information after our own processing = Our Map of the world

It is not surprising when we consider these processes that we can all have "different takes" (example of Kinesthetic predicate) on the same experience.

Different things in the experience are more amplified to different people and so they may "focus more" (example of Visual predicate) on interpreting these sections of the experience as these "ring a bell" or "resound True" (example of Auditory Predicates) for them.

For now I hope this has been some "food for thought" (Olfactory/Gustatory predicate) that leaves you with a hunger for more knowledge about NLP (Kinesthetic /Gustatory predicate).

Remember, How we feel Influences our Actions and Behavior Consciously and Unconsciously. We are communicating something even by not communicating (Generalization).

Our Non Verbal Communication is even more powerful than our words (Generalization/Deletion/Distortion/MindRead and Auditory/ Kinesthetic predicate wrapped up in a "Map of the world").

Using Deletions Distortions Generalizations and often Mind Reads are common in Communication as we learn more about Language you will begin to notice these Violations more and more in everyday communication.

The objective is not necessarily to Challenge the violation, It is very useful to understand where a person is Coming from, their 'Map of the World" which will help us to learn their experience in processing and ultimately their actions.

Saturday, November 28, 2009

Fritz Perls Founder of Gestalt Therapy

Fritz Perls Creator of Gestalt Therapy and an early influence to Richard Bandler co Creator of Neuro Linguistic 
Has been spoken of as one of the Greatest Therapists of all time.
His Gestalt Therapy is an underlying Influence of NLP.
I have included these links so those of you who are 
unfamiliar with his work can now see him in action.
It is remarkable that these video's are available at all and Ihope you will find this insightful and useful.


Monday, November 23, 2009

The Marshall Tapes Richard Bandler | NLP is Fun

One of the most frequent questions I hear from people who are curious about Neur linguistic programming is What exactly is NLP. 
These Marshall rapes are vintage NLP video's explain more of what we can do with NLP with Demonstrations  .. and Tape two features Dr Richard Bandler in action.

The Clips are provided by NLP Trainer Michael Beal and a link to purchase the full tape is included.
Clip 1  A short Intro to what we can do with NLP and a discussion about Modeling and Submodalities elicitation.
Clip 2 A strategy elicitation in a client session with Richard Bandler. How the client does the specific behavior she is doing. This is essential to understand how she codes experience and to decide where to interrupt and change the coding in her behavior.

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Friday, November 6, 2009

NLP Technique -"The Threshold Pattern"

Our Next Study Group will be a demonstration and Practice of the "Threshold Pattern".

I have chosen The Threshold Pattern as I feel it is a fitting pattern to close out the Year with.

This Pattern will apply to anyone who has reached a point of movement within themselves for wanting change to occur Now in their lives.

Toward the End of the Year is a Great time to reflect on all of your successes and accomplishments and the Goals that you have not yet accomplished.

"The Threshold Pattern" will help you to Take action and start to master your Mind. Overcoming the Fear that had held you back in the past and remembering all your memories of this habit - Pain - Fear from the past. Reliving in a fully associated state several different instances of when this has been an issue before.

The fact is, it easy to get stuck in a rut at times. These things happen little by little and there are many different reasons for us to unconsciously begin an undesirable habit, at the time we may feel there is a certain amount of "Payoff" that out weighs the inconvenience of the undesirable habit Traits.

As long as we are still compromising our Authentic values for the "Payoff" we will be in what we at times call a "Stuck State", yes we may feel frustrated .. although not enough to be successful with the Threshold pattern.

The Threshold pattern will be effective when we have decided the "payoff" is no longer appealing to us and we are congruent with that.

At this point our focus is now fully associated to the pain of the Experience and the undesirable habit or behavior.

Our Values now become important again and we are able to redefine our Value's and have clarity in our Desires.

We are able to reach a permanent paradigm shift to our association with the habit or behavior.

What makes the pattern so effective is the Repulsion and Disgust with the previous behavior that you are willing to face and connect with Now, and how many times and how vividly you are willing to connect with it.

If you are planning to do this by yourself get a feel of it first as it works really well when done quickly to engage the Unconscious Mind.

Think of 5 Times at least when you were Embarrassed Humiliated and generally felt awful about the Habit/Behavior.

Imagine a Grand Scale Movie Screen. Make yourself the starring role and relive the Embarrassment, Pain, Humiliation and awful feeling as you see and hear the habit or behavior in play. *** Amplify all Submodalities *** (Senses)

Repeat this for each time that you remember this habit or behavior in action at Least 5 and do it very quickly.

Now Replay all of it in one Massive big movie of you doing the behavior /habit and commit to fully feel the disgust and repulsion of your own Accountability in this habit/behavior and just notice how pathetic you participating in the whole habit/behavior really was at the time.


Crank it up until you are so Physically disgusted that you know congruently that will never be your life again !

Future Pace and make sure you are sure you are over it if faced with the Option in the future.

If needed run as many times as necessary until you are thoroughly sick of the Idea of you doing the habit/behavior.

Do it until you get it .... Be Sure to RSVP Now  if you would like to join us.

Remember at the foundation of any habit or behavior that is not enhancing your life is an abundance of Fear.

Thursday, November 5, 2009

The Foundational Presuppositions of NLP | NLP is Fun

I love this Picture it comes from a Clip of the Matrix, an Excellent Film IMHO.
The Trilogy of the Matrix Movies are all good. I especially love the first one.

The Ideology is about Mind Bending and perceiving your experience from a different Point of view.

When you challenge the Traditional ways in which you access your own Values and Beliefs your thoughts begin to change, How you experience the world then will change also.

I like the idea of this so much I have included the clip for you to view.

So Much of what we know to be true is based on our own past Experience and that of other people and situations who have influenced us in the past, unconsciously dictates how we perceive each experience.

The interesting thing about this is that we often will not challenge our beliefs and believe them to be "Solid Gold" to the point where we may argue our Point with others and fail to see reason.
Sometimes we are actually "Arguing for our Limitations" ..

If this is of Interest to you and you would like to find out more on alternate Realities I strongly suggest you Invest in a copy of "Prometheus Rising" a Masterpiece in my opinion written by the Late Robert Anton Wilson who liked to speak about "Reality Tunnels" (or to those of you who who already familiar)... R.A.W!.

This is not his only great book so please take the time to get to know more of the books he has Authored many can be found on Amazon and I have included a Link.
Buy Books From R.A.W.

So This Leads me to Todays Topic which is about The Presuppositions of NLP.

NLP is Based on the Idea of a Certain Flexibility in Behavior, Perception and Attitude combined with building states of resourcefulness such as Confidence, Congruence and a willingness to believe in the possibility despite your most obvious current circumstance.

The Presuppositions of NLP cannot be proven to be true have been found useful as a vehicle of change and achieving out of the box thinking and so are a foundation to Universal acceptance and understanding of NLP.

I will Break these Presuppositions Down into 4 Categories:

1. Mental Processing.

The Map is Not the Territory - Alfred Korbzbski
(People Speak from their own interpretation of each experience.)

We are all slightly separate from "Reality" The maps we draw represent the experience although are not the experience ... Rather our representation there of.

People Respond according to their own internal Maps.
So depending on the persons internal interpretation of the Event will influence how He/she responds.

Meaning operates Context - Dependently
The words may be the same such as if I call my Partner Honey and I then call an old lady I help on the Bus Honey They both Mean different things.

Mind and Body affect each other
One can not operate without the other and each influence each other Mind/body act as a whole.

Individuals Function by accessing and sequencing Rep Systems
Representation systems are the way that people process and sequence the received Brainwave function that is communication into Action.

We respect each others Model of the world.
We fully understand appreciate and respect others interpret events differently to us even if we were all experiencing the same thing and interpreting it it differently.

2. Human Behavior Responses.

We are more than our Behavior
"I like Michael, although I didn't like what he did today "! (Person and Behavior are separate)

Every behavior has utility and context in some capacity
"He robbed a Bank and shot 3 people in the bank - His original Intention was to steal enough money to buy a liver transplant for his daughter - He got desperate and it all went wrong somewhere down the line". (Looking for the positive intention in each behavior) no matter how grotesque our original judgement may be.

We evaluate behavior and change in terms of context and ecology
Laughing Loudly at a funeral was inappropriate, Laughing loudly at the comedy club was appropriate. (Certain Behavior may not seem useful in one ecological circumstance although may even prove vital in others).

3. Communication Responses.

We cannot not communicate
Even without meaning to communicate we are communicating through our thoughts and energy.

The way we communicate affects perception and rejection
How we use Tonality, Facial expression, speech rate, Inflection and so on effects the delivery of the words we choose. Often changing the meaning and the way our meaning is received within others.

The meaning of communication is the response we get
The way others are responding to our communication is the way our Communication has been received (if we get responses we don't like with our communication we need to adjust our communication until we get the desired results). Accountability.

The one who sets the Frame for communication controls the actions
The originator of the communication sets the tone for the way the words are received. (Frame = Magnified interpretation)

There is no failure only feedback
As long as you have enjoyed the experience and gained something from it you are still able to continue until you succeed. Failure implies it has finished.

The person with the most Flexibility exercises the most influence in the system
More flexibility more choices which is continued movement forward as opposed to giving up or stopping because limitations of beliefs will not allow for flexibility.

Resistance indicates the lack of rapport.
With enough Rapport you can help people experience a different Map of the world and even influence them in anything.

4. Learning - Choice - Change.

People have the internal resources that they need to succeed
We have everything we need inside us, we all have the same internal processing equipment, we may just need somebody to help us access it.

Humans have the ability to experience "One Trial Learning"
humans can learn to associate anything with anything and do so very unconsciously, (this is how a Phobia is formed for example)

All communication should increase choice
If communication is masterfully crafted with flexibility in behavior and ideas the choices grow.

People make the best choices open to them at the time
People do the best they can at any given time.

We can run our own brains and control our results
We are able to control how we use our Brain and therefor are accountable for our Actions.

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Wednesday, November 4, 2009

NLP Expert & Trainer Michael Beal Interviews Nadia Harper

The following is a Link to a MP3 of Michael Beale Interviewing Me.

Michael Beale Interviews Nadia Harper

Michael Beale is one of the UK's foremost NLP practitioners and trainers. He has over 20 years of business experience, working with companies like BT, 3M and B&Q. For the past 10 years, he has specialised in helping individuals, businesses and organisations to grow and develop through the application of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).

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