Are you focusing on the problem or the solution

So many times when a person has a problem, they tell everyone they meet about their problem.
And the thing about that, is that soon your problem seems much bigger and more overwhelming.
The Solution disappears into the distance.

And you spend your time and energy worrying about the Problem and the consequence of the problem.
Scaring yourself into procrastination and just waiting for the worst thing to happen.

Or you could begin to spend more time and energy focusing on the Solution ... couldn't you ?
How about Telling everyone you meet about the solution.
I used to have that problem until I found that the real solution was making sure I spent my time and energy focusing on taking action and moving toward solutions.

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Changing a habit read this First

Have you ever tried to change a behavior and Fallen Flat ?

Check out this helpful Affirmation from Wayne Dyer 

How much harder does that become when people have seen you miss the mark on your target.
For example a New Years Resolution ...

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Remember Those of us who have ever attempted any improvement probably have experience of over coming obstacles along the way too.

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How to stop procrastination Now

"He was forever taken aback by [New York's] pervasive atmosphere of purposefulness the tight focus of its drivers, the brisk intensity of its pedestrians" (Anne Tyler).

The number one reason that people procrastinate and loose time is that they loose focus and become overwhelmed.

They take their senses and focus off their Goal and move to a larger,more sensory acute picture of something else. Something else can be anything that creates a type of Hypnosis over their attention and becomes bigger than the original Goal.


Park your outcome at the forefront of your mind until you get it

If we were to ask people about their submodalities while they are wanting help with focus we will note that the Goal is further away and in some way obscured from attainment (reach/view/sound) thus depleting the emotion and intensity from it being achievable.


Decide to stay Focused

Getting distracted is rarely logical and quite often emotional, a feeling that is less then desirable seems to somehow wash ones earlier best intentions away. 

It is usually not until much later that one realizes they have been distracted and by then they have no idea where to begin again ... and so they don't. 

Make it compelling Motivate yourself 

And yet strangely from time to time a reminder says "I must" do _____________ pops up and "Must" being a model operator of necessity is hardly compelling and especially compared to "I really want to" ___________

Just Imagine how it will be when you have it

One of the best ways to change this is to create a trance of having the end result, a trance after all is just a suggestion that does not need to ponder what if at every avenue.

A light trance after all can be compared to a vivid day dream, like a mini break, an infusion of happiness a cocktail of delight  even a moment of paradise.

Create a Plan and Prioritize 

People rarely plan to fail but by not planning and prioritizing their time and commitments often do. 

Emotions  are helpful in  sensory awareness and calibration but also are way more useful when managed, think of emotions like soda bubbles nice if you have a few in your soda but too many and it fizzes over leaving a sticky mess over  absolutely everything when you least expect it and nothing sweet or cold to drink. 

Check your emotions at the Door

If a person where to respond emotionally more often than not it can be difficult to predict any consistency in purposeful productivity, and yet easy to predict an emotional eruption sooner or later.

Manage yourself and begin to notice if and when your emotions are getting the best of you. commit to taking control of your own state of mind and well being.

NLP has numerous ways to help you with this, just pick one.

Let me know how you get on.

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Changing outcomes in communication

NLP is an extensive variety  of skills that can be applied to any genre that you can think of to improve it and communication is a huge part of this.

Internal representation

If you would like to improve anything outside of yourself you must first improve the ways that you represent information inside of yourself.

Feel great for no reason at all ... It feels Great

The way you feel is a great indicator as to how and if you are staying on course with your own self management.

Consider the impact of your non verbal communication first

The way you feel is communicated to others through the way that you communicate first Non verbally and then Verbally.

Calibrating Rapport, pacing and leading are all parts of excellent communication, we should understand that communication is much like dancing, and their are people who can dance, people who can dance well and Dancers.

Any easy way to gauge how you are communicating is to ask yourself, how do I feel in this moment.

If the answer is great then this is a solid foundation for communicating well.

Communication is much like a Dance 

After all even if a Dancer was excellent if they performed while in a really bad mood and were not able to maintain sync with their partner they would have a bad performance.

Often times sensory awareness begins before even non verbal communication, people can get a sense of how you are communicating with yourself, the world and or them at an instinctual level.

Set the Emotional Tone

In fact Dancing is completely non verbal and yet we really enjoy the emotion that is communicated in Dance, and we expect to be impacted by the emotion, don't we.

As you know communicating well has many variables and how you feel is just the foundation. Great and consistent communication is an art that takes time and practice to develop.

If you are running into confrontations often then consider this.

Remember this 

Remember Virginia Satir who point blank tells us "The meaning of your communication is the response you are getting".

Sometimes it is as simple as taking a breath and stop talking to really begin to listen.

It may feel as if you have been listening for hours, but communication will not change until you change how you feel about the communication.

If you get upset then your communication will probably upset others too.

Stop and compose yourself 

Stop and take a breath, as often as you need too.

Sometimes people are not really saying the very thing they mean, calibrate for congruence in peoples communication, so you can help them find the solution they are really looking for.

Consider other peoples Maps

We have spoken many times now about people Maps, Perceptions, Beliefs, Values, Opinions all the things that create a persons way of thinking or processing and understanding the things that  are happening.

So, communication excellence is a long term journey of personal excellence, a great question to ask yourself is what will great communication mean to me.

Good Communication equals Success 

Tony Robbins says Successful people are also great communicators.

What can you do right now to change how you are communicating ?

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Pivot Grammar | Hypnotic Language | NLP is Fun

One of the best things about NLP is our ability to influence other people through the use of Language.
I really love this simple way of phrasing embedded suggestions while creating Trance states.
Here is a Small and Powerful nugget.

Pivot Grammar (Created by Richard Bandler) is so powerful and easy to create and play with.
Here is an example:

You can ... Can you think of a time you will next use this ..
So You will ... Will You ...do it sooner or later ..
And things ..Things ..and stories that ..
Do you ... You Do .. usually ..
Your lovely .. Lovely ... your face is quite .. 

And so on ..
So getting the hang of it is super easy I am sure You are ..  Are you  going to apply it today do you think ?

Btw, It produces mass confusion when stacked and is great for on the spot scripting for pattern interrupt and Altered States that are needed for movement.
I am sure you have heard this before before this day is over you will become an expert in this pattern.

Learning language patterns can be simple and people are often already using lots of them. Perhaps even You do .. do you want to practice now, then.

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NLP Commercials at Xmas

Merry Xmas Everyone I hope you are enjoying your Holiday.
I have noticed people Love Xmas or they cannot stand Xmas, this has much to do with the Associations we connect to surrounding this Holiday.

Xmas is usually thought of as a Time to connect with Loved ones, eat drink and be merry.
It is a Field day for Advertisers who make full use of these Anchors and fire them off willy Nilly to get us spending and creating the suggestion of Magic at Xmas.

What Associations do you have to Xmas ?
If you don't like the ones you have you could always change them with the power of NLP.
I always enjoy the Commercials at Xmas to understand the way advertisers use the Power of Anchors that result in more sales.

Here are some Interesting ones to watch.



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NLP - Embedded Commands

Embedded Commands:
Here is small Chunk , you will likely find ez and Fun.
If I say to you directly "get yourself working on a plan" chances are I may meet resistance from your conscious mind which is wondering why did she say that, that's so rude and then the whole point is lost.

An Embedded Command will allow you to say what you want in an easy and elegant way as well as bypassing the Critical faculty (slipping past your conscious mind logic and reasoning).
The Critical Faculty is used to define Logic for yourself, compared to what you know to be true or realistic in your own personal Experience.

Bypasing the Critical Faculty:
Here is an example of Spiderman (who walks up a wall) and changes his clothes and then becomes a Superhero ... Logically your Critical Faculty will dispute the reality of this ... by sorting through your own experiences.


Sensory Overload - Submission to Hypnosis:
Luckily, Sensory overload is in position, just like in normal Hypnosis and eventually the Unconscious Mind takes over and the Conscious Mind (Logic Police) agree's to partake in the illusion for the sake of the overall enjoyment of the process.

Embedded Commands  - One of the 5 Subcatagories of Milton Model's Indirect Elicitation Patterns
Embeded Commands are Indirect Elicitation Patterns of the Milton model, most often used for suggestion in Communication.
Where we will see this quite a bit is in Hypnosis, Persuasion and Influence and Language Patterns used to move a process forward such as Sales and Negotiations

Indirect Elicitation Patterns Also Consist of :
Embedded Commands - As I am descibing
Analogue Marking - Making gestures to Markout Verbal or Nonverbal suggestions
Embedded Question - Questions that are sandwiched in the middle of conversation
Negative Commands - preceeding conversation with a negative - when you want somebody to do it
Conversational Postulates - Yes or No answer questions that envoke other responses

Example of an embedded Command:

I will first say something like
And when you become more comfortable in your new house as you know you will you will find you get yourself working on a plan and then things will flow much more easily and suddenly you will begin to notice opportunities are all around you, wherever you choose.

So as you can see I have used language to sandwich some Commands into the sentence.
The reason being is, if I said
Become more comfortable in your new house
get yourself working on a plan
Notice Opportunities

I may have met with resistance from the operator
Often people do not enjoy being told what to do, so the sandwich soften's it all up so it is nice and goey and easily digested.

We will speak about this again as it becomes important when we talk more about the Milton Model

Remember this chunk was a small piece of Milton Model Language
More Specifically Indirect Elicitation Patterns
and we spoke of Embedded Comands.

Next time I will share more with you about:

The Other 4:
Analogue Marking - Making gestures to Markout Verbal or Nonverbal suggestions
Embedded Question - Questions that are sandwiched in the middle of conversation
Negative Commands - preceeding conversation with a negative - when you want somebody to do it
Conversational Postulates - Yes or No answer questions that envoke other responses

Have fun practicing and let me know how you are getting on.

The NLP Interviews - Michael Perez

There is an Air of Gratitude as people are focusing on Family and Thanksgiving for the holiday coming up this week.
Seems like a great time to reflect on some Oldies and Goodies.

This week I am featuring more Interviews from The NLP Interviews we have some of the most incredible NLP interviews on this site and have alist of others we are going to add in 2011.

Today I am featuring Michael Perez who many of you know as the Incredible Community Mentor for NLP Connections sometime ago.

Michael is a wealth of information on subjects like Neuro Science, Hypnosis and NLP, I am fortunate to share that I was mentored by Michael for more than a Year and his Input and creative style of Communicating made a Huge difference to how I experience the world and help others.

He is a mesmerizing person to talk to for hours if you have a curious mind such as mine, I have fond memories of walking in Islington (London UK) with Michael and listening to his Philosphies and Teaching.

I invite you to Watch, Learn and then later Connect with the Incredible Michael Perez if you Ever have a chance to either be Coached by, Mentored By or Taught by Michael Perez I Highly, Highly, Highly recommend it.

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What's New What's Hot and What's Not - YT Updates

Hey Guys Here is a Short Vlog with some relevant Updates for all.

The Incredible Anthony Robbins

I have to say I am a major Tony Robbins Fan, I love his work and think he is great at what he does.
So I was disappointed when Breakthrough with Tony Robbins was Canceled.

Although I am not a TV watcher myself and wonder how many in his Audience of Massive Action takers really were going to be tuning in to his TV Show.

So, Too Bad the TV show didn't work out for him, I have watched two episodes that I enjoyed very well on Hulu (link included) and will tune in to see the rest as time permits.

Tony Robbins seems to attract strong responses in the NLP Community some like him some loath him, in spite of it all he is making a difference in the lives of the Masses and affecting many who love his brand of Personal Development.


I recommend his Book Unlimited Power, in my opinion it is still a great Timeless classic Personal Development with tons of Techniques to introduce people to the Philosophies of NLP and specifically State Change, Internal Representations, Strategies, Physiology and More.

It sells for practically nothing on Amazon, with 92 plus out of 148 reviews giving it 5 stars:


Have some Fun with it and check it out for yourself.
Many people tell me it has helped them get a more thorough understanding of other NLP books that were less personal Development oriented.

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NLP - Spinning Feelings Changing Brain Chemistry on Demand | NLP is Fun

One of the Great Things about Feelings is that they can always be changed.
Taking control of your life means paying attention to how you feel, and Often.

Noticing how you feel is a great way of taking Action and beginning somewhere.
Next Time you Feel

Stop Every thing and Begin to notice where that Feeling is coming From and what sensations it is causing within your body, There will be a flow and Directional Feeling.

If you decide to change the Feeling of not having much Fun, Change the Direction and begin to Spin the feeling at a new intensity in the new Direction

What you are showing in your Mind movie makes a Massive Difference.

Play a Brand New Event, until you Loose the Old one that was making made you feel bad on Auto Play.

Get a Happy Merry go round picture going on in your internal representations - Can you remember a time as a child you enjoyed riding one of these ?

Can you remember the Sounds of the Music and the squeals of Delight and Laughter of all the Children with loved ones having a Great Time ?

One of the Things I remember is the smell of

As we would walk on the

And if I was reaaaaaaallllly lucky I would be allowed to have a Steaming Hot

Now what memories can you remember, that change your Brain chemistry Immediately ? Have some Fun with it, and Practice makes things seem much better much Faster.

Think in terms of unlimited possibilities and live better.

Boom. Let's Go !
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Become the Observer - NLP

Can you Observe yourself having a Thought without Judging the Thought ?

You can observe ... "I am feeling _______" and then just notice .
You may then like to ask yourself "How was this Feeling created" ?

Putting yourself into a Cause position instead of Effect means you can be accountable for Creating this Feeling.
So you may like to ask "How did I create this feeling" ?

When you begin to question your thoughts instead of randomly accepting them it provides a checkpoint to explore the meaning of your Feelings.

Perhaps you will notice a pattern forming.
You may like to begin to Journal and observe your thoughts more often.

For sure you will notice some themes and trends in your thinking in due time.
Make it fun all Exploration of Thought is progress as long as you continue to explore.

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Mind Power - Meditation

I wanted to speak about Meditation briefly and introduce the Concept as something useful when used in conjunction with Reprogramming the mind.

It is a very peaceful act and very rewarding in so many ways.
I hope you can begin to incorporate Meditation into your own personal Development.

There is more to say about how meditation works etc although my intention here is just to introduce the Value of Meditation.

We can discuss other levels of mediation in the future.
here is a Video to explain how to begin if you are not sure.

How God Changes your Brain Chemistry

Can you Change your Brain Chemistry By Focusing on a Positive Idea of God ?

One of my favourite things to do is to Listen to the "TED" Talks and also Learn more about Brain Chemistry.

I have spent a great Deal of Time Listening to Deepak Chopra's Teachings on Meditation and how this also changes your Future by Challenging Beliefs by Focusing on Peace and wellness, I will discuss more about this on another post.

I find great Peace in the idea that we all are connected, and that our individual thoughts can change the World at Large.

To me this is obvious, I can think of many ways Negative and Positive thinking has changed the world we live in.

One of the Concepts Mark Teaches, is Meditating on a Big Positive Idea whomever' Idea is not the question. What is important is the way it changes our Brain Chemistry, Our Feelings, Expectations and Actions.

In my opinion God is for all who choose the belief regardless of your Organization or Religion.

I believe that God is part of a larger belief system and means different things to different people, for example to find 5 members of any one Religious Organization that agree on everything would be just about impossible.

Many will say "Faith is the Substance of things Hoped for, the Evidence Unseen" !
That is the tough part.

If you are religious or not this is the Stem belief of creating the Impossible. Manifesting, believing in something better for yourself.

We all have the right to believe what we Like, many Empowered people I know have no belief in God.
The Idea of Love for each other which also Incidentally changes our Brain Chemistry is what is really important.

"We are all members of the Church of Humanity, Life !"
Mark Waldman

So Please enjoy this Food For thought.

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This Video is courtesy of Mark Robert Waldman

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NLP - Time Distortion

Sometimes it is useful to slow down time if it seems Time is going to quickly and you are running out of it and Speed up Time when Time is going to Slowly.

How can we slow down Time, surely that is not possible ?

How we react to Time has more to do with our own Projections in any particular Moment, and we are learning to suggest different things to our mind, so that our mind learns to Execute the action and not worry about too much or too little time.

Can you think of a Time that Time seemed to actually last for allot longer than it really did, Like an Exam, an unhappy Holiday Dinner, a Date that was going wrong or a situation you would rather not have been in.

Even Dreams seem to last longer than they Do.

You can make time to slow down or speed up it is an amazing resource that can be used in any way you can imagine, you can even make up for lost time by speeding things up or enjoy a moment much longer by slowing time down.

Your mind will process Time differently at the Speed of light with just a suggestion directed at the Area you would like to focus on.

If you would like to Focus on Time speeding up you can imagine that you are standing perfectly still and that the world is moving at warp speed around you, if you are studying you can make suggestions that everything you are studying is becoming perfectly integrated within your unconscious mind as you are processing this information clearly and concisely at Warp speed and all of the resources are available to you just as soon as you like.

If you wa----nnn----tttt ooooo g-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-ooooooooooo sssssss----ssssss---lllllllllloooooooooooowww mmmmooooooooooo------t-t-t-t-t-t-t-t-t-t-t-tiooooooonnnnnn yyyyyyyyyoooo begin to slow everything down so that the world around you becomes veeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrryyyyyy sloooooooowwwwww and again, you make the suggestions that you can savour every last milisecond of the experience as time goooess past and almost stands still in the especially good moments that you enjoy.

One of the things I like to do is Freeze negative thoughts in the Air and just let them suspend in time until I can either visualize and hear them shatter to the floor like broken glass or some of the more persistent thoughts can be put into another more resourceful time for me to sort through !

I can even push some of the thoughts back in time to the rightful owners people who originated these thoughts in the first place.

Have fun with it, and discover how you can change perceptions about time. There are so many ways you can play with Time and use it to your advantage.

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NLP - All Behavior Stems from a Positive Intention | NLP is Fun

One of the NLP Presupposition' is :

All Behavior Stems from a Positive intention. This is a Great way of thinking and getting on the path of becoming more objective with your Thinking.
It can help you to loosen the grip to viewing the outcome from your own eyes only.

Sometimes we can be sure that a person means us harm, when really they are coming from a place of Positive intention, although it is possible you may not be included in their thoughts of positive Intention.

When they had the original thought, it was to respond to an intention that to the best of their ability (at that time) was Intended as Positive.

Sometimes The Positive Intention get can lost along the way, somewhere and when Feelings are involved and Emotion runs high, things can get Fuzzy.

Sometimes the best thing to do is Remember all of our Behavior stems from a positive Intention.
Try remembering for a week to see how you get on, and let me know how it changed your Own thinking.

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NLP - Moods and The Weather - S.A.D | NLP is Fun

Can Pictures make you feel Differently ?
Let's Find out here are a few pictures and they are all Different. It will be interesting to make your own notes of what Anchors they invoke in you and begin to notice how they change your own Physiology.

I am noticing a Change in my temperature already, what about you ?

How does this make you Feel are you noticing ?

Wow Quite a Big Shift I would say.

Yikes !

Ahhh That seems so much better.

Studies have shown that the Weather affects our Mood and in fact they have named it, S.A.D Seasonal Affective Disorder !
More info about it here More on SAD

I wonder what else can affect our Mood and we haven't yet realized, Any thoughts ?
Hmmmmmm !

Within this little  NLP Blog there are more than 200  Empowering articles to help you along. Do the exercises provided and change your Neurology.
You can do it for sure.

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NLP | Anchoring | What comes first the Thought or the Feeling ?

In NLP one of the Presuppositions is that Mind and Body Function As one System.
For Example an Idea that is created in the Mind manifests itself in the Body and in fact the Brain is a part of the Body.

This might cut to the chase on why an Idea that is created as thought produces behaviour action that perhaps is not even conscious Action, Like a Habit

This is a Huge point to consider when watching your thoughts as it is more likely that the unconscious mind's desires will win !

Interesting is that many literary staples discuss these ideas Including the Bible:
"As a Man Thinketh in his Heart so is He"

By the way what kind of Anchors "Conditioned responses" does this visual create for you ?

"He thinks in Secret and so it shall come to Pass" comes from James Allen Essay "As a Man Thinketh"
We can find many, many examples of this school of thought.

What do you think comes first the Thought or the Feeling ?

When we think a thing that attaches to a conditioned response it unconsciously changes the way we are feeling, and if we feel bad about a thing we often "Feel" Hopeless and can decide unconsciously not to bother with any further Action, we can "Give up" without any real proof we should.

Thoughts Create Feelings which determine our Actions !

Conditioned Responses can be so subtle we may not even know what has triggered it.
And Conditioned Responses (Anchors) are installed often in Todays society because they are so effective in changing moods.

Think Advertising:

Can you hear the Jingle and add the Catchy Phrase
Just some Food For thought !

More posts on Anchoring
Change your Mood quickly with positive anchors

About Spatial Anchoring 

How to Chaining Anchors

How to Anchor a Peak state

Enjoy, and I look forward to your thoughts.
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Using NLP to Change your Life

Before you decide to Change it is important to experience what the change will feel like, look Like Sound Like and if it is a good "Ecological Fit" for you.

One of the ways we can do this is by Building the Desired State First, you can do this by fully engaging all sensory experience to the change and running it through your mind and Physiology right now.

You can play with Submodalities to improve your experience while intensifying the state.

Get yourself to a place of believability and excitement, this is really important.

It is not only useful and fun, it gives you a chance to really experience what the change will be like and the best of all is that your unconscious mind will have the experience stored in your memory muscle.

When you get to "Peak State" then Anchor it so that you can fire this anchor whenever you like, this is great for times you are in public and want to rekindle your Excitement and motivation.

It has been proven that leading Athletes, Actors, Speakers and other successful groups get "Into A Peak state" like this way before getting the real job done!

Some engage these techniques as much as they physically practice.

Also the more you do this the more it becomes a reality and a habit, which strengthens the Neuro pathways you have created to develop this new habit.

After doing this for the first time Decide where you are right now. Engage your physiology to work with you and journal your findings.

The next step is to "build a bridge" to where you are going, your motivation is now on your side as you have experienced it at "Peak State" and anchored it.

Fire your anchor as often as you like.

What resources do you need to get to the Change "New Habit"

Make  a list of things that will improve your chances of being successful. Put your list s a reminder someplace you can see it first thing in the morning.

Keep building the Peak state and making the Peak state Pictures, Sounds and Feelings larger than the Current state, this will help you to remember what to focus on.

The closer it is to you the better it probably feels.

It is likely you notice how much submodality subtle shifts make massive improvements to your sensory experience.

Work your plan and keep calibrating, find out how and if the plan is working.

Test your Journey, you can Future pace and keep future pacing until you know you have a way to connect all the resources together to cross you over your bridge to make the change.

Remember creating a change has to begin with a huge desire from within to move towards your change. This usually happens when you are sick and tired of the state you are now in.

Have fun with it and journal your findings.

Flexibility is key and there is no wrong way to do it, experiment until you get it right for you.

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