Saturday, July 7, 2018

NLP | How to Improve your calibration skills | NLP is Fun

You can improve your NLP Calibration skills right now, even if you believe you are rubbish at it so far.
I know you have heard a about  NLP Sensory acuity and  NLP Calibration.
Now let us go in a little deeper.

When you experience your NLP Practitioners training you learn the importance of Calibration for building Rapport, and for effectively using NLP full stop.

We improve our calibration not just at NLP Practitioners training but constantly.
The better we are at calibrating in NLP, actually the more flexible we can be and the more we can understand a persons Model of the world and how they are processing.

One of my greatest hero's Bob Marley said among other great things:
"Every action causes a reaction .... "

Honorable Robert Nesta Marley 
Now to calibrate also can mean to negotiate ....
Even at a stand still

In fact to Calibrate means to understand the unconscious non Verbal signals.
The out of conscious truth.
All NLP is based on unconscious processing.

You may be able to know what the Transmitter transmits before the Transmitter consciously knows he/she is transmitting such evidence.

This is the beauty of NLP and they may say to you "How did you know this, are you a mind reader ?"
Interesting isn't it.

To be a great communicator can make you a person who thinks differently, staying in the game longer and pays more attention to the other stuff...
This actually is certain as long as you are improving with Neuro linguistic programming.

Like .... The stuff the transmitter is actually communicating unconsciously.

To observe these transmissions is the beginning.
You have yet to understand what the transmitter can mean by them within this particular context.
However, honestly you now just have a starting point.
Although, you my be piecing it together.

Remember, as an NLP'er we are looking for any thing different, This means:
It feels different 
It Looks different 
It sounds different  
It smells different 
It tastes different 

The combination of any of these things are clues,
The more you know how to calibrate the easier it will be to solve the puzzle.

You can learn how to understand a persons sequences and this is the goal of calibration.
In NLP this will be their processing strategy.
It is a recipe,
If you observe the person under stress, this is a clue to pay more attention to their behaviour now.

What you hear and see may not match what your unconscious intuition is telling you. This is important to know for a few reasons:

 You may miss the turning point of any situation leading you to fail to resolve a thing or worse.
A) with a coaching client
b) Family member
c) Loved one
d) New Job
e) More money or an extended offer

In other words always look for the opportunities.
As with anything, practice makes perfect.

Remember we are looking for any glimmer of a shift in state.

Some traditional NLP areas are

Colour change
Micro expressions
Breathing changes
Posture Change 
Sudden movements anywhere
Eye changes
Flaring of nostrils
Tonality shifts 
Different eye accessing cues   
This is not all please note ALL Subtle state shifts.

Most of all real eyes learning NLP is an ongoing unconscious awareness that will become natural to maybe in the begiing and certainly in the end.
So please refrain from overwhelming yourself and remember to chunk down.
You have got to Relax ...
Learning is easier when you are more relaxed 
And also
You can focus on a certain area if you like.

Btw did you know, many people miss loud body language signals and only listen to the words.
They may even argue against unconscious signal being real.
This makes me giggle, every time.
Especially if they are firing off loads of theirs while explaining their delusions.

Remember what Bob said 
Every action causes a reaction.
Well begin to notice your own reactions.
Are you easily triggered .... ?
What about if People don't believe in NLP 

When I first started I must admit I wanted everyone to learn it.
I still do, although I do not get upset any more if people do not follow through after knowing the value of NLP.

As my grandmother used to say "It will all end in tears you know"
She felt as if practically everything was going to end in tears so no real Biggie ..

Notice what you notice and trust yourself.
Have fun with it. 

Sunday, July 1, 2018

NLP | The Mother of all NLP | NLP is fun

The Mother of all NLP Patterns is a pattern that is a foundation in all NLP Change work.
Because of this we can call it a Meta Pattern.

It is a very simple pattern structure and credit goes to John overdurf and Julie Silverthorn
The pattern in my opinion begins with it's title, how hypnotic is this The Mother of all NLP ..
What does this generalization presuppose for you ?

Ok here are the componants.

1) Represent the present state:
What is the fully associated present state

2) Representation of the desired state
Fully associate using full V.A.K.O.G

3) Identify the resources

Now let us try it on, you can follow along if you like.

1) What is the problem - describe it, see it, feel it.
Fully associate

2) Break state - shift focus radically
Neutralize the association
Bring the person into the now / out of the past effect of the problem
Shift state to a more appealing now

3) Create and design a more wellformed outcome
Help them walk this through and associate to it fully V.A.K.O.G

4) Identify the Resources needed and apply them

5) Amplify the associations to the resources, connecting resources to the original problem creating the result.

Future pace T.O.T.E

Remember your Resource, Resource anchor must create a powerful propulsion system that collapses the original anchor.