Tuesday, September 16, 2014

NLP Meta Model - Lost Performative - NLP Language Pattern

NLP Meta Model - What is a Lost Performative

The Lost Performative NLP Language Pattern is a Distortion from the NLP Meta Model.
It is jumbled up info about the speakers Model of the World the persons specific belief, that lacks clarity and about the actual limitations in belief at this point.
It is a Value Judgement of what is an important belief to the speaker. This one is like placing high value or emphasis on what we are saying, while not including most of what we are saying.


So what the speaker is saying, is vague at best.
Which makes it super Persuasive / Hypnotic due to the ambiguity the listener needs to move into the direction they are steered into with the speakers statement.

Examples:
Thats a silly thing to say
You know we don't do that
This is not the right way to do it
Big Girls don't cry
etc ...

So we would like to know Who the person is who is doing the judging and how does the speaker knows this for sure.
In other words, you really just want to know How the person knows the information. we will restore the deleted and Distorted Info.

The speaker may not have a real answer and therefore will need to consider their own attachment to the judgement.

Belief Change:
It has been said the person with the most certainty wins, so this statement will be challenged one question at a time.
The people who is using this types of language believes them to be absolutely true and without exception.
Of course this demonstrates their own deep structured belief system.

I like to think of belief change as simply moving stacks to where you would prefer them to be.
We will separate each statement as a layer on the belief stack and examine it by beginning with the following, and following the thread until all of the missing info has been recovered.

Then we will create new more useful stacks of certainty in the favour of the speaker in a Coaching context, in a Sales or Business Context. Win / Win = For the good of all involved.
****Please note: I am not a therapist and this is why I have not spoken about any other context.

Side note on Judgement:
I have come to realize there is little or no value in judgement. It simply is just not the only way to formulate an opinion and since people are experiencing through subjective reality it does not communicate the whole story.
I prefer to act on a case by case basis.
Robert Anton Wilson summed it up best for me when he said:
I put things in probabilities and not absolutes. To find out more about Robert Anton Wilson and his support of "E Prime" in support of non judgement click here 

Never listen to other people who say you cannot do something. It may be true that they could not do it but perhaps you can!

Here is an exercise you can use to Challenge a Judgement or to Install a Judgement, like in Hypnosis.
It is because you are noticing your eyelashes getting heavy that you can just close your eyes .. now.

Challenging a Lost Performative
We can also challenge a Judgement by asking any one of the following :
According to who
Says who
Who said that
Where did you get that Info
Did somebody tell you that

By asking one of the suggested questions above, you are encouraging them to continue thinking about how they know this information.
In the questioning process the speaker will come to realize their belief can be adjusted.
These deletions of the who the Performer is usually house pockets full of pain regarding the specific areas in which the speaker is mentioning.
During conversation these will be loosened by this exercise and perhaps replaced with the news stacks.

Enjoy playing with this to move the process forward and thank you for stopping by.

Friday, September 12, 2014

Hypnotic Visualization Process - Visualizing in HD - Teleseminar

Hypnotic Visualization process was a Blast this week, it got a great response from all who participated and was such a lot of fun to to do.


How was your week, ever since I have been working on my own personal development and Professional Development. I have really Grown, as I am sure you are noticing in yourselves too.

I strive as much as I ask from my clients and students, which has been so helpful in helping me to design, simplify or construct new processes that help people to achieve their Outcomes.

When I created the Hypnotic Visualization Process, it was because I realized that when we were doing our mental drills as some many of the NLP Exercises call for, some people were struggling to move their internal representations to satisfactory visualizations.

Some told me they could not visualize and truly believed that while they were already using visualizations heavily.
So I created this Class to focus on just this specific area of Representation systems.
The reviews I got from Hypnotic Visualization process can be found here Also, If you would like to experience it for yourself then you should join us via Tele seminar Featuring the Hypnotic Visualization Process on Monday September 15th at 11am PST.
Enjoy your weekend.

Sunday, September 7, 2014

NLP Mindprogramming Audio - Expect the best

NLP Motivation Audio for your listening pleasure.
When you expect the best you teach your unconscious Mind to begin to expect the best in any situation you encounter,
This helps you to focus on consistently making progress in all your undertakings and Act as if everything is going to go in your favor.

Listening to this NLP motivation audio consistently will help you to program your own mind to expect the best.

NLP Training in Las Vegas

NLP Training in Las Vegas, is always made as fun as it possible, which means nobody knows what will happen apart from the fact, it will be fun.
The reason being, is that I remember what it is like when you first start out learning Neuro Linguistic programming. I have trained enough people who have already taken NLP Practitioners training with other people and are not sure what thy know,
I have met people who have tried their hardest to learn more about NLP and given up.

The fact remains, people are still curious about NLP and want to know how to understand it, and master it.

When you become an NLP Practitioner, you are just beginning your Journey into the deeper levels of this amazing life adventure which is not for the faint of heart.


NLP Practitioners frequently come to me for training and coaching because they just have no idea how to put everything together.
I know that for many it can be overwhelming.

Richard Bandler says (and I wholeheartedly) agree the most important thing is, to find more ways to feel better.
Remember all learning is state dependent, if you are panicking about  what you don't know you are not focusing on what you do know.

And let's face it, you know some things, some good things .. I am sure. That is something you can truly be proud of.

Practice what you know and find somebody else who likes the idea of NLP, maybe start a blog of your own and Practice as much as you can.

Better still contact me and take some training or coaching to put it all together.
Here are the details of my next NLP Training in Las Vegas, Nevada.
And most of all Learning NLP is Amazing when you Remember to have fun.

Thursday, August 14, 2014

People have all the Resources they need - NLP Presupposition

One of the NLP Presuppositions is People have all the resources that they need.
It is quite an interesting statement isn't it, perhaps you have your own opinion about it too.

Remember Opinions are created by your own subjective reality. This is a result of your own life experience and what has been taught to you by those you respect and have come to love as your figures of authority.
So even though your opinions are extremely important to you, let's lay them to the side for just a moment so that we can explore this new way of thinking.

Richard Bandler has said "People work very well they just run poor programs"  
These programs have to do with how a person is managing their sensory experience and their internal representations.
What they can hear
What they can see
What they Feel, because of the meaning they have created from the above.

In laymen terms these are their emotions, and the vehicles they choose can be behaviors like::
Procrastination 
Fear 
Depression 
Lack of Creativity 
Anger
A Focus on Scarcity
Looping the same problem over and over again 
Doubting themselves
Lack of Belief in anything Good
Negative attitude
Reluctance to change for the better
Lack of accountability 
Feeling sorry for themselves or feel like a victim

And so on.
So while we all have the same capability to problem solve and create new situations internally, when a person is unsuccessful in managing their emotions most of the time, the less results they will achieve externally.
Usually they will experience a sense of powerlessness.
They will feel as it they have limited choices, in just about any situation because this way of thinking becomes a habit.

Then their focus begins another loop of the same old stuff.
It is like a dog chasing her tail, which can be nice as a game but not so much as a success strategy.

Sometimes people are doing the wrong things, at the wrong time. This causes a lack of progress it is like putting a wrong region dvd on into an incompatible machine.
No matter how much you want the to see the movie, it will not work until you change either the Dvd, the coding or the machine..


Perhaps you insist on getting popcorn and sitting in front of it hoping it will all work out for the best. Then you get upset because it is not working and then say "Nothing ever goes right for me" you are not acknowledging your own part in the fiasco.

That is what Richard Bandler means by saying  "People work very well they just run poor programs" 
On the other hand, programs were written to be updated and adjusted.

We have seen severely disadvantaged people:
Physically
Socioeconomically
Culturally
Mentally
Geographically
Overcome Massive Obstacles in their life.
Which of these stories, stands out to you the most ?

“...an optimistic mind-set finds dozens of possible solutions for every problem that the pessimist regards as incurable.” Robert Anton Wilson (Cosmic Trigger).

If you want to create something that you are challenging yourself with:

1. Find and example to Model and notice everything about how they are doing what they are doing.
2. Realize you have in within your neurology to change the direction of your thinking and behavior
3. Start somewhere and there is no need to Rush is, slow and steady wins the race
5. Remove the obstacles that stand in your way one at a time and consistently
6. Focus only on your End Goal, resist the temptation to tell yourself it is Hard or that you can not
7. Encourage yourself and Tell yourself your current circumstance can be changed with your Actions
8. Change the way you use your mind, feel good = good Actions = Feel better = better connection to goal
9. If one person can do it, so can you and you can also even be the first to do it, if you like
10. Create a Map from start to finish and consistently adjust it until you get there

Enjoy your life now, because Now is where we are.
We are here now, in a minute we will be somewhere else. If you live in "what if", you are missing it and will never have the chance to enjoy "Now what shall I accomplish next"  !

Have you signed up for Monday Motivation yet ?

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

NLP Language Patterns - Non Sequitur Suggestions

Lets talk about NLP Language patterns today.
Quite frequently people speak in Non Sequiturs they begin with one statement and attach another seemingly irrelevant statement as a conclusion.
This can be quite confusing and distracting to listen to. It is usually used as a detour, a decoy, the person changes the subject by using this technique and your attention must shift when you allow it to go unquestioned.
Many of today's Reality TV shows are filled with people who use these as everyday language.


If any of you work with Coaching clients or in Management of people these non Sequiturs often shine a light on a Limitation and disconnect in a persons thinking. The person is not connected to their own accountability role, due to a deficit in belief of the available resources perhaps.

On the other hand, they are wonderful to use as a pattern interrupt and a confusion induction in persuasion, covert Hypnosis and Ericksonian Hypnosis.
So let us play with them a little, or a lot ..

Here is what they sound like:

1.You can Hear the Relaxing sound of my voice so you will go into Trance faster with grace and ease
2.Lots of people have had success with NLP and you can Visualize yourself at your Best now
3.Exercise is great for the mind because you begin to notice yourself being even more productive now
4.Practice makes perfect so you can notice becoming even more confident
5.Everyone likes chocolate and having a good night of sleep helps a person wake up early in the morning

Example One:
There are three parts to this sentence:
First part of sentence 1.
"You can Hear the Relaxing sound of my voice"

Then a bridge in the middle
Second part of sentence 1.
"So you will" 

The third part is a totally unrelated end statement
End part of sentence 1.
"Go into Trance faster with grace and ease"

Example Two:
First part of sentence 2
"Lots of people have had success with NLP"

Second part of sentence 2
 "and you can"

End part of sentence 2
"Visualize yourself at your Best now "

Ok, I wonder if you are getting the hang of it now because then you will become more flexible in your own communication.

Have fun practicing these Non Sequitur Suggestions

Tip:
The two statements do not need to have any relationship to each other
It implies that the end result is a conclusion of the first statement
It does not need to make sense
It bypasses the critical faculty
The person goes inside their head to search for understanding of your statement = Hypnosis
Think in terms of rhythm when putting them together.

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

NLP - External Auditory Representation System

People who prefer to use their hearing for internal Processing tend to indicate or even point towards their ears.
Their ears are attached and they are attached to their ears.
So much so that while listening their eyes will often shift from side to side.



As in Eye accessing cues going to Auditory Construct = Listen to (Right ) and Auditory Recall = Remembered Info (Left).
The sounds they experience are super important to them which means so are your words and Tonality.
So make sure you are following their own preferred style of communication by listening to when they breathe and speak at their own volume etc.

Their Primary Focus is in this area of processing, in order to understand and be understood faster is to use this Modality as a lead in your communication.

Also they have a quite dense way of communicating frequently in long winded explanations as opposed to direct short and sweet answers.

It could be said they enjoy the sound of their own words, on the outside too.
They also spend a great deal of time listening to their own words on the inside of their head.

If it seems they are inside more than Outside then they will be considered Internal Auditory Digital.
who are influenced by what is going on inside their head more than people who are Auditory and Externally Influenced.

External Auditory are very good at listening and they are looking for the whole story, an extremely detailed explanation, that answers all of their questions in your communication.

The NLP Communication Model 
They are interested in knowing how the whole process works and in what order they can expect it.
Then will do an internal Transderivational search (do you remember the NLP Communication Model ) which you will witness (if you are paying attention) In their accessing cues.

Frequently you will find their breathing responding to the Rhythm of the speakers tonality as they begin to process what they just heard.
This shows them "Trying it on"
If you want them to learn something new it is a good idea to play up to their hearing capabilities for them to be more "In tune" to what you are saying.

Remember if there is a great deal of noise competing with the Speaker, these listeners will become overwhelmed and distracted, so make sure you are in a place where they can hear you clearly.


You may already know that Auditory People are interested in Reading, Learning, Music, and Understanding new concepts.
They may always have a set of headphones on because sound quality means quality all the way around to them.
They are responsive in debates and have their own ideas with which they will want to compare new information to understand it perfectly.

Of course you will also use the Auditory Predicates to use their preferred words that describe their experience.You can re use the ones they have already picked if you like.

If you find that this reminds you of yourself, you can use this simple exercise to change the meaning in experiences you have had in the past that rubbed you the wrong way.
Once you get the hang of it you can use it every time because it is super easy to do.

Here is How to change the Movie Music

If you think about How a Movie Anchors you to the Music which heightens your viewing pleasure, you can do something similar in your own head.

1. Pick a Memory that you were extremely unhappy about.
a)Think about it, while noticing all images and sounds play it till then end as if it is a Movie.
b) Now Take Note of how you Feel after experiencing it all.

2. Pick a Song that is Upbeat (perhaps from a happy movie you liked) or your favorite Dance Tune, or a Hilarious Cartoon for example.
***Please note the new music has the power to change your state in a big way.
I like this one and the best part about it, is that I cannot keep still when I hear it.
Music that changes Physiology has a Massive amount of power for instant State change.
Remember pick the one you prefer.


 3.Now Crank it up at Top Volume so much so that You are feeling pretty Great and then, play the movie again all the way till the end of the song.

4. If you want to, do it as many times as you like, because I bet you your feelings will change each time.
a) Play it until you only have a connection to the Happy Tune
b) Turn the music off when you feel ready and rewind the movie to the beginning and notice how you feel
c) If that tune doesn't work, pick another tune one that you want to play with, maybe Rocky, (Gonna Fly now) which is another empowering favorite of mine.