Friday, October 30, 2009

Control your Internal Dialogue | NLP is Fun

How much time do you spend worrying about things over and over again.

Or saying things to yourself to steal your Joy or make yourself feel bad.

Do you focus on things about yourself that make you feel bad.

Hear somebody from your past Knocking you and saying unkind words about you.

Talk yourself out of doing a thing and Repeat it over and over again.

If you have this kind of negative internal dialogue on Autorepeat in your head, you will soon find yourself lacking Confidence as you talk yourself out of things.

Even though these are only thoughts, thoughts become Suggestions when repeated and suggestions that are believed become Action which becomes our behavior.

Do you know that these thoughts even change your Physiology, the way you experience the world and interpret your experience with other people.

Let's talk about a way you can change all of this easily and with Practice, using NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming).

Self suggestions are just as powerful as Hypnotic suggestions it is a process or hypnotizing ourselves to believe what we repeatedly say to ourself these become familiar thoughts and lead to predictable Actions.

It's kind of like having a nagging Person constantly telling you, you are not good enough and in the end it may not seem worth even trying new things to improve your life as Fear and doubt begin to take over your thoughts.

Just for today ... begin to notice the kind of thoughts you are having, and how many of these are negative suggestions ?

When you become aware of the patterns you run through your mind you can interrupt them and also change them with a bit of practice.

Do you really believe you can change these negative thought patterns ?

Changing habits begin with a strong desire to take action now when you have decided the habit is no longer useful or helpful to you.

If you are ready to begin now here is an exercise to practice.

Sit comfortably and Close your eyes, listen to the direction your internal voice is coming from and note the tonality of the voice you may even recognize it as a voice from your past instead of your own voice if you really focus.

Now Change the Tonality of your voice into something utterly ridiculous, like a pink cow chewing green grass and saying these things with a mouse in a circus costume on their back.

Have fun with it and notice if you make the voice slow or stutter or high pitched or raspy and sexy how this changes the impact of your internal dialogue.

The more ridiculous the voice and then had your funny images the more you disarm the Impact of the voice, and you begin to feel better already.

Now find a voice that suits where you want to go with it, and also try that voice on, picture your own most powerful voice even see yourself at a time you were most powerful ;)) and now strongly place that voice in the direction you originally hear the voice coming from.

Take a moment to think about some negative things in the past you were used to saying inside your head.

Replace each negative statement with a confident and powerful statement instead using your new unwavering Powerful voice AND EXPERIENCE your most powerful Image.

How do you like that, I bet it feels amazing.

Do this as often as you can, and if for example you slipped back into old habits of negative internal dialogue just interrupt yourself Immediately, easy peasy !

Richard Bandler co - Founder of NLP says say Shut up "Shut up Shut up Shut the ____ UP"!

You can say whatever you like and make sure to remember when you are interrupting a pattern to make it juicy, so it must make an immediate impact and be a complete contrast to the mood your were in before.

Invent a pattern interrupt statement now so you are prepared...

Continue to repeat your new positive statements in your powerful unwavering voice.

Notice how this begins to change how you feel about yourself look in the mirror and watch your physiology change and note all other subtle shifts.

Now let's see how far we have come ...

Notice how your Physiology looks when you say negative words to yourself too, and remember how you communicate with yourself is the way you will experience the world and people will experience you.

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Tuesday, October 27, 2009

NLP Technique "The Agreement Frame" | NLP is Fun

You would not keep throwing multiple Balls to your dog in the park if you only wanted him to fetch the first one … Would you?

The Agreement Frame this is very useful in conflict resolution of all kinds as well as Sales and Negotiation. While a very simple language pattern to use the effects are very powerful and turns a potential negative disagreement into a positive agreement (pacing) and then (Leading) adding your mutual highest intention to the close.

In Business as in Life conflict happens let us be honest. What I have noticed more and more is that people have a hard time getting their emotions together when they feel as if they are caught off guard.

In order to perfect this Language pattern then, there are many other components to consider.

Firstly begin to slow things down inside you so that you can observe your own breath, which will give you enough time to get your emotions in check. Three deep breaths in and out very slowly will help.

Focus on the Result you want instead of looping the offending incident or the disagreement.
Great Communicators do not allow anyone to take them off track (no matter how persuasive they are).
The Goal is always to find new and creative ways to get back on track,
While you may be able to use what the person you are communicating with is saying to influence their behavior, remember a simple formula of pacing and leading.

Remember to begin the pattern again even when it appears not to be working, change context, change tonality, Pace Rhythm breathing and maintain a calm state that supports the person you are speaking with while waiting patiently for your outcome.
It can be as simple as repeating what you are saying in new and creative ways.

Of course it will also be necessary to use finely tuned Sensory Acuity to Pace and Lead, detect and calibrate throughout the Process.

Instead of using "But" (which negates the previous statement) use "And" which also keeps the communication moving forward.

Be Congruent
Open your statement with Matching Body language and Facial expressions..
You can say

“I agree and ...”
“I appreciate and..”

Notice how we are using "And" instead of But.

Refrain from using "I understand" as we are all operating from different "Maps of the world" and you quite likely do not exactly understand although you can agree or appreciate.

Win Win
Discover what the highest intention of the objection is and then continue to elicit the Value until you find a mutual value (something that you have in common).

(Without the Agreement Frame)

Sheila: "Can you come over tonight I need some help stripping the wallpaper in the living room so when Mum and Dad are here this weekend the room looks fresh".

Mike: "I've had an exhausting day and all I want to do is flop on my bed when I get home I'll come after work tomorrow".

Result: "Dead End" no foot in the door to resume conversation.

Here is what happens when you use The Agreement Frame:

Sheila: "Can you come over tonight, I need some help stripping the wallpaper in the living room so when Mum and Dad are here this weekend the room looks fresh".

Mike: "Sheila I agree, And we should freshen the room for Mum and Dad.
Tell you what, I've had an exhausting day and all I want to do is flop on my bed when I get home, if I crash this evening I will have all the more strength to finish the whole thing tomorrow night, How does that sound".

Did you notice how he agreed in the beginning "I agree and" (pacing and maintaining Rapport) ... and at the end he communicated the mutual highest intention of getting it done for Mum and Dad in time and provided a solution. (Leading)

This is an Elegant Language Pattern with a win win solution which diffuses any risk of breaking rapport in communication.

Remember and maintain Rapport
Pace and then Lead
Calibrate for the highest intention you both agree on

Wrap the frame around your answer - as shown.
Keep going in new and creative ways using this formula until you get the result you are looking for.
Everyone wins with this pattern.

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Thursday, October 22, 2009

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What is Neuro linguistic Programming (NLP) Anyway ?

The Three components that make up NLP are Neurology Language & Programming.

*The neurological system regulates how our bodies function,
* Language determines how we interface and communicate with other people and our
* Programming determines the kinds of models of the world we create.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming describes the fundamental dynamics between mind (neuro) and language (linguistic) and how their interplay effects our body and behavior (programming).

This combined creates our Human Experience.

NLP is most often used as a form of Communication Excellence.

With NLP we are able to understand each other better than before and keep Communication moving in a positive and productive flow.

NLP is used most often in Personal Development, when understanding the functions of Language, Neurology and Programming and how this affects our day to day physiology it can open a world of possibility that may have been previously inaccessible.

NLP is Like learning a new language:

* A New Way to speak to yourself and others
* A New way to understand yourself and others
* A New Way to Understand the words you are saying and not saying

NLP is Like a new Behaviour:

*A New way to think of yourself and others
*A New way to understand your own Neurology
*A New way to create new Action

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