Have you ever wanted something but was unable to believe it was possible ?
Is the impact of the problem weighing you down, before you give up just consider this one thought.
What if it all turns out even better then could could have ever imagined ?
Did you know that so many people become paralyzed by the attention that they give to a problem and never ever move into an attitude of expecting a solution for the problem.
The solution to any problem will only be found on focusing on what you want. The bigger the problem, the more attention you should spend on the solution.
Controlling your state is number one, You must overcome all of the fear that you feel when in the middle of a stressful situation.
Empower yourself and use your internal representations to your own benefit. Motivate yourself into action. Speak words of life into your solution, show yourself pictures of success.
Visualize the finish line turning out in your favor.
Keep going until you feel better and the problem turns into a solution. Be consistent in improving the situation.
What if you took just a few moments out to daydream on what it would be like to have it ? Btw if you enjoyed reading our NLP Blog then why not look through some of our other informative posts on NLP is Fun. Thanks for stopping by, speak with you soon.
There are some times when a person has a habit of criticizing and looking for what is wrong in just about any situation.
This remember, is just a way of filtering for difference.
The person is filtering through a Frame of :
"What is wrong with this"
"What is Different about this"
The presupposition is that the person would prefer to control the frame and has a set way in which they would like it to show up.
1.The Components must be right
2.The circumstances must be right
3.The sequence must be right
On the other hand, people who are looking to please others and fit within the parameters that have been (Ambiguously) set will inevitably get something wrong
Because if all three are not right, then none of it is right in the Criticizers mind.
Recap:
1.The Components must be right
2.The circumstances must be right
3.The sequence must be right
Now the problem with this is once you are on the receiving end of all of this constant filtering. Because it feels like Judgement and criticism, and this does not feel very nice.
Eventually it tends to make people nervous to do anything for fear of Ridicule and criticism.
A few weeks ago we spoke about Judgement you can check that out here
Here are some things you can do to take the sting out of being criticized and Judged and become immune.
The Pattern:
1. Think about somebody who filters through difference and frequently criticizes you to the point where you feel really bad.
2. Notice in your minds eye, the way they look at you.
3. Hear them say all the nasty things they say and notice how they say it, including gestures, Body Language, Tonality.
4.Notice where any bad feeling starts in your body.
5.Take this Image and make it Black and White.
6. Move it far away and into the distance.
7. Make it much smaller and put a funny hat on the Person or something else that makes you laugh.
Hear them repeat the criticism using crazy tonality that makes you laugh or takes the sting out of it.
8. Begin to notice how quickly you feel better.
9. Clear the screen, Future pace and repeat for effectiveness check.
10 Calibrate as necessary.
By the way, do you remember this Language pattern that also is related to this Topic.
Any way when you work this exercise through you will quickly erase all of the nastiness and Then you can still Train your brain to Kill it in 2015 with us and get amazing results.
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You may be underestimating what you can do by using NLP with your very own mind. Lots of people wonder how they can use NLP to make other people feel better and forget to use Neuro linguistic programming with themselves. Most of the time it is as simple as shifting your focus and choosing another thinking channel.
Especially if the one you are on feels bad. You can choose to change it.
Have you noticed sometimes people want to do a thing BUT have no idea where they should start and because of this do Nothing !
Time passes them by and they begin to create Nasty pictures in their Mind and say horrible things to themselves while feeling bad.
Most of the time they scare themselves so badly it can even turn into anxiety,or even depression and sometimes people have no idea how the bad feelings started.
Even if this is one of your habits, I can help you to Stop this insanity, and lead a powerful live full of vitality and high expectation for yourself.
Begin to notice how you are feeling and tear the corner off the idea of feeling full of personal power instead.
Even if you have tried before and at the moment feel Rubbish, that doesn't mean you should give up. Keep going until you feel better and start bit by bit.
Every single day think of nice things you can do for yourself to keep your state as a powerful operating system.
It is never to late to begin again now, start with a "Pick me up" and focus on something that makes you feel great about yourself.
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Welcome to 2013 this may be our first
time getting together this year, and a great time for us to
concentrate on the really important parts of our lives.
The New Year is a metaphor about taking
action isn't it, it can speak volumes about:
A fresh start
A clean slate
A process of renewal
An emergence
A rebirth
A Second chance to do things
differently this time around.
The new year is indeed an affirmation,
for you to take as you choose.
I wonder what will you accomplish this
year, perhaps you will move closer to your hopes and dreams daring
even more than ever before to put your own happiness at the forefront
of all you do.
It may be that this year, you will
learn much more about how you can use NLP in your own life. Changing
our own internal representations and creating indestructible belief
systems for the better. Putting patterns of behavior where you want
them, while dumping out more of those useless habits that held you
back in days gone by.
Even now we are a month into the new year and what positive changes have you already began to notice.
I believe just knowing about NLP no
matter what experience level is one of the best things that can
happen to a person.
Because we can always improve by
learning more and practicing, can't we.
How many ways for example can you begin
to use your own knowledge of NLP right now. Have you ever taken a
moment out to just sat in a comfy chair and think about just how much
you already know about the resources you already have within you ?
You as a curious NLP'er, have an
indispensable selection of solutions that will enrich your life
experience forevermore, as long as you continue to use them.
Becoming a whole person, whatever that
means to you, is the first step in personal and professional
development.
Finding out what really serves you in a
meaningful way and daring to take baby steps at first to make giant
progress is the mark of a real champion.
Perhaps not a champion in the sense
that we are used to, but a champion to your own liking. Mastering
yourself, a champion capable of going for and getting the Gold in
your own life.
A solid part of you that you can count
on through thick and thin, that shows up in any challenging
circumstances.
The ability to master your own mind and
be more flexible in any situation will twinkle and glisten long after
all of our Holiday decorations have been put away and forgotten.
Daily mastery of your own mind will
simply come easily to you, when you begin to practice a Self hypnosis
plan.
Self Hypnosis used frequently will work
on the utmost levels of unconscious thought processes
that may have been going against the
grain.
Also, you may be surprised how writing
a positive expectation journal and moving into it will give you a
focus and direction in your life which shows up in your unconscious
beliefs and actions.
You can also incorporate ever so easy
exercises like:
All of these exercises are greatly improved when you play with your submodalities and if you are having any challenges in those areas remember to Overlap your rep systems to get you stared
These little habits that you develop
when you begin to challenge yourself and raise your own bar
repeatedly, really are the difference that make all the difference in
the long run.
How many ways for example, can you use
NLP to improve your own life ?.
I hope you will consider the importance
of your own happiness this year too, and getting yourself to a place
where you can say;
“Today was a good day, there was
some challenges and yet overall today was a good day”.
A great quote I learned from Oprah was "Persistence over resistance".
Today we are going to talk about when this naturally occurs in an autonomic way as a Kinesthetic response when we get out and do things we like.
Here are a few examples:
Diving into something Fun
When you get stuff you like
Little Mattie Stepanek R.I.P with Jimmy Carter
Whether you are having an outdoors adventure, getting or giving a gift, meeting one of your Hero's or experiencing a dream come true.
Do Something brand new that will give you a brand new experience and lots more great memories, and keep exposing yourself to new stuff, that alters your perceptions.
Truly this will change how you view your life.
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In times that we need state management help fast I have
found that if we do nothing more than just change to this one thought so much
else shifts.
The Need to have a loving relationship with ourselves first is real. This is the reason I created the Self love Process.
Focus on Love
When you are focused on Love some amazing things begin to
happen immediately.
It is impossible to think of love without having an entire
Physiological shift which stands to reason because the very thought of love
changes your brain chemistry your heart will reprogram your mind and your mind
will also reprogram your heart.
This practice works brilliantly at home and at work and
indeed in any challenging situation when you want to be in a place of strong
alignment.
Remember no body knows what is going on in your mind, so take the time to do some good stuff in there.
The list of ways in which this helps is endless and
completely up to you.
In the following paragraphs, I have included how focusing on Love will help you to reframe your internal representations so that they are more useful.
Just by focusing on Love, it becomes a Filter, a way of perceiving your current reality.
In Conflict
resolution / Decision making
You begin to see annoying human beings as individuals in an
objective even empathetic way
You can release Anger easily instead of "striking to kill"
You are able to make a human connection when previously you
could not
You can release any Fear and letting go of past pain
Your heart does all the work making forgiveness easy
The need to confront others over fearful imaginations
disappear
You expect the best from yourself and others
You can say what you mean in a tactful, firm and caring way
for all involved
You can come from an objective point of view and understand
the greater picture
Self Esteem /
Positive Outlook
You begin to feel peace within yourself and you can see
yourself in a brand new light
Anxiety disappears and solutions appear
It becomes very easy to feel gratitude and focus on all you
do have
Your options grow as you no longer need to hold on to past
destructive patterns
You find yourself becoming more agreeable and flexible
You become more radiant as you release all tension and
stress
You attract greater people and opportunity just by being willing
and open
You have no need to over compensate because you know you are
enough
You negotiate for what you are worth as you understand your
true value
You take control of your own life instead of allowing others
to control you
Focusing on love is another way to meditate in the moment
and only takes a split second to begin the process. Before engaging in acts of
unloving behavior with yourself or others take a moment to ground yourself in
love.
These Exercises come from the Self love Process to Find out more about the Self love process then please click here.
Center yourself and focus and notice how much better you are
able to relate to yourself and others. As you begin to look for the good in
each situation you truly begin to grow and become more and more resourceful,
more experienced and more able to take on greater projects in life and business
as your tolerance expands.
Ground yourself in Love
Here is an exercise I designed and use often with myself and
my clients, enjoy it, and notice how quickly and easily it begins to work its
magic with you too.
How to / The Pattern
Sit in a comfortable chair
Close your eyes and relax gently
Remember a time when you felt engulfed in love
Feel those sensations in your body
Notice you are even beginning to smile
Take a moment to enjoy all the physical sensations of that
experience
Slow your breathing down and just be present in the moment
Hear what you heard, see what you saw, Feel what you felt
Feel a great wash of that love flowing over you again from
head to toe
Notice how your nerve endings are tingling everywhere all
over your body
Deep Breathe again and inhale the moment Exhale any Fear
(In your mind say) I am loved
(In your mind say) I am love
(In your mind say) I am lovable
(In your mind say) I am loving
(In your mind say) I am allowed to love myself
(In your mind say) I give myself permission to release fear and
instead I accept love
Breathe in and Exhale any past unloving behavior
*Check for internal
congruence and Test Operate until you find it within you, when you have it say
the following:
My unconscious mind positively accepts that I am loving and
lovable
Notice all the pleasing vibrations & physical sensations
of this congruence
My thoughts are loving and lovable
My actions are loving and lovable
I am proud of who I am becoming
My heart Mind are connected
*Future pace
Your state with something that was previously a
challenge
Notice how now you can congruently find positive pleasing
alternatives and solutions
Make mental notes of the next steps in your course of action
when you become fully present
When you are satisfied become present and back to the room.
If you like this Article on this Empowering NLP Blog then use it frequently and feel better more often. NLP is Fun has a great deal of other hints and Tips for you to enjoy, take your time and browse through over 200 NLP Articles.
There was once a man who asked the great classical Pianist Arthur Rubinstein How do I get to Carnegie Hall it was said that they were a few streets away.
Arthur answered him by saying "Practice, Practice, Practice" !
Some students may also wonder how they will gain excellence in NLP, Hypnosis and controlling their own thinking.
Cartesian Logic is a very simple line of questioning attributable to Rene Descartes who was a French Philosopher in the 15 and 1600's.
It is a great way to examine questions and answers from every angle especially in a coaching setting.
Of course if you use this pattern for yourself you will enjoy it too.
The end result will determine the next steps to take, a result of logic all points toward the same answer. The 4 Questions:
1.What would happen if you did
Inverse
2. What would happen if you didn't
Converse
3. What won't happen if you did Non mirror image reverse
4. What won't happen if you didn't
Ready ? Lets do a Demo :
Question
I am thinking about going for my masters in art history in 2012.
1.What would happen if you did ?
Answer
I would have a masters in Art History which would make me eligible for Teaching at professor level, thus giving me more choices.
2. What would happen if you didn't ?
Answer
I would not be eligible for some of the programmes I long to be involved in and I won't be able to teach Art History at Stanford University as I had hoped to do in 2014. 3. What won't happen if you did ?
Answer
I won't feel stuck with my life as I do now. 4. What won't happen if you didn't ?
Answer
I will not make as much progress as I want to in my career.
Conclusion
So in this Demo it appears logical to make the decision to go for the Masters.
Your Turn.
Why not take one of your own questions and put it through the cartesian logic paces and find your own logic.
See Modal Operators of Necessity / Possibility from the Meta Model on NLP is Fun .
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K.I.S.S.
Oftentimes people can create complex strategies that prove unpractical and may even miss the forest for the trees, loosing focus of the greater picture.
Can you think of a situation that you have made more complex than necessary ?
Do you want the Good or Bad first ?
Feeling great about ourselves for no particular reason at all is just that simple
Why .... No particular reason ... at all.
Other than it just feels great, and the opposite feels bad doesn't it !
How will you train your mind to work the best for you .. starting right now ?
And What if ...
What happens when you ask yourself "What Stands between me and my happiness" ?
I started this Blog to show people that learning NLP can be fun and easy.
So in NLP speak some of the Presuppositions in this statement then are:
Here are some Presuppositions
NLP is not fun
There are people
People are interested in learning NLP
People can have fun,
Learning NLP is going to be Fun
Perhaps you have already attended one of our NLP Trainings before and learned how to think outside of the
Box while having fun with us.
NLP has a unique set of Tools that quickly and easily help us put together strategies to think outside of the box.
Make Sense
To create lasting change in our thinking, feeling, seeing, hearing = which makes perfect sense, doesn't it since we are always calibrating with our senses becomes a realistic Outcome.
Our Main NLP study site in NLP is Fun in Las Vegas where I first founded The number one NLP and Hypnosis Study group in Las Vegas over 4 years ago now.
Our largest area's of focus are Teaching life time tools to busy professional people who come to us at various stages in their NLP development.
Some want to learn NLP and have no knowledge of it, but have heard something interesting about it.
Some have read an NLP book and are curious
Some have taken an NLP Course and want some coaching and direction in how to use NLP
Some have been studying NLP for years and want to find new and creative ways to use NLP in special situations
Some are Trainers of NLP and want to learn how to breakthrough their own barriers
Some want to focus on one learning area or niche to become and expert in one specific area
Although we all want different things usually the common ground is Improvement. Which is:
"I want to Improve my understanding of NLP".
Sound Familiar
As a strategist, I wanted to understand why some people were not more confident in their applications of NLP.
I learned that NLP is often taught in a way that is hard to follow and know what you know.
Some NLP Trainers teach NLP at an unconscious level and provide unconscious installations only and then you go home and don't really know what you know, but you know you know something new and different and your pretty sure your life is improved.
Then somebody asks you what did you learn .. and you don't know.
Sound familiar ?
Some NLP trainers Teach Meticulous rigid and boring NLP theory and lofty ideas about unconscious applications that never quite get off the ground in practice. Then you can speak about NLP at length and sound as if you know what you are talking about to somebody who has less knowledge than you and you cannot and do not apply NLP in every day life.
Take out the guesswork
My Take on it is a combination of Unconscious Installation, Living metaphor and Theory I have found NLP can be learned much easier and more joyfully applied easily using this combination.
A light trance state is usually appealing and can help get past the what if madness of focusing on what they don't know that people may loop while learning new important information.
Just like Nike said __________ Do it !
At this time of year we typically slow things down a bit on our training's and take stock of what we have learned in 2011. We fine tune and prepare our exciting and brand new programmes for 2012 at the moment we have two more training's to deliver in 2011.
What about you what will you reprogramme in 2012 ?
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Remember Thinking outside of the box creates more choices, and the person with the largest arsenal of choices Wins, so give it a shot.
What can you do to begin to think outside of the Box today ?
Many of you will remember I interviewed Judy Rees co author of Clean Language which is a brilliant simple and effective book which I highly recommend.
If you don't have your copy yet, you can purchase one here below.
What you may not know is, I was also her first video's demo subject for the Clean change cards Want to see ?
I must warn you at one point there is a little background noise as we were in her Garden but I wouldn't let that stop you from gaining from the conversation. Just thinking of it now, I remember just what a pleasure Judy is to speak to and how much we enjoyed ourselves that day in her lovely English Garden.
So for those of you who had difficulty hearing past the Overhead untimely airplanes here is a list of the Clean Language Questions.
Developing Questions
And what kind of X is that ?
And is there anything else about X ?
And where is X and whereabouts is X ?
and that is X like what ?
And is there a relationship between X and Y ?
And when X what happens to Y ?
Sequence and source Questions
And then what happens ? / And what happens next ?
And what happens just before X ?
And where could X come from ?
Intention questions
And what would X like to have happen ?
And what needs to happen for X ?
And can X happen ?
So lets Do another Demo The Questions are in Bold
The Answers are below
Developing Questions
Opening statement : Using Clean Language is another great resource to add to your toolset
Q) And what kind of toolset is that
A) more skills to get more thorough results Q) Is there anything else about your toolset
A) yes it is always growing
Q) And where is your toolset
A) In my head /In my heart Q) And that is head like / And that is heart like
A) clever / Love Q) And is there a relationship between Head and Heart
A) Yes, I love being clever Q) And when Clever what happens to heart
A) Heart is full and happy
Sequence and source questions
Q )And when you are Happy what happens next
A) All is well with the world Q) And what happens just before All is well with the world
A) All is not well with the world and I am afraid Q) And where could fear come from
A) Fear of failure
Intention questions
Q) And what would Happy like to have happen
A) I would like to have more of it Q) And what needs to happen for more of it
A) I need to believe I can have it Q) And can you be happy
A) Yes I can be happy
Can you understand how using these questions in combination or separately can add to your refining the outcomes in your coaching and internal processes.
Have some fun with them, I look forward to knowing your progress.
Hi Everyone just a quick note to update you about a brand new Interview on The NLP Interviews
with NLP Master Trainer Michael Stevenson who provides an incredible offer for his Upcoming Training in Australia and the UK for the full Interview please click here
We are looking forward to our 5th month of NLP Bookclub and each month has been an incredible learning process for all of us.
The Book we are working through is Unlimited power by Anthony Robbins.
I have read and re read this book many many times and think it is a great place to begin putting together a framework to use and apply NLP in everyday life.
As a Trainer of NLP this has given me a great opportunity to show people how to begin to gain unconscious competence in NLP processes in every day life.
As a Coach this has helped me to share ways in which NLP can immediately change perceptions, feelings and actions which ultimately creates life style.
Every one of the participants return over and over again to enjoy the progress they have made since beginning 5 months ago, and look forward to the progress their Bookclub Colleagues are making too.
NLP Book club is a great opportunity to relax, sort your feelings and experiences out and discuss solutions with some great people who are also making progress, let our hair down, discuss current issues.
This week we concluded with the idea that when feeling down, what was really important was finding a song to fill your heart and using it as a bridge to a more resourceful state and then beginning to apply and use the things we already know.
Here is a song that evokes strong anchors in me from my childhood, a time when just by watching this show I began to dream of possibilities outside of my own current experience ... can you find your own song ?
If you would like to find out more about joining us please click this link to RSVP for NLP Bookclub
Have a Great Day everyone let us begin with powerful Impact let us get some T.R.
"What in your life can you feel proud of in your life today, and when you think about that thing in your life that you feel proud about, where does that feeling come from ?
And what about that .. are you really, truly grateful and excited about.
What could you get excited about, if you wanted to get excited about ...
Everyone say Aye !
I first Met Carol at a Hypnotherapy conference over Three years ago and she has always impressed me with her powerful presence.
Carol is also from the UK and lives In Dubai and has done for many years.
The setting of this Interview is at lovely Green Valley Ranch by "The Pond' there is a greenish glow and the lighting is low but the ambiance is superb there. If I do an interview there again I will be sure to bring lighting.
You can watch the Preview clip here
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NLP Master Trainer Joost Van Der Leij from the Netherlands Presented the Neurogram to "NLP is Fun in Las Vegas" on July 11th 2011.
For those of you who were not fortunate enough to attend, here are the pictures. Look out for an Interview I did with Joost which will be available in the next week or two on The NLP Interviews if you are anxious to see Joost again he will be presenting his NLP Practitioner Training with the Neurogram in Febuary 2012 in Las Vegas. More Details will follow. Please enjoy these photo's that capture the spirit of the evening.
One of the greatest resources to have your arsenal is confidence.
Confidence is knowledge that whatever comes up, you have access to your own internal resources to overcome any external obstacles.
Confidence has roots in preparation, even if you are performing a task that you are not used to, you have the confidence in knowing you have overcome greater challenges than this one and therefore are the best candidate for the task at hand.
Always do all you can to prepare ahead of time, this will help you to increase your knowledge and preparedness. Your unconscious mind will have all the information for you to access if you can just relax.
Confidence is knowing on the outset and having a high level of motivation that no matter what obstacle is thrown in your direction you will regroup and sail through the finish line.
Sometimes things so not go according to plan, never mind Failing Publicly is Fun too, it builds resilience and helps you not to get the heebie -jeebies whenever you find yourself in a tight spot.
What internal representations are playing ?
Confidence is about how you represent information in your own head, it has to do with the words you use to speak to yourself and if the words encourage you or not. Confidence is about what pictures you see when you imagine a situation you are in. Where your focus is and what you allow to take up the most space in your mind. Have you ever imagined something bad and began to break a sweat ?
Your Physiology and Brain chemistry respond to these movies going on in your mind, sometimes people get panic attacks because they cannot stop themselves from playing disastrous movies of Bad things happening. Well then that is easily remedied by changing the tape play something that changes your physiology for the better and loop that. Muhammad Ali was the master of that do you remember, he was known as simply "The Greatest" also used to make up affirmations such as "I figured if I said it enough I would convince the world that I really was the greatest".
Your internal representations dictate what you imagine your current, past and future experience to be and how you represent this information to yourself.
Put on a show that feels good for a change
It is useful to replace representations that scare you or make you feel bad with powerful representations that make you feel good.
Much of the time even slight shifts to the way that you have stored these sounds and images can evoke intense feelings one way or the other.
Confidence is about representing that you have the necessary resources internally to do an outstanding job externally. When a person is confident they feel capable and ready for a brand new challenge, when a person is not confident they often feel worried and anxious and imagine all of the worst things possible happening.
Feeling bad is just a state of mind
Many times people feel defeated before they even begin an operation, and they reinforce these feelings with the words and pictures they present to themselves and auto play.
What if Muhammad Ali Imagined himself Getting Pummeled every time he got in the ring do you think he would have made it to be known as "The Greatest" ?
If we can learn to take these often distorted perceptions with a pinch of salt and replace them with perceptions that are empowering and motivate us to be even more creative in reaching our goal.
Since we are distorting information anyway, we could represent the greatest outcome ever and watch how other s would congratulate us on a job well done.
We could hear them say words such as
“Well Done”
“Thank you sharing for your expertise”
“You saved the day in the final hour”,
“You are my hero”
We couldn’t have done it without you” and so on.
Which one do you personally feel is more useful to you?
Next time you are facing a challenging situation remember all the other times you victoriously pulled through and place those pictures as representations of your strength and capability to do a fantastic job.
Adjust your submodalities
Let us say you have a picture in your mind of you getting run over by your competition, The picture is:
Black and white
Still
Fuzzy
Big
Close to your Face
Darkly lit
And it makes you feel down.
The thing with this is it is a Broken self management process because it does not lead to your progress.
Develop an accessible System
Just making slight changes will make all the difference, what if you were to replace it with a picture of you doing the Best Job ever:
And make subtle changes like:
Make it Colour
Moving
Sharp edges
As Big the largest Tv screen you can drum up
A believable distance close to your face that evokes the best response,
Brightly lit
And it makes you feel Fabulous think of something that feel great .
Remember Feeling Great actually Feels great ... well isn't that reason enough ?
We can do the same thing with sound we can change everything about how we are representing our experience by changing sound. Changing sound had a powerful affect if something feels bad put a silly voice on it and s-l-o-w- i-t-w-a-y- d-o-w-n to a pace that is in slow motion, or what about a super fast squeaky voice ? and change the place it is coming from if it originates from a Man put a Dress on him and turn him into a cartoon character or an animal or a character from a Broadways show that makes you laugh.
I am pretty sure you get the picture ;)
Find out what else you can do with Sound there are tons of ways in which you can change how sound makes you feel if you do nothing else Turn the volume ways down until it is barely audible .. and then well you might as well just turn it off with a Radio Button and change the channel, to something you like better.
Instead of having a movie that makes us feel bad in our heads replace with a movie that makes us feel great, Confident, Powerful, possible, and any other feeling you would like to experience.
Remember how we were Chaining Anchors before well that is a great exercise to use here too.
Yes you Can
In communication Confidence is transmitted in subtle unconscious ways if you begin to note changes in others you will become more aware of what confidence looks like here are some bits to calibrate to begin with.
Watch for:
Skin tone is it flushed in times of stress
Posture how is a person presenting themselves are they Tall as trees or slumped over
Language do they speak of possibility opportunity and things they move toward
Breathing do they give short breaths or relaxing breath
Where is their Focus, Attitude and Energy.
Confidence is created by having a "Can do Attitude", no matter what your skill level is you can always find something to be confident about.
Concentrate on the wins you have already achieved and the challenges you have already against all odds overcome.
How you perceive yourself will largely determine the level of success you will experience. Building on your own confidence and Self belief is essential for excellent performance in business.
Learn how to change image and sound in your own mind which will create more favorable emotions for you to build on, subtle sub modality shifts will make all the difference.
Learn how to Control your emotions by controlling the movies you play in your own mind
Learn how to change image and sound in your own mind which will create more favorable emotions for you to build on, subtle sub modality shifts will make all the difference.
Knowing that internally you have all the resources you need oftentimes outweighs a lack of external resources.
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2)Create a Plan of Action with Well Formed Outcomes
3)Fine Tune your Calibration Skills
4)Improve your Rapport Skills
5)Model somebody you greatly admire
6)Practice Mental Drills of How you want things to turn out
7)Become Congruent and Transmit with Certainty
8)Listen more than speaking and Pay attention to subtle Clues in communication
9)Remember your original Outcome in Communication and be Determined - patient and creative in reaching it
10 Always Be prepared to have a flexible approach with a can do attitude
In Life as in Business, there are any number of ways the chips may fall, Having a Can do attitude includes preparing a Plan B and assessing your risk. Sometimes no matter how carefully you have planned a situation Glitches happen, in these cases Attitude is the Glue which will make or break your recovery in high pressure situations.
Change internal Feelings Change External Results
How you perceive the situation can be clouded by how you feel about the situation, all of this is influenced by the words and pictures you are presenting to yourself.
Using your physiology to create positive energy inside you and presenting pictures that calm you down give you a clean canvas to create a new outcome.
Begin to put together a 15 minute internal brainstorming session on your clean canvas and compare to your external resources the solution that seems to be the best Fit at the time.
Once you have thought it through stick to the one you have chosen and follow it through.
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