10 Easy NLP Communication Tips | NLP is Fun

Did you know, one of the NLP presuppositions is "The meaning of your communication, is the response you are getting"
In other words how your communications lands, is the impact of your Communication,
Remember,  a great rule of thumb is:
Does it feel good or bad ?
There is a great chance that, if you feel bad when you communicated it, it will feel bad when being received.

Sometimes in a misunderstanding, the person who communicated did not mean to offend another person.
However, the person can still get offended. The person can experience the offence and still choose how to respond.
The action following the impact is in the hands of the receiver.
The receiver can always choose how they respond to any offence.

The transmitter can adjust their message.

In the end good emotional self management is essential to all parties.
The less a person can manage their emotions the more often they will find themselves being offensive and offended.

In communication, so many factors are present, so here are 10 easy NLP Communication Tips that work every single time:

1) Become even more mindful of your own intentions and clearly understand what you mean before you even start.

2) Calibrate the feedback you get from the persons response, begin to notice everything
a) What can you see
b) What can you hear
c) How does it feel

3) Always decide to take the higher ground, getting the communication back into the "feel good" zone

4) Be flexible and focused on your original outcome and intention always
5) Observe any triggering effects present in your own responses
6 ) Decide to become less reactive and more proactive in all communication
7) Use Breath to centre yourself at all times
8) Believe you are capable, of getting things back on track
9) See yourself as powerful, visualize the resolution
10) Hear yourself sounding at your best and others responding well to you.

If you spend a few moments practicing this each time, it will become an unconscious process for you.
I must say, the dividends are endless, starting with you feeling better.

Richard Bandler used to say "How much pleasure can you stand" ?
I think that is the real question. don't you ?

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Virginia Satir Demonstrating Flexibility | NLP is Fun

Original NLP Patterns Contributor Virginia Satir of course was a Master of Change work. The way in which she was able to Relate and Communicate with people to achieve her outcome using Verbal and Non Verbal Communication was intoxicating to experience.

Virginia was beyond flexible, always looking for options and choices to dislodge the problem by re-framing the hidden possibilities and options.

She helped us to understand In fact, that the power to Change has everything to do with being willing to be flexible doesn't it.

Have you ever met a person who was unwilling to change and demanded that "things" stay the same or "go back to normal" ?
In fact they would somehow wrestle you to the ground in order to maintain the present state no matter how problematic.

In the following 2 Video's Virginia Satir demonstrates Several Examples of Flexibility.

What I also love about this Video is how she is willing to take many different  positions in response to one particular problem.

When people have a problem, they often perceive there are limited choice available. Perhaps presented as "this or that" and perhaps another option which they have ruled out as they feel as if "it is out of the question".

In this video the gentleman she is helping gets the chance to Phrase his "Problem" and explain it a little bit more every single time and for that he gets a Unique response to each of his statements.

Virginia uses Rapport in a way which demonstrates the value she holds for the Participant.

• She consistently Paces his experience and gains agreement from him then will Lead him. 
• She is an incredibly magnetic Influencer her certainty and determination is Palpable.
• She remains energetic, enthusiastic, Focused and resourceful in her communication.
• Virginia was an advocate for Self acceptance and self worth
• She knew her own worth and was certain of it 
• She valued other people always demonstrating to them their worth.

Virginia's use of Body language and Non verbals is purposeful and extremely Powerful.
 Please enjoy watching these awesome video's.

An available Transcript of these video's is available courtesy of Steve Andreas here 
There is so much we can say about these Video's from Real People Press and the whole lecture of which she was a Keynote speaker is available for purchase here

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Virginia Satir and her influence to NLP | NLP is Fun

While Virginia Satir was not an NLP'er she was instrumental for providing part of the Original Patterns for NLP.

The way in which she was so effective in her language and Communication with those she worked with is evident to anyone who has seen her in Action.

It has been said that when Richard Bandler Modeled her he discovered 7 Patterns of transformation that she had in Rotation.
4 of which she said she was Consciously somewhat aware of.

She has written or Co written 12 Books of which I have read 5 of them and so highly recommend the following.

My most favourite of all her books is actually Changing with families. The beautiful book she wrote with John Grinder and Richard Bandler.
One of my friends Mark Gittos has a signed copy (the lucky Devil)

As you can see this book is not readily available but can sometimes be found from resellers.
It is Beautifully written and when I began to read it the first time, could not put it down until I had finished.

It really is helpful if you want to understand how she was using language in Family Therapy.

The New People Making is a Great Book to read and re - read if you work with families or do any type of Relationship work Virginia writes as if she is talking to you and I love her style so much.



Step by Step is Great as she wrote it with Michele Baldwin who wanted to learn more about how Virginia created her processes in Family therapy.


The Satir Model is a really in depth review of all Virginia's over all work and was written by John Banmen Jane Gerber and Maria Gomori.



This Book I carry in my purse sometimes as it is such a short read that packs a heavy punch, when I first read this book It was life changing. I really really recommend you read this one and especially Changing families as an NLP'er.

I wanted to share this Last Book with you I haven't read it yet myself. I am a Huge Fan of Steve Andreas',  Connirae Andreas and Tamara Andreas' work. They have contributed so much to the Field of NLP and are still contributing and align themselves with Phenomenal Trainers that contribute so much to our field.

Here is the book he wrote about Virginia Satir, It only has one review although its a good one and it had a preview window which I always like and so far I am impressed.
          

Before I go I wanted to leave you with this Article that Steve wrote on Virginia Satir Here is the Link.
I am Off to Buy His Book.

Have a Great Weekend and remember to have more fun than you think you can manage ;)

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