Killing it 2015 | NLP is Fun

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Feel Great and Do Great | NLP is Fun

It has been a while since we did a pattern. Neuro linguistic programming or NLP has the most easiest ways ever to change your state and they are very quick and once you have done it once you know it and can do it time and time again.

This pattern has everything to do with feeling fantastic no matter what.
1. Remember a Time you felt the best Ever, I mean ... really great

Think of a Time you Felt Great | NLP is Fun 

2. Close your eyes and fill in all of he details Engage full sensory experience all of the representation systems to really amplify the feeling V.A.K.O.G.

3. Step into the experience and imagine really being there as if it is happening powerfully right now, even focus on your breathing as you call up this powerful experience.
(Remember your physiology will respond when you are really deep in this state.)

4.Notice your breathing and posture when you are in this state and make sure you are spinning your feelings to make yourself feel 1 thousand times more into it,

5.Notice what these states are ..
For example perhaps:
Excitement
Authentic confidence
Happiness
Personal Power
But choose your own words and feelings.

6.Now think of a time when you will use this pattern again and run through it now in your mind.
Remember, Practice makes perfect.

Also here is a very helpful NLP Blog post about eliciting desired states.

Can you see yourself succeeding ?
The Hypnotic Visualization process will help with this find out more

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All Sales Begin and end in your own Mind | NLP is Fun

Selling is a Mindset and it is something that any of us who want to achieve progress must do.
You can be selling:
An actual Product
A service
A piece of change as in change work
A persuasive argument
An Idea to a class, your child, Your partner, Your friend

But one thing is a constant.
It is not until you have
1. Identified your outcome in detail
2. Bought it yourself in full congruence
That you will be successful in achieving your outcome.
In other words, think of it like this.
All Sales Begin and end in how you program your own mind for your success.

With this being said, if you want "Yes Tickets" of any kind, in any form. You must become the master of your own mind.

Your unconscious processes are predicting your behavior and of course your results. NLP is about restructuring your unconscious processes to work on your behalf.

Program your mind then just as a Mind builder would. Be relentless in giving yourself the NLP advantage in resilience and Self mastery.

When you want to sell anything you must have already been well rehearsed in your NLP mental drills. This affects your unconscious processes as you have trained your mind to act in your favor.

This is why learning self hypnosis and NLP are so valuable. Yes it is true that you will be able to influence other people and more importantly you will be able to influence yourself into high gear and tenacious action first.

How serious are you about Training your mind for Peak conditioning and what are you doing regularly to improve ?

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How to Anchor a Peak State | NLP is Fun

If you are interested in being highly motivated then you will love this post about Anchoring yourself into States that leave you feeling on Top of the World.

If you were interested in creating a Chain to get you there then read this article.
This Article speaks about Spatial Anchoring 
This article also from NLP is Fun speaks about changing your mood with Anchors
Flip through for additional information about Anchoring.

Here is How to create an anchor for a Peak state for Peak Performance that you can do yourself.

Decide on the state you want to achieve 
Remember all of the times you had this state before, perhaps use the Circle of Excellence exercise to help you.
Maybe you had states that were similar too that you would like to revisit and incorporate, begin to focus on them and Amplify them so you can maximize your experience.

Watch yourself experiencing the state in a Mind movie and continue to build and expand the state using your full sensory experience:

Engage full sensory Experience
Visual = Seeing
Auditory = Hearing
Kinesthetic = Feeling
Olfactory = Smelling
Gustatory = Tasting

Now add these experiences into what you want to experience right now. Fully experiencing the Peak state you desire with your whole Mind Body and Soul, in full congruence.

Find the point you would like to anchor on your body or even use some type of other signal which means this is the state and locks it in.

Reminder:
You will anchor the state just before reaching the climax of the Peak so that you get the full effect of the association.

If you go past the Peak the association will be on its way coming down again.
You can do this very easily and quickly and each time you fire it, you will experience the state again and again.

Anchoring is One Trial Learning, it doesn't have to be complicated. It sticks unconsciously so don't over think it.

Having an anchor that you designed will override any opposing neurology.

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Which way are you Going | NLP is Fun

Movement Changes Everything doesn't it ?

If you are not moving, you are not making progress, because nothing is changing.

When you move your Body, you change your state

You could be moving a little, or moving a lot and if you break a sweat, you will really begin to feel a sense of accomplishment too.
But even slow and steady has proven to win the race.

I felt a great sense of accomplishment today because I challenged myself to go Hiking after my morning work out and it felt great.

Movement is Action and Action is Movement.

I felt good because I went further than usual, and I could feel the stretch.

Make your Movements and Actions to all go in the direction of your wants.

I felt good because I knew I was conditioning my body and Mind in the area of better Health and well being.

This is one of my main goals at the moment and I am totally congruent about it and committed to it, in NLP Talk we call that Fully Associated.

Plus I was with my son, so I got to spend quality time with him while he was doing the same.

Moving in the wrong direction is still movement so It can create a change but perhaps more of the stuff you do not want.

When you feel unsure and have not made a commitment to what you are going to do, you may move in the opposite direction of what you want.

Sometimes without even realizing it, maybe because you are dissociated = Unplugged from what you really want.

Perhaps because you do not really believe in it yet.

Your Unconscious mind is in charge of the direction you move in, so make sure you are supercharged and plugged into what you have committed to.

Step into it and act as if your every step is moving you towards it, this is much more important that what you are hoping to change or avoid.

You want to make sure all of your attention is plugged in to what you want.

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Jack of all trades or Master of None | NLP is Fun

Lets Talk about Goal setting 

One of the many great things about NLP is that Neuro Linguistic programming goes to great lengths to help a person become accurate in their Goal setting.

For example like when we create Well formed outcomes  which I wrote about in detail some time ago.

What I have found with most people is the habit of being too abstract in what they want. 

One of the reasons I think this happens, is because they have not yet connected their conscious and unconscious mind as one.

Be Congruent in your Goal setting.

They do not yet have an internal alignment or in other words an unconscious congruent belief, that their goal is attainable.

In the meantime they find themselves focusing on what they do not want, and the impact of not having what they want.

For that reason I wrote 10 Steps to congruent Goal achieving which is an abstract way of getting into the state of Daydreaming and then noticing and connecting to smaller chunks.

The majority of this process is Self Hypnosis which is a stress free, relaxed unconscious way.

This has been really helpful to do before attempting to drill down to NLP Well Formed outcomes.

Be Precise in your Outcomes:

I have found that Precise Goal setting is great to do in that order.

The Key to become more resilient in maintaining the action needed to succeed in any Goal is:

a) knowing exactly why you have this Goal, why it is important  

b) what is the driving force of ongoing internal motivation of your actions.

This will make all of the difference, on your journey of implementation.

So connect to the very reason that your Goal is so important to you, there is a great chance that your Goal is connected at some level to one or more of your Values even at an identity level.

Refine what you Mean:

For example in the work that I do, Treating the Whole professional from the ground level up.
It didn't just come to me in a hap hazard way, I went though a process of finding out what exactly and specifically what it was that I wanted to focus on and Specialize in.
Here is how I discovered this, I began by:

1) Understand my own experience. 

2) A insatiable desire to improve myself, 

3) After making progress I wanted to share my discoveries and help others in a generalized way

4) Then I wanted to Improve how I communicated with people to perfect the process of helping them

5) Then I wanted to learn how to Influence other people to be motivated enough to create the change

6) Then I wanted to experiment with new things I had discovered by doing my work

7) Then I wanted to turn my work into particular systems I could share with other people

8) Then I wanted to make my systems holistic, simple, plus efficient

9) Then I realized the people I mostly liked helping were professional people who were interested in helping other people.

10) Then I wanted to just Focus on helping the professional service people who shared  similar values to me.

So as you can tell, it is a constant refining process isn't it, to decide what is Important and why and then to continue shaving bits off.

Specialize in what you love doing

When you first learn NLP, there is so much you can do you may be tempted to try to Fix everything and everyone.
Instead Decide who you enjoy working with the most and consider specializing with that particular group of people. Get specific about who they are and why you enjoy working with them.

My Story 

When I very first started doing NLP my ideas were quite different, than they are today. They have evolved into using NLP at a more unconscious level because NLP really is a Spirit or an attitude of cooperation. 

I design new processes and create strategies that speak to the specific work I do. With NLP there is so much I can do, and to this day I am beyond grateful for the technology I have under my belt .

By doing this instead of being a "jack of all trades", I can become the Master of the skills that I like to use in my work.
Because as I continue to learn and study daily. I improve in my specific area, which actually is an ongoing thing.

I find that this creates Better Sales people, Better Leaders, Better Business People, Better Executives, Better Influencers, Better Coaches, Better Presenters etc.

These are the people I find myself working with the most and since I always work with them, I perfectly understand their experience.

This helps me to stay energized and focused to do what I love, and plugged in to my most creative natural abilities and talents.

Because of this, I have been able to develop People who are more comfortable in their own skin, more confident, with better self esteem, Self worth, more adaptable and excellent communicators.

Who are Self motivated, High achievers that expect the best for themselves and challenge themselves for excellence every single day.

Specifically because they are able to achieve more consistent resourceful States for a longer duration of time.

Goal setting Summary:

To recap here is what I suggested.

1) 10 steps to congruent Goal Achieving

2) Well Formed Outcomes

3) Find your Compelling motivation (based on your Values)

4) Fine tune the Real Outcome

5) Shave the bits off that don't apply to you 

6) Focus on being a Master instead of a Jack of all trades

7) Continue to learn every single day 

8) Teach and develop other people with your knowledge

9) Create a more efficient process

10) Continue to refine and improve

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Rhythm, Rhyme and Hypnosis | NLP is Fun

There are some Tunes that get your Body moving at such an unconscious level that you may not realize you are even moving.
It could be a small Tapping of your Feet, Fingers, Toes, Head all moving in time to the Beat until suddenly your whole body is moving  and you are dancing.

Here is a clip of some music that has that effect on me.
It is interesting to note that not only is a Phat beat (Rhythm) But a heavy Dose of Rhyme too and as if that were not enough there is a confusion induction going on with the background singer too...

Delicious isn't it .. now if you were to listen to the story he was telling you would find yourself in total belief of the lifestyle he is talking about.

Welcome to Hypnosis, Hypnosis is very simple and there are tons of ways to hypnotize people and today we are speaking about the effect of Rhythm and Rhyme in your Hypnosis


Obviously here is a very Sophisticated Example of Rhythm all of the people in the video are demonstrating extremely harmonious Rhythm.
Rhythym is a natural Phenomenon actually, there is a natural Rhythm that exists before we put compnants together and call them Music

Howard Goodall says that rhythm recalls the heartbeat heard in the Womb or perhaps our pulse or a memory of how we walk, in any case it is such a large part of our unconscious programming.

Apparently Rhythm is a totally human phenomenon. It is interesting to watch babies as they first learn to control their movement and begin to concentrate on an outward expression of Rhythm by moving their bodies in Time, front and back or side to side.

"This Music of life" is a Circadian Rhythm that unconsciously exists in our Brains throughout our day and night.


Culturally there are many definitions as to the structure of rhythm, but intuitively we all know what Rhythm is, That it is something that comes from within and often connects to another source of Rhythm externally.

When you speak in a Rhythm with a Tone and Pitch that compliment each other you tap into a natural and unconscious pattern in people that seems to make sense to our unconscious brain.

Think for example of a southern Accent and the rhythmic lilt you will hear if you listen to somebody from Trinidad for example.

Rhyme over Rhythm what could be better ..

We have been Listening

Since before we were breastfeeding

To tall tales and nursery rhymes

We were rocked ,fed and cuddled through the night

And we intuitively know how to help others feel alright

Let us bring back some of that  fantasy

Rhythm, Rhyme and Energy

It will make our own hypnosis better

We can think of lots of ways to become even more clever

Imagination is all it takes

There is no way to make a mistake

Play with words and weave a story
Always Be creative and never be boring

And practice it until you are done

Because NLP is Always Fun !

Nadia Harper.

Have fun with your Hypnosis and make some of your own Rhymes and let me know how you get on.

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Nadia Harper is a Licensed Trainer of Neuro Linguistic Programming with the society of NLP.
Having Trained with Both Richard Bandler and John Grinder.

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NLP a Wealth of Confidence

Did you know by using NLP you can and probably will become more confident ? Chances are you have a certain amount of confidence right now....

It can be that the confidence you do have is not positioned in the most useful slot .. i.e:
"I am am sure I do not have any confidence"
"I know for sure I do not have enough confidence"
"I know I can improve on my Confidence Levels"

Are demonstrations of Great Confidence .. In the area of not having  enough confidence.

Confidence is a Structure of Thinking, a Pattern, a Sequence of behaviour, a Habit.

So it is not that you do not have enough confidence, it may be that you would like to expand your use of Confidence to other areas of your life that you Believe you can Improve on.

We all have things at in which we feel stronger at than others. Perhaps it even boils down to exposure, we may find a certain thing easier than another.

A person may be more confident in Dancing than Algebra or Vice versa.
Thinking about How you may not yet be especially good at a certain thing, can make it worse because we may begin to focus on our Lack of Exposure and eventually Feel bad and say unkind words in our heads that scare us.

We may even sort for other things we have little exposure to and begin to bundle the whole lot into a ball and begin to loose respect for ourselves in general and make the "Lack" Bigger than the Things we feel confident at.

Sometimes we can amplify and distort our perceptions to the point that they become "Giants" and seem to be the only relevant issue .. We may super size them so much that they take up all our Vision and we cannot see past them. We make become "Stuck" or Depressed in these Distortions. They may "Consume us" or "preoccupy" our minds

These Distortions are "Mangled Beliefs", which have become Larger than Life and grown legs, our Imagination has created monsters out of them and they can become stronger as we focus on a lack of resources and set a sequence of Internal Dialogue on Auto play.

The more we think about them, the worse we can feel until it can grow and grow and grow ... even to the point of a Phobia in some cases.

Does this sound familiar ?

The Pictures and Words in detail create very distinct shifts in our perceptions, the way we communicate to ourselves affect our Moods.

We can alter Submodalities and change the way we are perceiving  the current experience, we can improve the way we are feeling instantly.

For example if your thoughts become larger than life begin to close your eyes and visualise how they play out and what picture story boards you are creating, it is fun to make them much smaller and Far away and notice how this impacts your Feelings about stuff you are Good at.

What about Making Brand New Pictures:
What Would you Look Like if you were Confident
What are you doing
What are you wearing
Where are you
Who is with you
What are they saying
What Tonality, Rate and Pitch works for you Find it and Use it
See People admiring you ( If that is important to you)
Include the Bottom Line end results of what you expect to Gain
Have Fun making adjustments just for the heck of it
Keep Going until the Feelings Change for the better and stick

See, Hear , Feel yourself with it ... Step into the Technicolour, Feature, Length, Wide screen, Movie in surround sound of you being Confident and make it larger than Life.

Make yourself Large and a Person or situation you Fear Tiny Tiny and Peer Down at them as if from a Tall Mountain Richard Bandler says You should Visualise yourself as a Puma and Say "YOUR ARSE IS MINE" ....

Or Hear A Massive and Powerful Choir chanting your words when you speak or move.

You can create a Theme Song for yourself  Every Time you Move you should Hear it ... what about Jaws that changes things doesn't it !


Or One of my Personal Favs "Rocky" Gonna Fly Now !



There are lots of things you can do to feel better in any situation and especially with NLP.
If you consider A lack of confidence is a Belief, and Your pain or Pleasure will come from how you have put that belief together.

The structure of the belief if you like, has to do with:
What a person said at a significant time,
How it influenced you,
How you Felt in that moment
Why you experienced this Feeling
What you saw, smelled, Heard
What that reminded you of and triggered
The words and pictures you  made inside after that,
What that reminded you of and more

Hay Presto ........ what a Mess tho !

It is super cool to know that your Beliefs are Opinions and everyone has their own, so yours can be adjusted until they work toward getting what you want instead of adding to your unhappiness.

NLP is like a recipe Book for playing with Beliefs, Perceptions, Values and how all these things are being processed by a person, at any given time.

There are several patterns we can use to change specific perceptions, and depending on your own unique experience is how I would decide which one to use, sometimes you may need to use several and quickly.

Sometimes I Jumble and twist Patterns from the script, just because NLP is about Subjective experience as we are all wired differently and there are many factors that make up your unique Map of the world.

Step into a pattern that works for you.

NLP has an Arsenal of Techniques for all kinds of categories if you would like to learn more about NLP and how it can help in your own life I am happy to consult with you private and confidential.

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NLP Sales Coaching with December Bonus Offer

Recently I have worked with a series of People whom I have helped with Sales Coaching.
I have been asked repeatedly "How come you don't have a Sales Coaching Package", so after Much Thought I have designed a Sales Coaching Package of the NLP s Fun in Las Vegas Site.

Here were some of the things I took into consideration:

Pricing
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Initial Consultation Bonus
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NLP | Well Formed Outcomes Explained | NLP is Fun

One of the most important Processes we can Do is really Get Clear with our Wants and Desires.
Before doing this exercise you can make sure you are congruent and really clear with This exercise 

When Goal setting in NLP we Chunk Down to the most Minute Detail, until we can actually have some real markers to Calibrate our Progress along the way, and have gone through Mental Drills of what Having it, would really be like.

I invite you to take some time and work on this exercise by yourself, Get Really Clear about what you want.
Your Well formed Outcomes Need to be:

1. Stated in the Positive.
i.e: I will achieve Excellence as a Professional Ballroom Dancer.

2. State what YOU can do and maintain (Independently).
i.e: When I complete the state Levels and win, I will then go on to practicing 4 hours a day and hiring a dance Coach to become more competitive.

3. Context, Where, Whom, and When. 
i.e: I am going to Win the Championships in Ballroom Dancing next March in Las Vegas at the Venetian, Rob and the rest of the crew will be there.

4. State Specifically in Sensory Based Language.
i.e: I will see myself wearing a beautiful Pink Dress while being handed the Trophy for the Gold, I can hear the crowd cheering and calling out my name, I feel elated on Cloud nine.

5. Sequential Bite Sized Chunking.
i.e: starting today I will practice 2 hours a Day, when I win the state Level, I will then step my game up and go to 4 hours a Day Practice, 2 between 8-10 am and 2 at 6-8pm, I am going to hire Carlos who I have already spoken to and from there I will .....

6. Be Specific and Include necessary resources.
i.e: According to my Funds I have enough money to cover me till the state Championships, at which time I am expecting to gain attention from a Sponsor, I have already spoken to ...

7. Specify Sensory specific Evidence of Achieving outcome.
i.e: When I can feel the Cold Gold Trophy in my hands and my heart is beating fast and I can hear myself say I just want to thank My Mum, then I will have achieved my Outcome.

8. Associate to Motivation for Outcome, and make it compelling.
i.e.: I am looking forward to the $500 k prize and all the sponsorships I will be offered .. I will be Rich !

9. Ecology Check - Does this fit your overall Functioning.
i.e: I am Ecologically Sound, I do not have a Baby or a Husband and I have always wanted the adventure so I can still respect my ecology.

You can do this List for every Goal you have, It really challenges what you say you want and you get the chance to experience and practice it which is great Mental Mastery.

How serious are you about Learning NLP and becoming excellent at using it each and every day, what are you doing regularly to improve ?

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NLP - Rapport Better Connections | NLP is Fun

Rapport as an Unconscious Process
Since we know a larger part of Communication happens under the surface we can lend this theory toward understanding Rapport.
Rapport although can be a conscious process is much more effective when used in an unconscious and elegant Unconscious Competent way.

Kick some Boxes around 

Certainly taking a look at Traditional writings about Rapport is a great start. If one wants to care more than using a Rapport Outline then there is more to understand about Human Connection and Animal Connection and Infact the Energy of Connection.

Thinking outside the Box helps .. In fact I am a huge Box Kicker ... I believe in thinking outside of the Box once the information inside the Box has served a Purpose, That has been performed and duly noted, After all a Box is just a Box ... How many ways can it be used though ?

So What is Rapport Really Then ?
Rapport is a Connection to another Energetic Source which includes an Animal, Plant, Human or any other living entity.
In order to best understand Rapport one should begin the practice of connecting with a Baby or a Dog for example, who only really respond to energy and maybe Tonality anyway.


Why the need for internal Congruence ?
So the most important component for Rapport to work well is how congruent your own internal state is before the external communication begins.
Your internal representations have everything to do with your own state building. The Words, Pictures that you play and feelings these create then grow legs and become Actions.

Thought That Creates a Feeling = Emotion
An Emotion creates an Action ... Good emotions create Actions that support you and Fearful Emotions create Actions that you believe protect you ... these are not things you really want or feel passionately about.

Rapport is a process of using Energy 
My Personal theory is Rapport an Energetic process that  begins as a thought, from the first thought one creates an Energetic connection to the person one is thinking of.

Why Do we speak of Rapport, in any case ?
Rapport gives us a "In" a thick layer of influence with another entity when done well. It allows us more glue to explain our intentions and communicate them as being "Win Win" good rapport engages agreement every step of the way through the process.
Rapport is the basis of Hypnosis and Hypnosis is the basis of Rapport.

Isn't all communication persuasive and therefore Hypnosis ?
Communication is a way of sharing ideas and Good Communication is making sure your ideas stick out and are received well and the entity you are connecting with are happy with it.
Good communication is first set with an intention, and then creative ways to achieve your objective are worked in on the Fly, depending on the responses as you engage.
Good Communication is like a sophisticated Dance, like Salsa or The Tango for example. Many times you can appear to be dancing on the spot and it is necessary to remain Calm and focused during the process. People often loose Good communication with themselves when they are unable to stay calm and focused on the invisible outcome.

If you can hold the thought of your outcome, you will gain the agreement you are hoping for by staying calm and focused.
Slow things way down if you find you are getting hot under the collar and remember the original reason for communication.
Often people can get drawn into emotional clashes because they loose focus of the original objective and get caught up in a spaghetti junction of somebody else's Fear based Thinking + Feeling = Emotions = Actions/Behaviour.
You will put yourself in danger of loosing and not be able to maintain Rapport if your emotions get the best of you.
Instead Stay Calm and wait for the earliest opportunity when you have the reassurance of your opponent you should continue to proceed and see how far you can go expecting to reach the finish Line each time, and being patient and graceful if stopped (Interrupted) and repeating the process until you Win.

Do we Always Need Rapport ?
We always need Rapport, although there are many times when it becomes effortless and happens naturally for example when a person is with somebody they are attracted too or happy with.
Sometimes we need lots because a person can be disagreeable, the best thing to do is create the situation in your mind that you do want, this begin the flow and direction of the Energy. This sets the Intention which is invisible but strongly felt by both parties.


What Happens if we do not have Rapport ?
If we do not have Rapport we "Feel" Uncomfortable around the person who we do not have Rapport with and so do they.
We can call them "Stand Offish" "A loner" and so on.
Again Rapport begins with a Thought and if a person has little or no interest in socializing there begins the heart of the problem.


Can a Skilled NLP'er Find a way to create Rapport ?
Absolutely Every single Time and that has much to do with how a Skilled NLP'er communicates with themselves and develops and maintains their own Internal Representations.
They Should begin to pick up on what is exciting the person and allow them to speak about it for as long as they like and then agree with them, You can easily create an Agreement Frame and many other language patterns that help you to break down the barriers of discontent in other people. Remember you will be constantly Pacing the current Experience and then Lead them where you would like them to go, while using their own examples keep Testing, Keep Calibrating, keep going until you reach your goal.

Sometimes it can take a while, Like a Tug of war the way to do it is change Tonality and get creative sometimes asking the same question in as many ways as you can, always sandwiching in "softeners" that your audience respond well too, you must listen to what is important to the person you are speaking to and sometimes that means finding the integrity of a higher value they have not yet understood for themselves.

Being an NLP'er means you become a behaviour Detective looking for the incongruence between the words, How they are used and the Actions/Physiology/Behaviours and other unconscious Signals.
So it takes practice and skill but each of us begin somewhere right ?
And as I said earlier, Think of it as Hypnosis the more presuppositions you stack the more progress you make toward the direction of your choice.

How do we create and Maintain the best Connections ?
We maintain the best connections by managing our own state and personal Power, Physiology and having patience and commitment to a flexible approach focusing only on a clear end result.
The Pictures we see in our mind create the Feelings which creates the Behaviour ... Always. So make sure you have the right movies playing for the Game you are in Currently.

We pace the current experience and then Lead. we need to use wonderful calibration to understand the feedback that is being transmitted consistently no matter how subtle.
A word about micro expressions: while some may like to study these, I believe way before you will see these an unconscious knowing will occur if you are paying attention, so use micro expressions with a pinch of salt and just note the incongruence and explore further and adapt to engage in a more supportive and conducive way that makes progress with your original outcome.

Is there room for improvement from Traditional NLP  ?
Absolutely, Rapport is about developing a Flexible approach and getting good at thinking on your feet, each person is different and Real Rapport will not be transmitted without congruence.

Use what you like, practice, practice Practice watch how people communicate with each other from afar watch conversations on your TV with the Volume down and understand the connection and if people really are enjoying the experience.

Watch for subtle shifts and more that language can often schmooze over, begin to notice everything about the person you are communicating with.
Rapport begins with the Opening Communicators Intention. followed by great State building way before the first Physical Interaction takes place.

More about Energy and Collective Consciousness
My Belief is that we are all Energy, and can be tuned in, or can tune in to a collective consciousness of Rapport, way before we physically meet any person.
Being in Rapport with ones self lends much to the way in which we can be in rapport with other people ...
So if Feeling good Feels good why aren't we doing it just for the sake of it. And to make it even better we get more of what we truly want when we feel great.

Think of it as a Transmission ..
The most useful of processes is the one that will allow the Operator, and receiver/Transmitter to achieve our end result faster, more naturally, more congruently and more cohesively.

Consider these Questions as you study Rapport 
I would pose the question ... How can the process be improved, How we teach others to expand their understanding of Connection.

What is the Reason Behind Learning Rapport in the first place ?

What Type of Connection is the Operator Looking for ?

Is there any room for significant Improvement, Personally from the operators point of view ?

Is there any Room for improvement Personally from the Receivers Point of view ?

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