Are you focusing on the problem or the solution

So many times when a person has a problem, they tell everyone they meet about their problem.
And the thing about that, is that soon your problem seems much bigger and more overwhelming.
The Solution disappears into the distance.

And you spend your time and energy worrying about the Problem and the consequence of the problem.
Scaring yourself into procrastination and just waiting for the worst thing to happen.

Or you could begin to spend more time and energy focusing on the Solution ... couldn't you ?
How about Telling everyone you meet about the solution.
I used to have that problem until I found that the real solution was making sure I spent my time and energy focusing on taking action and moving toward solutions.

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Hmmmm .. just Imagine if __________ can you ?
I wonder what that would be like ?

You can ... close your eyes, right now even, if you just wanted to see the pictures of that up close for a minute or two and then hear the sounds that you like resulting in changing your feelings for the better.

Of course, it is entirely up you and as you know best I will continue to trust your judgement.
But .... How would that be, having it ... I mean.

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Time for something Different

Welcome to 2013 this may be our first time getting together this year, and a great time for us to concentrate on the really important parts of our lives.

The New Year is a metaphor about taking action isn't it, it can speak volumes about:

A fresh start

A clean slate

A process of renewal

An emergence

A rebirth

A Second chance to do things differently this time around.

The new year is indeed an affirmation, for you to take as you choose.

I wonder what will you accomplish this year, perhaps you will move closer to your hopes and dreams daring even more than ever before to put your own happiness at the forefront of all you do.

It may be that this year, you will learn much more about how you can use NLP in your own life. Changing our own internal representations and creating indestructible belief systems for the better. Putting patterns of behavior where you want them, while dumping out more of those useless habits that held you back in days gone by.

Even now we are a month into the new year and what positive changes have you already began to notice.

I believe just knowing about NLP no matter what experience level is one of the best things that can happen to a person.

Because we can always improve by learning more and practicing, can't we.

How many ways for example can you begin to use your own knowledge of NLP right now. Have you ever taken a moment out to just sat in a comfy chair and think about just how much you already know about the resources you already have within you ?

You as a curious NLP'er, have an indispensable selection of solutions that will enrich your life experience forevermore, as long as you continue to use them.

Becoming a whole person, whatever that means to you, is the first step in personal and professional development.

Finding out what really serves you in a meaningful way and daring to take baby steps at first to make giant progress is the mark of a real champion.

Perhaps not a champion in the sense that we are used to, but a champion to your own liking. Mastering yourself, a champion capable of going for and getting the Gold in your own life.

A solid part of you that you can count on through thick and thin, that shows up in any challenging circumstances.

The ability to master your own mind and be more flexible in any situation will twinkle and glisten long after all of our Holiday decorations have been put away and forgotten.

Daily mastery of your own mind will simply come easily to you, when you begin to practice a Self hypnosis plan.

Self Hypnosis used frequently will work on the utmost levels of unconscious thought processes

that may have been going against the grain.

Also, you may be surprised how writing a positive expectation journal and moving into it will give you a focus and direction in your life which shows up in your unconscious beliefs and actions.

You can also incorporate ever so easy exercises like:

Acting as if

Circle of excellence

Threshold patterns

All of these exercises are greatly improved when you play with your submodalities and if you are having any challenges in those areas remember to Overlap your rep systems to get you stared 

These little habits that you develop when you begin to challenge yourself and raise your own bar repeatedly, really are the difference that make all the difference in the long run.

How many ways for example, can you use NLP to improve your own life ?.

I hope you will consider the importance of your own happiness this year too, and getting yourself to a place where you can say;

“Today was a good day, there was some challenges and yet overall today was a good day”.

A great quote I learned from Oprah was "Persistence over resistance". 

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As many of you know I am also a Firm Believer in Self Hypnosis, and I recently wrote "More than 100 reasons to learn Self Hypnosis" take a look.

Now I know that some of you already know what Hypnosis is, but do you know what NLP is  ?
In case you are wondering how exactly, in fact it will change your life, or how to use it for the best

I have made a list of 100 reasons to Learn NLP for those who are in the process of learning more  about knowing NLP will change your life. This is only just scratching the surface mind you. There can be thousands more reasons that you will find in your own opinion.

1. You will truly feel great, perhaps properly for the first time ever in your life

2. You will finally be able to change your moods quickly and effectively

3. You will feel Empowered for the simple reason you know exactly how to feel better about anything

4. You will begin a journey of understanding yourself 

5. You will now experience people's behavior in a way that doesn't frustrate you 

6. Your Impossibles become Possibles

7. You will see peoples behavior as clues to learn more about how to connect with them

8. People will suddenly think of you as a person who can read their mind

9. You will be able to understand what is not beings said and qualify it

10. You will know how other people actually make a decision 

11. You will know how to motivate any individual after spending just a few moments with them

12. You will become an expert communicator

13. You will know how to continuously Improve yourself

14. You will know what a "Meta monster" is 

15. You will be able to adopt the successful habits of others and get similar results for yoursef easily

16. You will know what questions to ask to get to the real answers you want

17. You will know how to predict a persons next move

18. You will learn how to communicate with a difficult person and influence them to adopt new behavior 

19. You will have the tools to change your whole life, for the rest of your life

20. You will be able to help other people change their minds and their actions too

21. You will be able to do more than you ever thought you could with what you had before

21. You will become better at games theory including Poker and other strategic games

22. You will be able to turn an argument into an agreement

23. You will know how to be be more popular than you are now

24. You will know how to calm yourself down and be confident in a highly stressful situation

25. You will know how to overcome any fear of Phobia

26. You will learn how to really engage with anyone in a short space of time (even those you don't care for) 

27. You will learn what your own problems are and the necessary steps to solve them 

28. You will know how to be a better partner, family member, Employee, Employer than you were before

29. You will find a way to apply NLP and gain success in all your situations as they show up 

30. You will learn how to encourage yourself from the inside out, even on a "Bad" Day 

31. You will know how to go from Goal Setting to actual action each step by step

32. You will know how to motivate others to achieve results with win win outcomes 

33. You will know when and how to speak in a conversation

34. You will Understand much more about what is not being said in communication and why that is important

35. You will know exactly how to make the best decision for yourself

36. You will become a better parent, and relate to children even better than before

37. You will know how to ask for what you want and get it, without having a tantrum with anyone

38. You will Learn how to understand what makes any person more energized, happy and accommodating

39. You will know how to use your own mind more effectively Improving each and every day 

40. You will know how to turn people on or off, you and your ideas

41. You will be able to convince people of things they should or should not do by using their own objects

42. You will be able to use Non verbal communication to persuade other people to make better choices

43. You will be able to suggest unconscious ideas to people that they then act on (for their own good)

44. You will be able to Negotiate more powerfully than ever before 

45. You will learn how to listen to a persons words to know how they secretly feel about their choices

46. You will know when a person is really into you and tuned in and how to keep them there

47. You will know how to find out the real thing a person is afraid of in a negotiation or sale

48. You will know how to gain the tools to improve any business or personal relationship in your life

49. You will know how to get noticed when you were used to being overlooked before

50. You will know how to be appealing to the opposite sex even if you don't consider yourself good looking

51. You will learn how to instantly energize yourself even when you are really tired or down 

52. You will learn how to gain friends easily in any social setting 

53. You will learn how to stop a negative thinking loop that kept you stuck for years in seconds 

54. You will know how to create a vortex of helpful emotions in another person at the drop of a dime

55. You will Learn how to become a better Presenter than before

56. You will Learn how to become easier to get along with no matter how awful you were before

57. You will learn how to change your paradigm quickly changing unhappy programming once and for all

58. You will be able to gauge when you are being effective and when you are not and when to Shift gears

59. You will be able to use language patterns that influence people instantly

60. You will be able to improve your critical thinking and become more resourceful by habit

61. You will be able to reprogram a troubling past event or memory to something much better

62. You will be able to change how you are connecting to your emotions when you are Angry, Sad or Mad

63. You will be able to enjoy better sexual experiences, including gaining more pleasure each time 

64. You will learn how to gain a more youthful appearance, and turn over a new leaf  

64. You will learn how to kick a Rotten habit that you no longer want

65. You will learn how to become the most Influential and persuasive person you know

66. You will learn how to read faster gaining more understanding than ever before

67. You will learn how to become the voice or reason in times of extreme pressure

68. You will know what buttons to push in order to get a direct pleasing win win result

69. You can change the way you are behaving even if you have been doing it for a lifetime

70. You can change your life from fearful to cheerful 

71. You can help a person to feel calm in an extreme emergency 

72. You can help a child to learn better in spite of any learning disability

72. You can help somebody who is stuck in an addiction 

73. You can overcome an addiction yourself

74. You can Make learning anything more interesting and appealing

75. You can teach teams to work well together

76. You can help managers become for effective leaders 

77. You can become more productive personally and professionally, finally overcoming procrastination

78. You can create an agreement of peace even with an Enemy 

79. You can learn exactly how to ace any interview

80. You can learn how to profile the right personality for the right job 

81. You can become a better Physician, Dentist, Nurse, P.A,NP, Hospital Staff

82. You can become a better Entertainer, Actor, Performer of any kind

83. You can learn how to reduce your own stress and start a fresh each time

85. You can learn how to manage your time better

86. You can learn how to be a better Artist, Musician, Dancer

87. You can mend rifts in broken relationships and get them flowing nicely again

88. You can learn how to lead people to do better and want to follow your lead 

89. You can learn how to modify or stop your intake or Alcohol, Food, Drugs, Cigarettes, Sweets

90. You can learn how to change the emotional impact of people who criticize you

91. You can learn how to overcome fears that have held you captive for far to long

92. You can Learn how to achieve the results you want each time and with precision

93. You can get control of your own life with real tools to commit to take daily action   

94. You can impress Everyone that knew you before you were this progressive

95. You can read people's eye expressions and know where they are going in their brain for answers

96. You can create a life story that makes you feel happy and empowered

97. You can Help other people in their lives in a way that changes their whole experience

98. You can shift your thinking that changes how you do everything, and you can keep fine tuning it

99. You can Finally Live the life you were afraid to dream of before

100.You can dare to begin to experience your best year ever

Of course if this doesn't wet your appetite then Email me and I will come up with a vault of reasons specific to you personally and how your own lifestyle will improve after learning NLP.

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About Persistence

"By the Time you achieve success in your endeavor you will already know the value of persistence" - Nadia Harper.

One of my absolute favourite sayings is "persistence over resistance" I first heard that from Oprah whom I greatly admire many years ago. I have learned so much from her and for the last 20 years or so she has been one of my Act as if  mentors.

Another "Act as if" Mentor is Nelson Mandela who set the Bar high for those who walk a long road of persistence.
Can you imagine what it took to stay in jail for his cause 27 long years. A positive Leader who went on to gain the Nobel Peace prize because he ended apartheid and became the first Black South African President who inspired and continues to inspire our own great Leaders all over the world.
President Nelson Mandela continued to have great hope and not fall for all the temptations of giving up his cause to be released from jail.

He has a Clear Vision, Strong Belief and Undeniable Values. One of his quotes is:
 " With freedom comes responsibilities, and I dare not linger, for my long walk has not ended".

This is much different than Trying.
This is Persisting against all odds.

When you are working on executing a Goal part of the planning process of your strategy should be knowing how to hang on in there when things aren't going according to plan.

You can us the T.O.T.E Model as an outline for any of your strategies to success.
Test - Find out the Trigger
Operate - Apply the Intervention
Test - Loop to see if it gives desired result - Keep going until you get it
Exit - When A OK finish and exit

Resistance takes a toll on anyone and is inevitable at some level. Having the energy and mental stamina to hold on and become creative with solutions is  a mandatory part of most any successful process.

The largest part of this is mental mastery knowing how to keep yourself together, How to keep your mind sharp and your Physiology strong and working in your favour.

The Value of persistence speaks volumes about your character, persistence is a discipline that will change your life. It ups your self belief and increases your own self worth.

You can count on your own persistence when you are able to get your mind around it and made up your mind about achieving your desired end result.
Persistence is not for the faint of heart.

What will you persist at today, instead of throwing in the towel when you meet with resistance.

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NLP practitioners are great Storytellers, we engage people via stories that help others change their own internal experience.
Frequently through people imagining themselves in better situations which begins the process of change.

This is Important for everyone who has a desire to succeed.

The Representative systems give us exceptional juice to access Gestalts, bundles of sensory information which make quick work out of having a person connect to an experience and change how they are processing it to create the feeling they are feeling.

Not only That, it gives a sense of experience like it is really happening as you amplify the Representation systems..

From time to time people may tell us "I cannot make pictures", hear sounds, smell etc... has that ever happened to you ?

Or maybe you have been working on a pattern and felt unable to access intensity in a rep system you are less familiar with.

You can train your mind as you practice and familiarize yourself with all rep systems because this is exceptionally useful. We all know Mental drills intensify experience and our mind becomes used to the unconscious programming we loop over and over again.

I will show you how to Overlap your rep systems which is really easy and you will notice, improves with practice.

Let's Do it !
If you are working with another person who seems to be struggling with accessing a rep system:
In this Example the person is strong visually and we are introducing Auditory rep systems into their experience.

You will use your own appropriate rep systems when you do this pattern for yourself.
If you want to learn more about NLP you may want to see this actions speak louder than words.

#1 Gain congruent agreement
Ask them to make sure you have got it right, "so you are saying you are having a hard time with __________________"
a) And you would love to
b) And you feel excited about this prospect
c) And you are congruent in this
d) And you know exactly why this will be useful and important to you
e) And you are ready to now

#2 Begin with favorite Rep system Intensify then Introduce another.
a) (Visual): Great and I bet you can see yourself enjoying this entire process as if you were watching a vivid sunset on a sandy beach with palm trees swaying to and fro, the waves roll in and out as you take the whole scene into your mind.
b) Are you seeing that now
c) (Auditory): Good , and even though it is a peaceful day their is a rustling in the trees as they dance and sway in time to the natural noises of the seaside ..
d) Can you hear that now

# 3 Begin to fuse it by overlapping the intensified experience.
a) Just listen to the rippling of the waves as they tease the toes of the mothers and children paddling before dusk just look at the children, happily giggling and squealing in delight
b) Notice how the colors of the sunset are slowly changing, orange, yellow, crimson, purple and what shapes can you see in the clouds
c ) If you close your eyes I bet you can still see and hear everything including what you hadn't noticed before.
d) How about that, lots to see and hear isn't there

#4 Future Pace and Test 

Remember you can always change habits and patterns that make you unhappy.

Being trained in Neuro linguistic programming affords you a massive tool set to play with.What do you want to do next with your NLP Training You could always do one of these or all of them actually.

How serious are you about Learning NLP and becoming excellent at using it each and every day, what are you doing regularly to improve ?

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How to turn a Mistake into a learning experience with NLP | NLP is Fun

Making a mistake is part of being human, And sometimes we may make the same mistake over and over again. The worst part is sometimes we get so frustrated about our behavior that we tend to beat ourselves up about it on the inside.

Which isn't really very kind and has the opposite effect of being productive. sometimes it will even deter us from even trying new things because we keep making the same mistake over and over again. and then playing it in our mind movie over and over again.

Don't get stuck in a rut focusing on the wrong thing, for example focusing on failure is not helping anything. It continues to disconnect us from the process of changing.

Blaming other people for our own feelings as well as worrying about what other people think about our mistakes is a massive drain of energy and can really pull you out of focus with your original intention.

Make sure you are OK and learn how to be kind to yourself. When we hold higher significance to how bad the problem is we can remain stuck and lose focus of the solution.

Self acceptance and Self love are such important parts of moving on. Quite often once we adopt an attitude of "I accept that I have done this and I don't want to do this anymore" we are forming a new relationship to the problem and have already began the process of moving away from the behavior.
There is a lesson in all of our behavior and it is quite possible we haven't learned our lesson yet.

Even if you continue to make the same mistakes it will feel different while doing it, and reduce the intensity of this behavior until it changes completely.

Mistakes really are just positive learning experiences when you think of it. Everything about this next exercise helps you to unconsciously re frame your behavior and intention.

I am certain you will enjoy this, I used it earlier today and worked through a bothersome experienced which now makes perfect sense to me This pattern is very quick to do and very simple.
I recommend you get a pen and a few sheets of paper or your Diary, Today you are going to be your own coach.

Give it a go, towards the end of it, you will begin to understand in a new way of experiencing, this will be different to how you were experiencing before. Now you can do more of this and less of that ..

The Pattern:

# 1 Identify the Compulsive behavior / Habit
a) Specify what it is
b) Look for a Partner
i.e this causes that - Like I only smoke when I drink or I Always spend too much money when I am with Tracy

# 2 Identify the limiting belief you have that supports this pattern
a) Identify the Belief, or beliefs (my be multiple supporting this behavior)
b) Find out if you are focused on the Habit instead of content (which holds the info in this case) sometimes missing the forest for trees.
c) Find out if a higher Value / Belief / Need override this pattern

#3 Have you ever experienced anything similar
a) make a list of other places this pattern shows up in your life - you may be surprised to notice it as a constant theme in a certain area.
This will also match the supporting limiting beliefs in #2

#4 Compare it to a worst case scenario
a) What could be the absolute pits compared to what you are doing now, how much worse could it be.
b) Find some gratitude in that experience

#5 What are the positive By products of this experience
a) step back and gain a big picture of any positive benefits from this experience
b) Go deeper and look for more gratitude

#6  Understand the Positive Intentions in this Experience Fully
a) Understand exactly what these positive learning's are
b) Is there a way to understand other peoples intentions in this experience positively now
c) List what other peoples positive intentions were in your new understanding

#7 Find some positive meaning to the whole thing
a) Positive meaning #1
b) Has your experience changed on a certain level
c) How has your life improved because of meaning #1, 2, 3 or however many positive meanings you found
d) Are you finding your mind has changed in another level too
e) Can this discoveries show up in other areas of your life to change those positively too

#8 Time to Re - Edit using your brand new positive insights
a) Run through the mistake using your new positive editing tools
b) Notice how you feel now

#9 Future Pace and Edit as necessary
Do you know thoughts are a little bit like pebbles in that we have so many of them some bigger and some smaller,who can keep count. 
Would you say most of your thoughts are helping you or hindering you ?

Remember when people stop making pain a priority, your mind wanders toward pleasure at every opportunity.

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