Wednesday, August 13, 2014

NLP Language Patterns | Non Sequitur Suggestions | NLP is Fun

Lets talk about NLP Language patterns today.
Quite frequently people speak in Non Sequiturs they begin with one statement and attach another seemingly irrelevant statement as a conclusion.

This can be quite confusing and distracting to listen to. It is usually used as a detour, a decoy, the person changes the subject by using this technique and your attention must shift when you allow it to go unquestioned.

Many of today's Reality TV shows are filled with people who use these as everyday language.


If any of you work with Coaching clients or in Management of people these non Sequiturs often shine a light on a Limitation and disconnect in a persons thinking. The person is not connected to their own accountability role, due to a deficit in belief of the available resources perhaps.

On the other hand, they are wonderful to use as a pattern interrupt and a confusion induction in persuasion, covert Hypnosis and Ericksonian Hypnosis.
So let us play with them a little, or a lot ..

Here is what they sound like:

1.You can Hear the Relaxing sound of my voice so you will go into Trance faster with grace and ease
2.Lots of people have had success with NLP and you can Visualize yourself at your Best now
3.Exercise is great for the mind because you begin to notice yourself being even more productive now
4.Practice makes perfect so you can notice becoming even more confident
5.Everyone likes chocolate and having a good night of sleep helps a person wake up early in the morning

Example One:
There are three parts to this sentence:
First part of sentence 1.
"You can Hear the Relaxing sound of my voice"

Then a bridge in the middle
Second part of sentence 1.
"So you will" 

The third part is a totally unrelated end statement
End part of sentence 1.
"Go into Trance faster with grace and ease"

Example Two:
First part of sentence 2
"Lots of people have had success with NLP"

Second part of sentence 2
 "and you can"

End part of sentence 2
"Visualize yourself at your Best now "

Ok, I wonder if you are getting the hang of it now because then you will become more flexible in your own communication.

Have fun practicing these Non Sequitur Suggestions

Tip:
The two statements do not need to have any relationship to each other
It implies that the end result is a conclusion of the first statement
It does not need to make sense
It bypasses the critical faculty
The person goes inside their head to search for understanding of your statement = Hypnosis
Think in terms of rhythm when putting them together.

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Tuesday, August 12, 2014

NLP External Auditory Representation System | NLP is Fun

People who prefer to use their hearing for internal Processing tend to indicate or even point towards their ears.
Their ears are attached and they are attached to their ears.
So much so that while listening their eyes will often shift from side to side.



As in Eye accessing cues going to Auditory Construct = Listen to (Right ) and Auditory Recall = Remembered Info (Left).
The sounds they experience are super important to them which means so are your words and Tonality.
So make sure you are following their own preferred style of communication by listening to when they breathe and speak at their own volume etc.

Their Primary Focus is in this area of processing, in order to understand and be understood faster is to use this Modality as a lead in your communication.

Also they have a quite dense way of communicating frequently in long winded explanations as opposed to direct short and sweet answers.

It could be said they enjoy the sound of their own words, on the outside too.
They also spend a great deal of time listening to their own words on the inside of their head.

If it seems they are inside more than Outside then they will be considered Internal Auditory Digital.
who are influenced by what is going on inside their head more than people who are Auditory and Externally Influenced.

External Auditory are very good at listening and they are looking for the whole story, an extremely detailed explanation, that answers all of their questions in your communication.

The NLP Communication Model 
They are interested in knowing how the whole process works and in what order they can expect it.
Then will do an internal Transderivational search (do you remember the NLP Communication Model ) which you will witness (if you are paying attention) In their accessing cues.

Frequently you will find their breathing responding to the Rhythm of the speakers tonality as they begin to process what they just heard.
This shows them "Trying it on"
If you want them to learn something new it is a good idea to play up to their hearing capabilities for them to be more "In tune" to what you are saying.

Remember if there is a great deal of noise competing with the Speaker, these listeners will become overwhelmed and distracted, so make sure you are in a place where they can hear you clearly.


You may already know that Auditory People are interested in Reading, Learning, Music, and Understanding new concepts.
They may always have a set of headphones on because sound quality means quality all the way around to them.
They are responsive in debates and have their own ideas with which they will want to compare new information to understand it perfectly.

Of course you will also use the Auditory Predicates to use their preferred words that describe their experience.You can re use the ones they have already picked if you like.

If you find that this reminds you of yourself, you can use this simple exercise to change the meaning in experiences you have had in the past that rubbed you the wrong way.
Once you get the hang of it you can use it every time because it is super easy to do.

Here is How to change the Movie Music

If you think about How a Movie Anchors you to the Music which heightens your viewing pleasure, you can do something similar in your own head.

1. Pick a Memory that you were extremely unhappy about.
a)Think about it, while noticing all images and sounds play it till then end as if it is a Movie.
b) Now Take Note of how you Feel after experiencing it all.

2. Pick a Song that is Upbeat (perhaps from a happy movie you liked) or your favorite Dance Tune, or a Hilarious Cartoon for example.
***Please note the new music has the power to change your state in a big way.
I like this one and the best part about it, is that I cannot keep still when I hear it.
Music that changes Physiology has a Massive amount of power for instant State change.
Remember pick the one you prefer.


 3.Now Crank it up at Top Volume so much so that You are feeling pretty Great and then, play the movie again all the way till the end of the song.

4. If you want to, do it as many times as you like, because I bet you your feelings will change each time.
a) Play it until you only have a connection to the Happy Tune
b) Turn the music off when you feel ready and rewind the movie to the beginning and notice how you feel
c) If that tune doesn't work, pick another tune one that you want to play with, maybe Rocky, (Gonna Fly now) which is another empowering favorite of mine.

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Sunday, August 10, 2014

The Mind and Body Are One System | NLP is Fun

One of the NLP Presuppositions is that the Mind and Body Operate from one system.
I have mentioned before that your Physiology affects your Moods.
This is a perfect example of this.

They cannot Not affect each other they are undeniably connected. perhaps though we have not yet given this enough attention.
Giving this some some attention today will help you to understand just how important it is to all aspects of perception.

Mind Body = Nervous system the Neuro in Neuro Linguistic Programming.
The maximum impact in our beliefs is created once we connect (Associate) to our sensory experience our Neurology.

Our unconscious mind is driven by our Neurology, we respond from the fused synapses in our own hard wiring.
Our automatic roads to behaviors that have held your attention for long periods of time, perhaps decades.


This further explains why a Placebo will work giving a person the Placebo effect.
Mind affects Medicine and wellness, take a look at some of the extra ordinary work Deepak Chopra and Bruce Lipton are doing in this Area.

Mind affects Heart in situations of Love, Like, Hate, Happy, Sad these perceptions are inter changeable with physiological responses.

Mind affects perceptions of Possibility in situations like  Dating, Interviews, Sales, Relationships, Money and what a person believes it is more likely to have.

All of these perceptions are inter changeable with Physiological responses.

The Self Love Process
Meditation
Fear
Happiness
Surprise
Excitement
Self Hypnosis
Breath
Heart rate
Connection to self
Connection to new Idea
Physical Movement
All change perceptions in the mind too

If this is true then, our beliefs are far more important that we ever believed before, aren't they?
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Friday, August 8, 2014

Which way are you Going | NLP is Fun

Movement Changes Everything doesn't it ?
If you are not moving, you are not making progress, because nothing is changing.
When you move your Body, you change your state
You could be moving a little, or moving a lot and if you break a sweat, you will really begin to feel a sense of accomplishment too.
But even slow and steady has proven to win the race.


I felt a great sense of accomplishment today because I challenged myself to go Hiking after my morning work out and it felt great.
Movement is Action and Action is Movement.
I felt good because I went further than usual, and I could feel the stretch.
Make your Movements and Actions to all go in the direction of your wants.
I felt good because I knew I was conditioning my body and Mind in the area of better Health and well being.
This is one of my main goals at the moment and I am totally congruent about it and committed to it, in NLP Talk we call that Fully Associated.
Plus I was with my son, so I got to spend quality time with him while he was doing the same.


Moving in the wrong direction is still movement so It can create a change but perhaps more of the stuff you do not want.

When you feel unsure and have not made a commitment to what you are going to do, you may move in the opposite direction of what you want.
Sometimes without even realizing it, maybe because you are dissociated = Unplugged from what you really want.
Perhaps because you do not really believe in it yet.

Your Unconscious mind is in charge of the direction you move in, so make sure you are supercharged and plugged into what you have committed to.

Step into it and act as if your every step is moving you towards it, this is much more important that what you are hoping to change or avoid.
You want to make sure all of your attention is plugged in to what you want.

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Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Immerse yourself in NLP

Learning Neuro Linguistic Programming is a Process, which means it is an ongoing habit. The things that you already know well, you can perfect them.

The things that you have not yet learned can be understood and embraced by your unconscious mind congruently.

The best way to learn NLP is to begin to "Try it On" this means experiencing for yourself before thinking about applying the intervention with another person.


As  you begin to learn a new pattern for example, you can wonder how many ways in which you can use it. If you were to use it as a filter for a whole week, let's say you would get tons more mileage out of it.

Sometimes when I meet people who are interested in learning NLP, they want to have known it all Yesterday!
While I do understand NLP is the sexiest tool set I know, to know it is to experience it and really more than anything to live it.

It really is a spirit, a way of processing experiences, and a different way of responding to things, a new way of believing and thinking in terms of unlimited possibilities in every single area of your life.

This will not happen over night, although if you persist in practicing and applying it will happen and will only change your whole life experience for the better in  every way imaginable.


I encourage you to be kind with yourself in learning NLP, take your time and immerse yourself in it. Wrap yourself up in a cozy blanket of NLP and Hypnosis and wash your bad habits away with persistent application.

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Friday, April 25, 2014

Jack of all trades or Master of None | NLP is Fun

Lets Talk about Goal setting 

One of the many great things about NLP is that Neuro Linguistic programming goes to great lengths to help a person become accurate in their Goal setting.
For example like when we create Well formed outcomes  which I wrote about in detail some time ago.
What I have found with most people is the habit of being too abstract in what they want. 
One of the reasons I think this happens, is because they have not yet connected their conscious and unconscious mind as one.

Be Congruent in your Goal setting.

They do not yet have an internal alignment or in other words an unconscious congruent belief, that their goal is attainable.
In the meantime they find themselves focusing on what they do not want, and the impact of not having what they want.

For that reason I wrote 10 Steps to congruent Goal achieving which is an abstract way of getting into the state of Daydreaming and then noticing and connecting to smaller chunks.
The majority of this process is Self Hypnosis which is a stress free, relaxed unconscious way.
This has been really helpful to do before attempting to drill down to NLP Well Formed outcomes.

Be Precise in your Outcomes:

I have found that Precise Goal setting is great to do in that order.
The Key to become more resilient in maintaining the action needed to succeed in any Goal is:
a) knowing exactly why you have this Goal, why it is important  
b) what is the driving force of ongoing internal motivation of your actions.

This will make all of the difference, on your journey of implementation.
So connect to the very reason that your Goal is so important to you, there is a great chance that your Goal is connected at some level to one or more of your Values even at an identity level.

Refine what you Mean:


For example in the work that I do, Treating the Whole professional from the ground level up.
It didn't just come to me in a hap hazard way, I went though a process of finding out what exactly and specifically what it was that I wanted to focus on and Specialize in.
Here is how I discovered this, I began by:

1) Understand my own experience. 
2) A insatiable desire to improve myself, 
3) After making progress I wanted to share my discoveries and help others in a generalized way
4) Then I wanted to Improve how I communicated with people to perfect the process of helping them
5) Then I wanted to learn how to Influence other people to be motivated enough to create the change
6) Then I wanted to experiment with new things I had discovered by doing my work
7) Then I wanted to turn my work into particular systems I could share with other people
8) Then I wanted to make my systems holistic, simple, plus efficient
9) Then I realized the people I mostly liked helping were professional people who were interested in helping other people.
10) Then I wanted to just Focus on helping the professional service people who shared  similar values to me.
So as you can tell, it is a constant refining process isn't it, to decide what is Important and why and then to continue shaving bits off.


Specialize in what you love doing


When you first learn NLP, there is so much you can do you may be tempted to try to Fix everything and everyone.
Instead Decide who you enjoy working with the most and consider specializing with that particular group of people. Get specific about who they are and why you enjoy working with them.

My Story 

When I very first started doing NLP my ideas were quite different, than they are today. They have evolved into using NLP at a more unconscious level because NLP really is a Spirit or an attitude of cooperation. 

I design new processes and create strategies that speak to the specific work I do. With NLP there is so much I can do, and to this day I am beyond grateful for the technology I have under my belt .

By doing this instead of being a "jack of all trades", I can become the Master of the skills that I like to use in my work.
Because as I continue to learn and study daily. I improve in my specific area, which actually is an ongoing thing.

I find that this creates Better Sales people, Better Leaders, Better Business People, Better Executives, Better Influencers, Better Coaches, Better Presenters etc.
These are the people I find myself working with the most and since I always work with them, I perfectly understand their experience.

This helps me to stay energized and focused to do what I love, and plugged in to my most creative natural abilities and talents.

Because of this, I have been able to develop People who are more comfortable in their own skin, more confident, with better self esteem, Self worth, more adaptable and excellent communicators.
Who are Self motivated, High achievers that expect the best for themselves and challenge themselves for excellence every single day.

Specifically because they are able to achieve more consistent resourceful States for a longer duration of time.


Goal setting Summary:

To recap here is what I suggested.
1) 10 steps to congruent Goal Achieving
2) Well Formed Outcomes
3) Find your Compelling motivation (based on your Values)
4) Fine tune the Real Outcome
5) Shave the bits off that don't apply to you 
6) Focus on being a Master instead of a Jack of all trades
7) Continue to learn every single day 
8) Teach and develop other people with your knowledge
9) Create a more efficient process
10) Continue to refine and improve

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