Why Try | NLP is Fun

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That being said we do not do Try here. Neuro linguistic programming has given us the resources to decide how to drive our own bus. 

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"Why Try" when a person says "I will Try" they are in two states at one time these states are something like: 

• I do not believe it will work or that I can do it but I will try anyway.
• I will do it even though I cannot do it and I am not even sure I want it but I will try anyway.

This is incongruent and conflicted how much effort is going into the result. as opposed to the internal dialogue that doubts it can be done.

For me the greatest problem is in the Expectation, they do not congruently expect to succeed and they have not yet made an actual decision, or maybe they have but it is a secret.

Have you ever seen this being muscle tested ? it turns out the operator gives a very weak "Try" effort compared to when they make up their mind to do it which is a very strong and certain Muscle test.

Try to open your car door to get in, or Try to open a can of soup you would like to eat for lunch. What happened on your visualization did you achieve it or did you loop the movie over and over and over.

There are two things happening here Two states and one is moving toward and one is moving away from.

Do this Experiment if you find you have reasons not to that you have not "officially" committed to.

Just Try to visualize yourself having achieved it. what ever it is first. at the very least you will have gained more information as to what the real issue is. At best you will achieve it. and as Nike says Just Do it !

On the other hand many of us will use Try as a Negation language pattern, "Try not (or don't) to enjoy this as much as I know you would love to". it is super hypnotic isn't it. and the listener has to take a course of action if they want to get the conversation back on track,

Many of us believe "Try" means do not. and if a person uses it hears a watered down version of  "I will not ____________"!
For sure as a coach I believe it will be more resourceful to think of the client mismatching themselves. and look for further themes that repeat this pattern. where else does the client mismatch or contradict or polarize.

Calibrate Test Operate Test Exit. I welcome your thoughts on this matter

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Coupled Words two by two | Hypnotic Language | NLP is Fun

NLP is Fun in small chunks that lead to massive shifts and using "Coupled Words" is a Hypnotic Language pattern that can get really good Trance, remember to remember a Trance is specifically getting attention. Any person is generally in their own Trance already, we can always do something to get their attention and bring them into our Trance.  

A desirable trait of Neuro Linguistic programming is to learn how to become a conversational Hypnotist. To take every opportunity to captivate and tranceform using language. Because we are agents of change NLP Practitioners notice language often quite literally Especially when people are talking to us (Meta Model) and artfully Install language Ambiguously (Milton Model) as we are creating a change within a client.

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The more you expose yourself to becoming a highly skilled practitioner of Neuro Linguistic programming the more you will find yourself naturally using NLP Patterns and even become a skillful Conversational Hypnotist.

The more resources you have the better and more prepared you will feel and the deeper your subjects will go into Trance.

Let us have some fun, then with this exercise.

Coupling Word Two by Two:

Example:

It is ... You know ... Interesting that ... When you ... Change that ... Everything Changes .... Doesn't it .....

Many people already speak like this naturally as they are thinking and putting a sentence together you may have noticed this.

Say just two words or even three, the real pattern is how it begins to form, its own pattern and the unconscious mind will respond well to this as the listener pays closer attention.

It Draws the listener in to anticipate and pay more attention or even guess what is coming next.

Try this .... for yourself ... and see ... what happens ... next you ..................... may find .... it works ...... well for ......................... you too.

So I hope you enjoyed this small chunk to add to your resources, have you used this yet and how has it worked for you.

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Ask this question | Emotional Shifting | NLP is Fun

 Ask this question as an NLP Coach and or Hypnotherapist and begin the process of change and Transformation instantly.

As a skilled Neuro linguistic programmer the more pattern interrupts you have at your finger tips the more creative you will be.

This one Emotional Shifting Hypnotic question will allow your client to go inside and continue the resolution process this breaking the pattern of "Holding" the Problem.

This language pattern is quick, efficient and easy it is a constant thought provoking tool that works in the right direction during the course of any session.

Credit for this pattern comes from The Language Pattern Bible by Kerin Webb p732 and it is called "Emotional Shifting" 

When a Client says " I feel lonely" the NLP Coach will say "And how do you feel about feeling lonely" it is a very simple way to redirect the thinking of a person who is saying they "Feel ______________ " of course the goal is to allow the client the space to discover new solutions inside of them and this creates a framework for that.

Speaking to you as an NLP Trainer, I have discovered the simpler the language pattern the more comfortable you as an NLP Coach and NLP Practitioner might feel using it. 

Try it on for size and ask yourself this question first, so you know how it feels and you have experienced it before.
Be sure to remember to ask this  question to your client the next time they seem to be in a pickle and looping an unhelpful pattern.

Here is another example of how to use it.

Client says "I feel _________"
Coach says " And how do you feel about feeling ___________ "

Have you used this pattern before, It reminds me quite a bit about Clean Language. Let me know how you like it and if you are using it now.

10 Steps that Powerfully transform your Emotions in 4 Minutes | NLP is Fun

10 Steps that Powerfully Transform your Emotions in 4 Minutes 

Neuro linguistic programming is perfect for creating lasting and effective change. With your emotions as well as helping other people to get out of a "stuck state" too.

We call this Changing your state or State change and much of NLP is about going from one state to another depending on what you want. It may be that you want to break the pattern of one state and then go into another state that leads to a "Chain" of reactions all leading into the congruent elements of a desired state.

Or perhaps you can go from an unhappy state state into a cozy state and now the original problem is not being experienced and there is now room for other possibilities. I am sure you know there are Infinite possibilities and they can often be found once you have shifted your state. If you are experiencing a state of survival the choice more frequently than not appears to be limited.

NLP is fun is all about huge shifts from a Problem to a desired state as efficiently as possible in the least amount of time, and if it is simple and fun it may seem "doable" to more people. Remember a "Trance" is what you are focusing on and it is that which has all of your attention. It is very easy to shift your attention.

Interrupt the pattern by focusing on something you like, and fill in the details of how much you would love that.

Consider the statement "Energy flows where attention goes". This may be a definition of consciousness that sounds something like this: Your reality is subjective to your experience.

What you are experiencing Seems Extremely real and you are experiencing it with all of your attention and highlighting all of the detail.

What you are experiencing with all of your attention may become your "intention" albeit unconsciously. Another way of saying that is you are creating your experience. Your experience is based on your beliefs and your beliefs can very easily change using NLP.

I am sure if your beliefs are affecting your emotions in the opposite direction of what you love, it is worth sourcing a change for the better.

What if it were possible, would you like to create a shift ?

1. Bring all of your attention inward and focus on your breathing pattern close your eyes and desensitize the problem you were focusing on.
2. Slow your breathing down 3 breaths in and 3 Breaths out.
3. Breathe as slowly as you can and focus on holding the breath as long as you can before releasing it slowly.
4. Slow your heart rate down using your mind and speaking it in to being ("I have the power to slow my heart rate down")
5. Think of yourself as having the ability to affect how your body works as well as your mind.
6. watch all of thoughts fly away on the back of a beautifully patterned butterfly right in between their wings for safe keeping ( you can decide later if you still need them or dissolve them).
7. Relax deeper, tell yourself to let it go 
8. Notice the new sensations of calm and relief of relaxation in your body.
9. Decide to feel good because you can and indeed it feels wonderful.
10. Focus on visualizing what you really want while maintaining this state of being.

* Bonus Tip:
Consider Amplifying this great state by spinning your feelings and sitting in the state longer to immerse yourself in it even further and right before your reach peak intensity anchor it using any sensory stimulus like pressing your thumb to your finger or pressing two fingers on your neck.

You will then be able to press it later on and recreate that exact state, it works as a sensory recording of the new state you have created. There are lots of different ways you can "Anchor" a state and NLP is Fun has many posts on it right here on this NLP Blog.

You see, once you have shifted your Physiology you have changed your state. The more you practice with this the better you will become at it.

The beauty of it for me is knowing you can be doing this in your head in 4 minutes.

I hope you have enjoyed 10 steps that powerfully transform your emotions in 4 minutes, I wonder how you are getting on with this NLP exercise now,

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Managing your State | NLP is Fun

 Hello Dear Friends it has been a while hasn't it.

So much has happened in the last two years and our MOW has inevitably shifted somewhat. It feels as if on many levels we have wondered into the twilight zone.  I am sure it has been disruptive for you, too and so how are you doing ? 

"Remember there is no spoon"

In 2020 the Live (in person) Study groups for the most part disbanded as we were unable to have live training or large get togethers at the time.
We have continued to get together online and I will post each event as it comes up for you to attend if you would like to.

In the meantime, please remember there are over 300 and something posts about Neuro Linguistic programming and Hypnosis on NLP is Fun Blog and so please continue to enjoy any of these NLP Training posts.

So for this moment, I would like to remind you as to the importance of  your own self management. You may feel as if the world being "Topsy turvy" creates a sense of Uncertainty for you, and if that is true remember to be the driver of your own bus.

Build Your Own state and Practice your reactions ahead of time 

This means choosing how or if you will become reactive and what that might mean for yourself. In many cases that is something that is better practiced before hand and it might look a little like this:

Create a daily ritual of becoming less and less reactive and more proactive in your own State management. You can Practice maintaining your state in highly stressful situations like this

Emergency pack = Breathing mastery, since it instantly controls Physiology and therefore state. Breath being the fastest was to achieve this. 3X3 deep breaths or 5 solid minutes of deep breathing.
This works best, when you have taught yourself to respond in this way for minor incidents rather than beginning in the middle of a "Fustercluck" that really threw you for 6.

Have fun, and let me know how you get on with it.

Toodles, Nadia x.

NLP Milton Model Presuppositions | NLP is Fun

Neuro linguistic programming Milton Model Presuppositions 

Hello, today on this NLP is Fun I will cover NLP Milton Model Presuppositions.
A Milton Model Presupposition in Neuro linguistic programming is defined as 

"Something which has not been stated but is assumed to be included for the whole statement to be understood properly".

 

1. Subordinate clauses of time
Before, After, During, As, Since, Prior, When, While .... etc

• Before you completely relax, remember to close your eyes and take a deep breath ..
• After you have enjoyed the full effects of this session you will notice this problem has become a thing of the past.
• During Trance you know the feeling of comfort will increase probably before you have even noticed 

2. Ordinal Numerals

Another, First, Second, Third etc ...

• Another 10 minutes will make all the difference to perfecting this steak
• First, sit comfortably inside the Trance Chair and then allow the magic to happen
• Second, now that you have decided to completely relax just enjoy the sensation.

3. Use of Or 

• The Word "Or" between the given choices
• Do you prefer your Chocolate drink Cold or Hot
• Will you design the patio later today or tomorrow
• Does going in a trance now or going all the way down later interest you the most  

4. Awareness predicates

Know, Aware, Realize, notice ... etc

• You may know more about solving this problem than you once felt
• You might be aware that everything is now changing
• Do you realize going into a trance even now is simpler than ever, relax

5. Adverbs & Adjectives 

Deeply, Easily, curious, about ... etc 

• A person can even go deeply in to trance without even knowing how their unconscious mind works
• There is no need to struggle to go into trance instead you may experience it easily now
• I know you are curious about going into Trance aren't you 

6. Change of time Verbs and Adverbs 

Begin, End, Stop, Start, Continue, Proceed .. etc

• As soon as you begin to notice you are relaxing you will be enjoying the sensation of a light trance
• In the end the result is even more important than the process, isn't it
• You can stop enjoying the healing effect of trance at any time, you know

7. Commentary Adjectives & Adverbs 

Fortunately, Luckily, happily ... etc

• Fortunately, you know how you can relax all by your self
• Luckily for you are a great trance subject, and you flop straight into trance
• Isn't it nice to see how Happily you make the best choice for yourself

I hope this was as much fun for you, as it was for me. Let me know how easily you use this and how quickly your results improve now.

Blessings.

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Language Matters - NLP is Fun

Language Matters doesn't it, some people say that Words are just words, those of us whom use words on purpose know the power of words don't we.

As Occultists, Philosophers and Psychologists know Words have magical Effects.

Richard Bandler  - Guide to Transformation page 31 

Words have enormous Power and speak directly to a persons Unconscious mind. If this were not so advertisers and sales people alike would not spend so much time on writing the "Copy".

Words trigger responses in other people, words are hypnotic,  words are influential, words are suggestions.

Your words can create an unintentional meaning in other people, perhaps you did not even mean to, in this Chaos culture of 2020 please think before you speak.

Many of you know I am a LOUD advocate for the Civil rights of Black people world wide.

Of course personally it means something to me, that it may not mean to you.

With that being said, it can mean something to you if you care.
An example of this is, those of you know I love Dogs and Animals. I spoke out quite a bit when people used to say nasty things about Pit bulls and tried to generalize about their behavior.
I care about the treatment of Dogs passionately although I am not a dog.

In this Blog post I would like you to consider that words matter, we could argue about the meaning of words blah blah blah.

I am going to be transparent with you.
Any one of us can find a word that insults another person, this is why words matter.
If you care about becoming an excellent communicator that is not an ***hole.

Think before you speak !
Calibrate the meaning of your communication.

Real eyes words can be substituted for words that  work better within a certain context. you loose nothing, in fact you exercise your skill in being mindfully creative and flexible.

If you put your foot down against it, well in my mind you are on the wrong side of an argument.

Change your words to be empathetic to a persons experience.

Treat people with the dignity and respect any one of us desires.
I love you, all of you. Blessings.

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