Wednesday, November 3, 2021

Why Try | NLP is Fun

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That being said we do not do Try here. Neuro linguistic programming has given us the resources to decide how to drive our own bus. 

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"Why Try" when a person says "I will Try" they are in two states at one time these states are something like: 

  • I do not believe it will work or that I can do it but I will try anyway.
  • I will do it even though I cannot do it and I am not even sure I want it but I will try anyway.

This is incongruent and conflicted how much effort is going into the result. as opposed to the internal dialogue that doubts it can be done.

For me the greatest problem is in the Expectation, they do not congruently expect to succeed and they have not yet made an actual decision, or maybe they have but it is a secret.

Have you ever seen this being muscle tested ? it turns out the operator gives a very weak "Try" effort compared to when they make up their mind to do it which is a very strong and certain Muscle test.

Try to open your car door to get in, or Try to open a can of soup you would like to eat for lunch. What happened on your visualization did you achieve it or did you loop the movie over and over and over.

There are two things happening here Two states and one is moving toward and one is moving away from.

Do this Experiment if you find you have reasons not to that you have not "officially" committed to.

Just Try to visualize yourself having achieved it. what ever it is first. at the very least you will have gained more information as to what the real issue is. At best you will achieve it. and as Nike says Just Do it !

On the other hand many of us will use Try as a Negation language pattern, "Try not (or don't) to enjoy this as much as I know you would love to". it is super hypnotic isn't it. and the listener has to take a course of action if they want to get the conversation back on track,

Many of us believe "Try" means do not. and if a person uses it hears a watered down version of  "I will not ____________"!
For sure as a coach I believe it will be more resourceful to think of the client mismatching themselves. and look for further themes that repeat this pattern. where else does the client mismatch or contradict or polarize.

Calibrate Test Operate Test Exit. I welcome your thoughts on this matter

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