Monday, January 16, 2017

NLP | D.V.P Pattern | NLP is Fun

One of the great things about Neuro linguistic programming, is that you have a chance to get clear with yourself about what you are hoping to achieve. This means you can also become a better communicator.
As a rule, the clearer you are, the more powerful you become. In order to get clear in the first place, you must go beyond a vague outline of what you desire..

If you have an interest in using NLP as a strategy you must connect to all of the information, organize, prioritize and understand exactly what you mean. We call this being fully Associated  to our outcome.
When you do this you will become very clear in fine tuning your communication internally (In your own mind) and externally (While speaking to others).

This is so important to gain leverage in persuading anyone that you are serious about your outcome.
When you are clear about the outcome and you can then learn to believe in it.
Then achieving it, is a natural conclusion for everyone.

Have you ever had a conversation with somebody who has a rough idea of what they want and they have no idea how to explain it to you.
If so you may remember experiencing their confusion leaves you confused too.
Then when they may become overwhelmed and upset and then pass this on to you too.

As an NLP Coach, I am constantly telling Entrepreneurs, Speakers and Sales people to powerfully refine their communication internally to work well externally.
Remember, I always say that maintaining your state is everything. If you maintain your state you also maintain your power.
This pattern allows you to execute your communication as effectively as possible,

If you have been reading "NLP is Fun" for a while, you may know that I am an NLP Trainer who Certifies NLP Practitioners.  
I also teach individual NLP Patterns through "NLP is Fun" NLP Study group.
One of the reasons I first created my NLP Practice group over 8 years ago now was to simplify one NLP pattern at a time in an easy and fun way that everyone can relate to.

In doing both, I have learned to emphasize that the process is also an important part to achieving the result.

The best Process gets you there faster and easier. If you start out with a great process, you can enjoy this as much as the result. With a great process, you can try it on in another context.
If you get creative enough, sometimes the same process will fit another "Situation" too.

My NLP Mastermind members will tell you that you if you know it, you do it.  As Bob Marley said who knows it feels it.
So clarity is essential in all of your processes.

Having a rough idea is never enough detail.
You must be able to see the Big picture as well as plan the detail and they must all fit in together.
This is called Chunking Up (Abstract) and Chunking down (Detail).

Even learning one NLP pattern, that you know how to use easily and effectively leads you to having an open mind about your own capability. When you Learn NLP and maximizing what you have learned you become more experienced in how your NLP Toolset works.
I wonder how much more would your own life would improve when you became fluent in using NLP easily.

My desire is that you have fun with this pattern, and anything else I offer you and fully use it to your own advantage.

The D.V,.P Pattern credit goes to Robert A. Yourell:
(Distillation, plus Vision, plus Passion).

I found this NLP Pattern in Shlomo Vaknin's "Big book of NLP". If you would like more exposure to Robert A. Yourell's interesting work then please enjoy this Hypnotic  "Shimmering" Video sample.
Here we go:

1. Choose the situation to be explored in greater detail.
Turn all of your thoughts into notes to remember on a piece of paper
2. Take a moment to just notice your notes, and ask yourself:
a  "what if I can create more detail here"
b  "Lets prioritize them"

3. Distill the thoughts by chunking down
Ask yourself:
"Which bits if any, are unnecessary"

4. Distill the notes again 
Ask yourself :
"What if I can make it even easier"

5. Distill the notes even more. Take a look at the themes, key points or metaphors that stand out to you. 
Create a slogan now to highlight and trigger this information. (think like a "Mad men" or an Advertising exec).

6. Connect to the information, in such a way that you would be able to add your own flair to it. 
Create some flash card sized talking points that would simply communicate your message. Remember to be as engaging and passionate as possible.

7. Kick it up a notch. Practice speaking to other people while getting your point across.
Anticipate maintaining your power and your message no matter what they throw at you.
Make this into a pitch that you own inside out.
Imagine scenarios where you are using this pattern: This could be in an interview, sale, relationship, presentation or any environment where you aim to be more persuasive.

8. Fully associate to all you have learned while refining this process so far.
Add pieces that turn it into a very smooth an easy conversation. Remember to think win win, while still being calm and strong about getting your point across.
even practice using it with people who you at one time thought of as difficult or opposing to your own desires and visualize them being persuaded by you using this pattern.
Make it an interesting story perhaps and something they can relate to.

9. Take enough time and energy to fully associate to and believe in this process.
Prepare yourself before using it.
For it (or any process) to work wonders you must see yourself as capable and filled with vital energy. Always check your own energy levels and adjust accordingly.

10. T.O.T.E
Practice always makes perfect. You cannot fail unless you stop at a point where it has not worked yet.
Test = Insert process
Operate = And gain feedback while improving and adjusting
Test = If you receive desired result go on to exit otherwise go back to improving and adjusting
Exit = When you are satisfied with feedback.

How serious are you about Learning NLP and becoming excellent at using it each and every day, what are you doing regularly to improve ?

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