What would you Do if you were not afraid ?

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"And if you did know what would that be ?"
Is a Term you may hear in NLP and specifically in Coaching or Personal Development.
This is usually in answer to somebody you ask the following question to:

• "What is your Ideal Life/Situation/Circumstance etc..." and then they might say:

• "I don't know" and then you can say:

• "And if you did know what would that be ? "

It is a great way of taking the weight off the question and so free's up the imagination to answer hypothetically without any real responsibility.

The great thing about this is that the Questions and answers open new ideas and cortical pathways as the answerer has to imagine ... the answer engaging in their own new neural pathways.
Also the unconscious mind goes to work now on the possibilities, when before the options may have seemed plugged/Blocked.

So here is a New one:

What would you do if you were not afraid ?
It sounds like a general question and certainly you could answer it in a general way

You Could say:

• How do you know I am afraid, I am not afraid of anything and then flex your muscles to prove it!
• I don't know and then we could say "what if you did know ?" ..
• You could take a few moments out and think about things that you knew you were afraid of ...
• You could read the rest of this post to find out more about what I mean, if you were not sure.

Believe it or not Fear is used repeatedly as a Motivator in our Western society.

It is often very easy to motivate people to take action by mentioning things they already are afraid of:
Many people are afraid of not having enough:
Time
Money
Love
Happiness
Peace
etc....

And these things show up as manic behaviour driving them to do a certain thing .. More ..

Work more
Relax more
Play More
Drink more
Smoke more
Study more
Love more ...
Have more sex
etc..

It may be to the point that they are missing the point and becoming destructive in their actions, without even realizing it !

For example:

Work more and miss out on fun times
Relax more and miss out on Work
Play more and miss out on responsibility
Drink more and miss out on being clear headed
Smoke more and miss out on exercise
Study more and miss out on living
Love more and miss out on letting others love you
Have more sex and miss out on a for filling relationship

Of course these are just examples.
Usually a behaviour is for filling a higher value.

Example:

Steven works more because he is afraid he will not make enough money for his family
David relaxes every chance he gets because he is afraid of being controlled by others
Mandy plays more than she should because she studied so hard at UNI and she is afraid she will miss out again

etc..

So if you were to take a few minutes and ask yourself What am I afraid of ?

Then make a list of behaviours that stem from this fear.
There may be other things that you are afraid of too, no time like the present to clean house.

One of the things I noticed when I was afraid of was hurting a certain persons feelings ... I went to extraordinary lengths because of it. .. It really got out of hand ;)
In the end, I found it was better for all involved just to tackle the issue and come clean about it.
What sense of freedom I felt when I did that !
You see sometimes we distort the Fear into something so big it takes on a life of it's own!

Take Time out now and Decide:

What would YOU DO If you were not afraid !

Have fun with it.


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Squabbling over Words - - Is This True ?

Here is some Food For Thought, a Very Small and Yet Powerful Chunk:

How do you know, what you know is True ?

Is seems to be an absolute .. a definite, it Is unquestionably decided in the speakers mind and any contrast to this decision can often end badly.
And at Times to the Extreme ..

Is it true do you think that Their opinion is connected to their (Speakers) Values and Belief systems ?

Does that mean if you challenge the word is you are challenging a Speakers Model of the Word, what about Identity, History Existence ?
Can you be sure you know what the Speaker is Experiencing ?


Is this True, How do you know ?
Is it worth Squabbling over .... The word Is I mean ?

It can be quite interesting when you replace the word "Is" for example, in your communication with anything other than  is like:

Could be

Appears to be 

May be

Might Be 

It May

Perhaps 

And so on ...

Robert Anton Wilson Provides more food for thought as he shares his Wisdom on this subject.

If you make a small change it may Lead to a Larger Change.

The Point's Robert Anton Wilson shares in the included Video can provide an indispensable paradigm shift for Some.

Are you Motivated ?

"Change is Good" They say (who are they ?)

At the Beginning of the year many (who) are thinking I should change some things about myself.

What do you really want to change ?

And what would that be like ?

Can you identify the reason that is so important to you?

What is your motivation ?

There may be some things you would like to improve these are generally speaking "Don't wants" for example:

I don't want to be poor - so I should make more money

I don't want to be Fat so I should loose some weight.

Where is the motivation, in many cases moving away from things that have become habits is not so helpful as you are still focused on "Don't wants".

In order to create the "Don't want" it is necessary to first make a picture of it in your mind.

When you make a picture of it, often other things start to happen like:

You  say words in your head to remind yourself of times you may have "Failed" in the past, which creates lousy feelings and sometimes feelings of Overwhelm too, which may result in taking no action as you don't know if it is worth it or where to begin.

How then can you be motivated to create the desired change ?

Think about what you really want ?

What are the reasons you really want it for example:

If I make more money I can be able to do more of the things I love.

What Things are those exactly Tap into the other things you would like to do in the future that making more money will afford.

Once you make pictures of "it" frequently in your head and manifest the feeling of what that would really be like, you are now living through it.

Your unconscious mind cannot tell the difference, it has been proven that Sports coaches who used the methodology of having Team members visualize making goals had greater success on the field than those who didn't.

You can score your own goals at home whenever you like, and build feelings that generate excitement about your experience.

Towards and Away From come from "Meta Programs" we will speak about Meta Programs in greater detail at another time.

The more you Practice the better you become at the game.

Try it on see and if it fits !

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