Monday, March 17, 2014

How to Resolve Internal Conflict with NLP | NLP is Fun

There are many ways to resolve Internal Conflict. which most people experience at some stage or another. Things like Stress and Anxiety can cause loops of internal Conflict that lead to procrastination, indecision and even Panic Attacks, Phobias and Trauma.

These Loops keep a person stuck and unable to move forward asking for action can cause them to shut down all together.
When a person is in a stuck state of Internal Conflict this is a great way to begin to do quick work on a big chunk of Internal mayhem.


I like this because it goes straight to shuffling the Neurology and creating a pattern interrupt immediately. The beauty of this, is that it unravels the construction of the behavior which is Magic Dust to anyone in this type of agony. At the Least, this will loosen the connection to the problem, at the best it will solve the problem so that a person can gain a new vantage point and resume normal functioning.

 Everyone is different and the secondary gain and position of your participant are all contributing factors to your success.
So if you are doing this with somebody else make sure they want to resolve the issue enough for it to be compelling for them.

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This will begin the shift as they can turn their attention to imagine normal functioning, you can ask them what will you do once we have resolved this that you couldn't do before (and have them do a sensory walk through beforehand).

So here is how to get it done.
1. Explain what The Conflict is
This begins to clarify and process any clump of unconnected generalizations which by Transderivational search you have made into a mental Tumbleweed and an unnecessarily complicated problem.

2. Remember a Time when you experienced it and take a Third position as Observer.
Begin to experience a dissociated overview of how the conflict plays out. Perceptual Position 3.
This means leaving all opinions out and no judgement about what you did or felt.

3. Now Experience it through your sensory experience and Perceptions (Position 1) Step into it and fully engage all V.A.K.O.G sensory experience. 
VAKOG stands for Visual = Seeing , Auditory = Hearing , Kinesthetic = Feeling, Olfactory = Smelling, Gustatory = Tasting all of your sensory experience which helps to make it more real. begin to record your discoveries be really thorough.

4. Now Experience it through the alternate or opposing position (Position 2) and step into it and engage V.A.K.O.G sensory experience.
VAKOG stands for Visual = Seeing , Auditory = Hearing , Kinesthetic = Feeling, Olfactory = Smelling, Gustatory = Tasting all of your sensory experience which helps to make it more real. begin to record your discoveries be really thorough.

5. Find out the positive Intentions 
Check both positions one at a time while making notes about the distinctions.

6. Take a Higher (Meta) Position 
Act as if  you are a neutral observer flying above position 1 and 2 continue to examine for further learning and perceptions.
Observe the common threads in overall intention.

7. Begin to understand the overall agenda of what you have learned
Now you can and consider the possibilities of how it is able to cooperate as a separate whole position.

8. Begin to align this new position with physiology 
You can use both hands to bring it in to your heart. Take time out to have your physiology welcome it and integrate this piece as a bridge to cooperation internally.

9. Experience a sense of wholeness
Deep Breathe x 3 and find purpose in your new alignment also future pace for any previous conflict and aim for wholeness in decisive action.

10. Ecology Check 
Make sure all of your Ecology /Values are honored during this process.

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